Intimacy Issues Counsellors

Intimacy Issues

Intimacy issues are common for people who fear vulnerability. Some people can become vulnerable in front of a few trusted friends, however, but when a relationship starts becoming too close, they feel suffocated. In this sense, the intimacy issues are seated in the fear of developing a deep and meaningful relationship with another person.

Two fears that are at the heart of intimacy issues, are the fear of abandonment (fearing the partner might leave them) and the fear of engulfment (fearing that they would lose themselves in a relationship), which sometimes co-exist. These fears, often rooted in childhood traumas, are often deeply entrenched in codependent adult relationships where they cause friction.

A therapist who works with people who have intimacy issues will first help you to learn to become comfortable with yourself and accept yourself for who you are. You will explore the complex past events that have created these intimacy issues and discover that those events don't have to cloud your present experiences.

This process is essential in discovering that rejection does not have to be a traumatic experience. Finally, you will learn how to set personal boundaries that will help you to avoid the fear of engulfment and to cope, should abandonment occur. While healing intimacy issues can be a challenging and somewhat painful task, the rewards are incredible.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who addresses intimacy issues, you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Note: You may narrow your search by selecting more than one filter below.

Susan Baum

Ph.D., R.Psych
"When we are no longer able to change a situation—we are challenged to change ourselves." Victor Frankl To have my clients take up the challenge to change—this is the power I try to help them... Read more

Colleen Wilkie

Ph.D., R.Psych
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Are you disappointed in your relationships?  Do you feel lonely and misunderstood?  Are you feeling depressed or anxious?  Or, you might be someone who has had therapy in the past but needs something... Read more

Bianca Rucker

Ph.D., RMFT
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Bianca Rucker uses a brief model of psychotherapy and/or clinical hypnosis to help individuals and couples who experience sexual or relationship difficulties. Dr. Rucker is a CAMFT Approved Supervisor and Mentor.... Read more

Jan Sutherland

M.Sc., RMFT
Jan Sutherland is an experienced couples, marriage and family therapist with a well established practice in Kelowna, B.C. She provides relationship and marriage counselling to both singles and couples. In couples... Read more

Kim Boivin

M.Ed., RCC
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Are you struggling with anxiety? Are you experiencing difficulties in your relationships?  Are you hard on yourself?  I can help.  I offer a compassionate and grounded approach with ... Read more
My name is Constance and I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor and a Canadian Certified Counsellor. I hold a MA in Counselling Psychology from Adler University, and a BA in Psychology from the University of... Read more

Kim Watt

M.A., RCC
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Elana Sures

M.Ed., RCC
You're on this site checking out counsellors because, presumably, you want one or many aspects of your life to be going better. Perhaps you are: struggling with a stressful life event and need support and... Read more

Judith Setton-Markus

M.Ed., R.Psych
Judith Setton-Markus is a Registered Psychologist licensed with the College of Psychologists of BC #1712. She is also a Psychoanalyst and Psychoanalytically Oriented Psychotherapist, a member of the Western Branch... Read more

Grant McMahon

M.C., RCC
I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC # 11135) and psychotherapist working in Vancouver.  I can help you if you are struggling with low mood, depression, anxiety/panic, or problems in your marriage or intimate... Read more

Bea Mackay

Ph.D., R.Psych
For 28 years I have enjoyed working with individuals, couples and families. I believe in using methods that are grounded in theory and research. My goal is to help people help themselves. I view people as resourceful... Read more

Olivia Kienzel

M.Couns., RCC
Olivia works with couples & individuals to transform their relationship to themselves, their lives, and the people they care about. She can help you, gently, get to the root of your challenges—and... Read more

Steven Lake

M.Ed., CCC
Dr. Lake has a PhD in Educational Administration. He has a personal interest in emotion and crisis management and created a Model Of Effective Crisis Management for his dissertation. His Master's degree is in... Read more

Joanne Duma

Ed.D., R.Psych
Dr. Duma is a registered psychologist who completed her Doctorate in Counselling Psychology at the University of Toronto. She has extensive experience treating a wide variety of clinical issues including:... Read more

Ellen Abrams

M.A., RCC
Since you're checking out this web site, it's likely that you've tried to work out your problems by yourself but found that it hasn't been so easy or simple. Symptoms like stress, insomnia,... Read more

Kim Burton

M.A., RCC
Attachments & aversions are a great source of suffering. Counseling can help you with this human struggle; habitual reactions to stress. Notice how you contract into entrenched patterns of critical, negative... Read more

Avraham Cohen

Ph.D., RCC
Avraham Cohen, Ph. D., RCC, CCC holds the designations of Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) with the BC Association of Clinical Counsellors and Canadian Counsellor Certification (CCC) with the Canadian Counselling... Read more

Joe Ramirez

M.Couns., CCC
Joe Ramirez is a Canadian Certified Counsellor and an Adlerian psychotherapist with a Master of Counselling Psychology, providing women and men, both, individual and couples counselling.   His approach to the... Read more
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Joachim Sehrbrock

Ph.D., R.Psych
When we feel overwhelmed, stressed, or bogged down by difficult situations or circumstances, it can be tough to see where to go, what to think, and what to do. Often what is missing is being able to see the bigger... Read more

Peter M Williamson PhD

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Peter Williamson is one of only 7 officially Certified Gottman Method Couples Therapists in the province of B.C. (at time of this writing - 9/2017). Although extensively trained and with 25+ years of expertise... Read more

Kerry Moller

M.A., RCC
Many of our clients come in saying they feel disconnected - from their loved ones; their friends; their jobs and themselves.  They feel lonely and separate from those people and things they used to feel close... Read more
There are many reasons why the bonds of our relationships may start to weaken. Perhaps you have been hit with major life changes that no one expected: grief and loss, acute or chronic illness, or overwhelming... Read more

Tracey Dahl

M.A., RCC
The Journey: Get out of the rut Do you feel unsettled, worried or stuck? Do you have a sense that you are in a rut, created from doing the same things over and over, and not getting different results? Maybe you feel... Read more

Marilee Sigal

Psy.D., RCC
Our relationships with our parents, siblings, friends, lovers, spouses and children can be our greatest source of joy, and also provide our most profound experiences of frustration and sorrow. Marilee has been helping... Read more

David Arnell

M.Sc., RMFT
My areas of interest are:Family ConflictDepressionAnxietyFamily issues with addictionRomance repair/Marriage managementDivorce avoidance or mitigationChild/ Youth supportThe recognition of aboriginal wisdomI believe in... Read more

Joel Brass

M.A.Sc., RCC
Joel Brass, M.A.Sc., R.C.C. has been an individual, relationship and family therapist for the past 34 years. His areas of expertise and personal passion are the healing and growth of individuals and love... Read more

Diana Sadat

M.C., RCC
From the outside looking in, you have a great sex life but deep down, you’re overwhelmed and feel ashamed of your who you are sexually. Sometimes, it feels like you just keep spiralling down and you’ll never... Read more

Ron Prasad

M.A., RCC
Hello, my name is Ron and I’m a registered clinical counselor with the BCACC (British Columbia Clinical Counselors Association), and a member of ITAPP (International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals... Read more

Michele Maurer

M.Sc., RCC
Find Your Resilience! Professional Counseling for Women, Youth, Couples & Families I've been working as a counsellor for 25+ Years and I'm still passionate about working with people! You deserve to... Read more