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Should Boundaries Leave You Feeling Guilty?

You notice you’re struggling to say ‘no’ when friends, family members, co-workers, your partner or even your kids need something. Your head wants to say ‘yes’ to their request. But your heart (emotions, energy, joy) might be noticing it’s feeling more resentful than joyful. You often say yes anyway, because that’s what people expect and if you don’t do (fill-in-the-blank), who will? (This is an inner thought you might have noticed.)

Understanding the challenges of being diagnosed with Breast Cancer

October is breast cancer awareness month. Having worked with breast cancer patients since 2017, I have heard from so many patients about how this disease has impacted them. I thought I would share a few themes that I have noticed over the years (in no particular order):

Attachment Styles within Relationships

You might notice that at times, in particular with your partner, you just don't seem to connect well. Arguments that started out of nowhere, leave you feeling like you're spinning. When you're noticing a rupture after an argument, the way you try to reconnect or repair it and the way your friend or partner might try to do so, causes more miscommunication than you before you made this attempt. So disheartening! This is most likely a product of your early childhood experiences...of what happened to you. 

Cultivating Self-Esteem: A Path to Feeling Good, Authenticity, and Improved Well-being

September 26th, 2023

Self-esteem can be summarized as how we feel about ourselves. It is a powerful force that shapes our lives in numerous ways, influencing our moods/feelings about ourselves, our effectiveness, relationships, and overall well-being. In this blog post, we will explore the multifaceted nature of self-esteem and provide evidence-based suggestions for nurturing and enhancing it, including the role of authenticity and taking risks.   1. The Bidirectional Relationship between Self-Esteem and Effectiveness

What is Somatic Experiencing?

July 31st, 2023
In: Trauma

Somatic Experiencing is a gentle, yet powerful and effective approach for resolving symptoms of trauma and relieving chronic anxiety and stress. Instead of just talking about the problem, this is a “bottom-up” way of processing.  This means we’re inviting the body’s information and the body’s intelligence to come into our awareness and be a part of the process, encouraging and creating space for our body’s natural ability to heal.   How we Get Stuck

Rethinking Narcissism: An Invitation to Examine Our Own Narcissistic Parts with IFS

July 26th, 2023

“Narcissist!” How often do we hear this term, and how often do we stop to consider what it truly means? The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) paints a very particular picture of narcissistic personality disorder. It’s marked by a pattern of grandiosity, a chronic need for admiration, and a lack of empathy. Individuals need to display at least five of nine specific traits, such as an inflated sense of self-importance, preoccupation with fantasies of success and power, and a sense of entitlement.  

ADHD and Anxiety: Ending the Vicious Cycle Between Procrastination and Anxiety

June 16th, 2023

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) presents a complex set of challenges for those who live with it. While symptoms like difficulty paying attention, impulsivity, and hyperactivity are commonly associated with ADHD, there is another aspect that often accompanies these symptoms—a vicious cycle between procrastination and anxiety.

Unlocking Intimacy: Exploring the Power of Sex Therapy for a Fulfilling Love Life

June 7th, 2023

In a world where open conversations about sexuality are gaining momentum, it's essential to understand the role of sex therapy in helping individuals and couples overcome sexual difficulties and enhance their love lives. Sex therapy provides a safe and supportive environment for addressing sexual concerns, improving intimacy, and unlocking the full potential of relationships. In this article, we will delve into what sex therapy entails and who can benefit from its transformative power.

Harnessing Behavioural Changes: Strategies to Improve ADHD Symptoms

May 27th, 2023

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental condition that affects individuals of all ages. While medication and therapy are often used to manage ADHD symptoms, behavioral adaptations play a vital role in improving daily functioning and overall well-being. These adaptations involve implementing strategies and changes in behavior that support attention, organization, and self-regulation. In this article, we will explore some of the most common behavioral adaptations that can significantly improve ADHD symptoms and enhance quality of life.

Is Video Therapy Right for Me?

April 18th, 2023

With pandemic restrictions behind us, many people are eager to get back to doing things in person again, including therapy. Taking the time out of your day to travel to your therapist's office, sitting on their couch, and being present with each other in person can be important parts of therapy for many folks. However, doing therapy by video is often just as effective, and can even have some advantages compared to in-person therapy. Here are some signs that video therapy might be a good fit for you. You feel comfortable and safe at home

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