GRIT: Tools to Be Mentally Strong

April 9th, 2024
In: Anxiety

Do you find yourself easily thrown off? If something goes wrong at work are you ruminating for days or weeks? If you don't get a text returned do you feel so hurt that you can't study, go to the gym or even get out of bed? Making space for feelings is important, yes. In recent years, however,  I see an increased number of people who are suffering from an inability to gather themselves, to muster, to gain perspective, and to carry on. If this resonates with you keep reading. How do we get grit?

Have you been told it is important to express your needs? Find out why this is bad advice.

I am going to say something somewhat controversial. We have very few needs in our relationships.  I might go as far as saying that we don’t need anything from our partner.   We need air to breathe and food to eat. This is the level of need. It is associated with our survival. Language is powerful. This is why when we use the word need to express what we want in relationships it has the energy of ‘must-have urgency’ behind it.  It is a demand. 

ADHD Support: Strategies to Manage Symptoms and Thrive

April 4th, 2024

Living with ADHD is a unique journey that presents its own set of challenges and opportunities for growth. This condition goes beyond occasional distractions or forgetfulness; it profoundly influences one’s ability to manage daily tasks, maintain relationships, and achieve personal goals. Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) intricately weaves through the fabric of an individual’s life, affecting their emotional, academic, and professional landscapes.  

Navigating Modern Stress: Harnessing the Power of Mindfulness

In today's fast-paced world, stress has become an inevitable part of our daily lives. From the moment we wake up, we are bombarded with a myriad of responsibilities and demands, be it emails, client calls, household tasks, or caregiving. As a result, our sympathetic nervous system, responsible for triggering the fight-or-flight response, is constantly triggered, leading to feelings of overwhelm and short tempers. However, there is a way to regain control and find balance amidst this chaos – mindfulness.

7 Ways Low Self-Esteem Sparks Work-Related Stress

March 25th, 2024

Low self-esteem can be a significant source of stress in the workplace, impacting productivity, job satisfaction, and overall well-being. In this blog post, I'll delve deeper into the seven common ways that low self-esteem contributes to workplace stress and provide practical solutions to overcome these challenges.   1-Self-Doubt and Decision-Making:

Understanding Chronic Stress and Anxiety from Polyvagal Theory

March 12th, 2024
In: Anxiety

In recent years, the Polyvagal Theory, developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, has provided valuable insights into understanding the connection between chronic stress, anxiety, and our body's innate response system. This theory suggests that our autonomic nervous system plays a crucial role in our emotional well-being. The theory is based on the notion that this system is dynamically regulated by our experiences and can greatly impact our mental health.

Not Making Headway on Your Life Goals?

March 6th, 2024

Let's do a check-in:  Are you where you want to be in life- Financially? Romantically? Parenthood- or Career-wise? If yes, great. If not, what's gotten in the way? Two actions need to be practiced to get to living the life you want. First is knowing what your goal is. And that takes defining what you want and with a timeline. For example, "I'd like to own a home by the time I am 40". Or "I want to give birth to my first child before my 35th birthday." If this is easy for you, great. 

Internal Family System - example of parts work

February 15th, 2024
In: Anxiety

Internal Family System, developed by Richard Schwartz, a Marriage and Family Therapist, is a therapeutic approach that recognizes the presence of different parts within individuals, just like how different members exist within a family. The purpose of Internal Family System is to address and work with these various internal parts. In my therapy sessions with clients, I often utilize this approach to help them identify their internal parts and activate the Self, which serves as the leader of these internal family members (the parts).

The shame cycle explained.

Even the mention of shame brings up a desire to avoid even talking about it.  It is the worst feeling and experience. It can be experienced as a constant dull ache lurking to erupt if we give it any attention, to a sudden flash of heat and intense feeling of needing to disappear.  Shame is a relational experience. In other words, we are shamed by others and we develop internal shaming to prevent further experiences of shame, including shaming others.

Healing is not fixing

February 3rd, 2024
In: Trauma

Wounds, whether they are physical or emotional, can be quite painful. When it comes to physical wounds, we are often advised not to touch or disturb them. This is because we are concerned about the possibility of infection, bleeding, or making the wound worse.


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