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The Truth About The Mid-Life Crisis (and how not to screw it up)

October 1st, 2018

As we near the age of 40, and take stock of our lives, many of us find ourselves feeling antsy…like we’re not quite fitting in our own skin. The fact is that we have never really fit in our own skin, but finally we are able to notice it. In my work as a psychotherapist, I have guided many people through the type of existential struggle that is common around this time. What I have found is that there are two directions people take when the inklings of discomfort begin: the first direction is to look inward, and the second is to look outward. 

How ‘small t’ Traumas are Affecting Your Daily Life

September 30th, 2018
In: Trauma

Do you ever feel anxious, or embarrassed when meeting a new person? How about when you drive over a bridge, or go on a plane, or when you sit in the passenger seat of a car – do you get a bit nervous? ALL of these experiences originate in a trauma! And more often than not, they are what we refer to as a ‘small t’ trauma (as opposed to a ‘big T’ trauma).

IBD and Mental Health

September 28th, 2018

Championing IBD Hand washing is not exactly the activity you'd picture indulging in if you wanted to win a gold medal at the Olympics. Yet, that's exactly what the British Cycling Team did at the 2008 Beijing Olympics. They hired a surgeon to teach the athletes to properly wash their hands, avoiding illnesses during competition. The team staff were utterly fastidious about food preparation. They even brought their own mattresses and pillows, so that the athletes could sleep in a familiar posture every night. 

Emotional Eating During The Holidays

July 30th, 2018

Most emotional eaters dread the holiday season with its treats, food focused social events and hyper buffets. That’s because food is the socially acceptable addiction, compulsion and even obsession. For emotional eaters, this can make the holidays a time of self-loathing, complexity and strain. We hope these few tips can help you more successfully negotiate this seasonal food-fest: 1. Plan, Plan, Plan! And write down your danger zones.

TIPS FOR PARENTING YOUR CHILD WITH ADHD

July 23rd, 2018

Attention-Deficit / Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is one of the most common mental health conditions in children according to Statistics Canada. It is characterized by inattention, hyperactivity and impulsivity, although these symptoms vary. ADHD usually arises in the preschool years but is typically identified in the elementary school grades. Drop out rates for these kids are higher.

10 Tips On Mindful Separation: How To Tell Your Children

July 19th, 2018

You have decided to make the difficult step to separate. You’ve decided to be mindful and collaborative in your separation. Now, how do you tell your children? Here are some sound guidelines to follow when speaking with your children about your separation. 

Can't Stop Procrastinating?

April 16th, 2018
In: Anxiety

Tax season is a good time to find ourselves wondering, "Why did I leave this so late?" Do you find yourself thinking, "I've got lots of time to do this (project or assignment, etc)" and then suddenly it has crept up on you and you are in panic mode? Now you've got double the work: getting through the anxiety and also getting the project done. It isn't fun. But you get through. And it's done. Phew.

Caregivers Need Extra Support

September 23rd, 2017

The longer I do this work the more I see evidence of a simple fact: Caregivers need extra support. Caregiving takes many forms. For example: having a child; taking in aging parents; fostering puppies; looking after people with health issues; hearing stories of suffering people, working in the health field, etc. Becoming a caregiver can bring significant joy and meaning.

New Door Opening

September 14th, 2017

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” Alexander Graham Bell I have heard many stories from people about losing a job, or ending a relationship. Sometimes you have no choice but to let go of some piece of your life. It may feel like the end of the world. Former U.S. President Barack Obama said, “The only thing that’s the end of the world is the end of the world.”

How are We Different after Therapy?

September 7th, 2017

What happens to us during the therapy process? How are we different after a course of therapy? Often clients come in with specific issues that they hope to improve: anxiety, depression, isolation, emotions all over the place or numbed out, work stress, marital conflict. And through our therapy work together these issues are improved.

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