Challenging Times: 5 Ways to Boost Your Resiliency

To say these times are challenging is an understatement. We are facing the complexity of a pandemic, political unrest, socio-economic uncertainty, and a diverse set of other related stressors all at the same time. Many of the associated life changes have been out of our control. Increased discomfort and anxiety are a normal response to lack of control and certainty! So, how are you responding? Here’s a few things that will build resilience and help you not only respond to stressors with a greater degree of strength, but also with a sense of personal growth.

My approach to Counselling

July 24th, 2020

In the initial conversation that I have with new clients I often get a question regarding my particular approach to counselling.  While the answer I give will certainly change over time as I am committed to continue to grow as a counsellor, keeping informed on new interventions and ideas, there are certainly aspects of my approach as a counsellor that I believe will hold steady over time.  

Imagining Beyond the Boundaries

July 1st, 2020

We humans have a remarkable ability that is most often oppressed and suppressed; suppressed by well-meaning others who want to protect you from being dissappointed and hurt, and ensure that you will keep your focus on survival in this material world. You have likely been subjected to, heard others say, and maybe even said yourself, "Get real. Get your head out of the clouds, You are such a day dreamer." These well intended comments have the effect of suppressing/oppressing our creative juice; really your life force energy.

Understanding Why I'm So Anxious, Irritable or Depressed during the COVID-19 Crisis

April 20th, 2020
In: Trauma

Are you wondering why you are experiencing a high level of anxiety? Why you feel on edge a lot of the time? Is it harder to concentrate on work? Are you having trouble getting out of bed? Are you irritable with your significant other or your children?   I’d like to validate you. It makes sense that you are feeling these ways.  

Find Your Inner Peace

March 29th, 2020

In this time of change we are bombarded with information, some factual, some fictional, some designed to get a reaction. If you feel unsettled or fearful, make a decision to be particular about the information you expose yourself to. Find moments in your day to decompress from the intense energy all around us. Sit or lie in a quiet space. Notice your breath. Follow the way your body is breathing. Notice how it feels to breathe in from your nose out through your mouth. Notice the temperature of your breath.

Grief: Simple But Not Easy

October 15th, 2019

Exploring ways to deal with loss When we lose something significant to our life, it is usually followed by grief and while grief’s start point is definite – at that point of loss, or the anticipation of the loss – the end point is nebulous. It may be this uncertain end point that contributes to the pain of grief and the fact that it is a process everyone goes through.

Do you find yourself repeatedly experiencing familiar unpleasant roadblocks in a relationship?

September 14th, 2019

Cynthia was determined this time that she was going to approach her new relationship differently, In the past her partners tended to disappoint her by "not stepping up" and fully participating in the relationship. On paper Bill seemed to be different, he had a good job, was outdoorsy and had a nice smile. Gradually though Cynthia noticed that Bill waited for her to make plans without initiating anything. He also seemed to have a hard time making big decisions, and after not too much time had passed Cynthia found herself back in the drivers seat. 

What are your rules for living true?

Our belief systems are wide open when we are born. We develop beliefs about the world we live in during the early years in our family, then in school and our community. Our young mind is a sponge soaking up everything we notice, experience and imagine. Along the way through life our rules of living become more solidified and we believe them. 

How do you start and end your day and how does that decision effect your mood?

Our gadgets have become like second nature. Notice, do you automatically reach for your phone or tablet when you wake up and right before you go to sleep? 


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