Intimacy Issues Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Intimacy Issues

Intimacy issues are common for people who fear vulnerability. Some people can become vulnerable in front of a few trusted friends, however, but when a relationship starts becoming too close, they feel suffocated. In this sense, the intimacy issues are seated in the fear of developing a deep and meaningful relationship with another person.

Two fears that are at the heart of intimacy issues, are the fear of abandonment (fearing the partner might leave them) and the fear of engulfment (fearing that they would lose themselves in a relationship), which sometimes co-exist. These fears, often rooted in childhood traumas, are often deeply entrenched in codependent adult relationships where they cause friction.

A therapist who works with people who have intimacy issues will first help you to learn to become comfortable with yourself and accept yourself for who you are. You will explore the complex past events that have created these intimacy issues and discover that those events don't have to cloud your present experiences.

This process is essential in discovering that rejection does not have to be a traumatic experience. Finally, you will learn how to set personal boundaries that will help you to avoid the fear of engulfment and to cope, should abandonment occur. While healing intimacy issues can be a challenging and somewhat painful task, the rewards are incredible.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who addresses intimacy issues, you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) has helped couples and family members to treat distressed relationships, depression and a range of other emotional difficulties. It is one of the most common treatments used in private counselling and psychologist practices, training centres and hospital clinics around the world.

The main goal of Emotionally focused therapy is to create a secure bond between romantic partners and to reorganize and expand critical emotional responses. It helps to improve communication between partners, which is more beneficial to the relationship. EFT is a practical therapy that has been used successfully in relationships and marriages for many years, due to the fact that it creates a spirit of respect and harmony.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy generally only lasts between six to twenty sessions and has been shown effective in 90% of relationships.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, please browse our list of practitioners below..

Note:  Some practitioners practice Emotion Focused Therapy rather than Emotionally Focused therapy.  You will want to confirm that it is indeed Emotionally Focused Therapy that the counsellor/psychologist practices.

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Carly Goodfellow

M.A., RCC
Are you struggling with your feelings day after day? Do you feel life is harder that it needs to be? Are you moving from one unsatisfying relationship after another? I have over 12 years experience as an empathic and... Read more

Toni Pieroni

M.A., RCC
I believe that healing, growth and development occur within the context of relationship. Therefore, choosing the right therapist is a critical aspect of the therapeutic process. I bring over 40 years of personal... Read more

Tanya Elez

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Tanya Elez is a Registered Psychologist and a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist who sees clients at her office in New Westminster downtown. She offers counselling services to diverse couples,... Read more

Sophie McEntee

MFT, RCC
I have a combined fifteen years of training and clinical experience working with individuals and couples. Clients come to me usually when they are feeling stuck, overwhelmed or at a crossroad. My clients are often... Read more

Jan Sutherland

M.Sc., RMFT
Jan Sutherland is an experienced couples, marriage and family therapist with a well established practice in Kelowna, B.C. She provides relationship and marriage counselling to both singles and couples. In couples... Read more

Michele Maurer

M.Sc., RCC
Find Your Resilience! Professional Counselling for Women, Youth, Couples & Families I've been working as a counsellor for 30+ years and still, I love my job! You deserve to live life to the fullest. If... Read more

Jesse Schellenberg

M.A., RCC
Jesse believes that each person has the ability to grow and change. He approaches counselling from a collaborative, empathic and supportive, client-centered basis, using a holistic biopsychosocial model. Jesse believes... Read more

Kerry Moller

M.A., RCC
Many of our clients come in saying they feel disconnected - from their loved ones; their friends; their jobs and themselves.  They feel lonely and separate from those people and things they used to feel close... Read more

Daniele Doucet

Ph.D., RCC
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Dr Daniele Doucet (nee Duplassie) is the Founder and Director of The Shanti Counselling Centre. She is a Registered Clinical Counsellor with the BC Association of Clinical Counsellors, a Certified... Read more

Heather Bach

M.A., CCC
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For over 20 years, Heather Bach of Bach Counselling Group brings clinical expertise to working with those who wish to make a positive change in relationships, intimacy, depression, anxiety, trauma, grief, ADHD... Read more

Amber Louie

M.Sc., RCC
To assist you in reaching your goals, I support you to focus on developing your strengths. As an anti-oppression psychotherapist, I value your experiences based on culture, race, indigeneity, socioeconomic status,... Read more

Paul James

Ed.D., R.Psych
Although the adults whom I assist come with a wide range of presenting problems - such as sexual dysfunctions, mental health issues, relationship distress, and addictions, the underlying problem is that all are... Read more

John Taylor

M.A., RCC
Relationships make the world go round; they can also make your world miserable when things aren't working. I am a trained marital therapist with the skills and passion to help you improve your... Read more

Lauren Shay

M.S.W., RSW
I provide professional, non-judgmental, collaborative support to individuals and couples in Vancouver. By offering a safe and warm therapeutic environment for exploring your unique life challenges, I can help you to... Read more

Peter Vaughan

M.A., RCC
Certified Gottman Method Therapist, Peter frequently addresses couples communication during conflict, restoring fidelity and commitment, or building intimacy and sexuality. Other common issues: ongoing incompatibilities... Read more

Bea Mackay

Ph.D., R.Psych
For 28 years I have enjoyed working with individuals, couples and families. I believe in using methods that are grounded in theory and research. My goal is to help people help themselves. I view people as resourceful... Read more

Diana Sadat

M.C., RCC
From the outside looking in, you have a great sex life but deep down, you’re overwhelmed and feel ashamed of your who you are sexually. Sometimes, it feels like you just keep spiralling down and you’ll never... Read more

Steven Lake

M.Ed., CCC
Dr. Lake has a PhD in Educational Administration. He has a personal interest in emotion and crisis management and created a Model Of Effective Crisis Management for his dissertation. His Master's degree is in... Read more

Natalie Hansen

M.A., RCC
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Natalie Hansen, MA, Registered Clinical Counsellor Walking with you through life's challenges Natalie is a caring and competent Individual and Couples Therapist in Uptown New Westminster. Natalie knows... Read more

Daphne Gelbart

M.A., RCC
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Daphne Gelbart, MA, RCC, is a Vancouver clinical counsellor registered with the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors (Registration # 3290). Daphne is a graduate of the University of British Columbia (UBC... Read more

Kaela Scott

M.Couns., RCC
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I am passionate and excited about the relationships people have with themselves and with others. As a Registered Clinical Counsellor (#3732) I work hard to help people get at the root of what is causing their painful... Read more

Erin Seggie

M.C., RCC
I’m Erin Seggie, a registered clinical counsellor (RCC). I have a Masters of Counselling Psychology (MCP) from Adler University, and a Bachelors of Arts (BA) in Psychology from the University of the Fraser Valley... Read more

Peter M Williamson PhD

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Peter Williamson is one of only 7 officially Certified Gottman Method Couples Therapists in the province of B.C. (at time of this writing - 9/2017). Although extensively trained and with 25+ years of expertise... Read more

Kim Boivin

M.Ed., RCC
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Are you struggling with anxiety? Are you experiencing difficulties in your relationships?  Are you hard on yourself?  I can help.  I offer a compassionate and grounded approach with ... Read more

Mary Munro

M.C., RCC
I can help. I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor practicing in downtown Victoria.  Counselling can help you function better: to feel more effective, to give you insight, to help you meet challenges and live... Read more