Navigating Modern Stress: Harnessing the Power of Mindfulness

In today's fast-paced world, stress has become an inevitable part of our daily lives. From the moment we wake up, we are bombarded with a myriad of responsibilities and demands, be it emails, client calls, household tasks, or caregiving. As a result, our sympathetic nervous system, responsible for triggering the fight-or-flight response, is constantly triggered, leading to feelings of overwhelm and short tempers. However, there is a way to regain control and find balance amidst this chaos – mindfulness.

7 Ways Low Self-Esteem Sparks Work-Related Stress

March 25th, 2024

Low self-esteem can be a significant source of stress in the workplace, impacting productivity, job satisfaction, and overall well-being. In this blog post, I'll delve deeper into the seven common ways that low self-esteem contributes to workplace stress and provide practical solutions to overcome these challenges.   1-Self-Doubt and Decision-Making:

Understanding Chronic Stress and Anxiety from Polyvagal Theory

March 12th, 2024
In: Anxiety

In recent years, the Polyvagal Theory, developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, has provided valuable insights into understanding the connection between chronic stress, anxiety, and our body's innate response system. This theory suggests that our autonomic nervous system plays a crucial role in our emotional well-being. The theory is based on the notion that this system is dynamically regulated by our experiences and can greatly impact our mental health.

Not Making Headway on Your Life Goals?

March 6th, 2024

Let's do a check-in:  Are you where you want to be in life- Financially? Romantically? Parenthood- or Career-wise? If yes, great. If not, what's gotten in the way? Two actions need to be practiced to get to living the life you want. First is knowing what your goal is. And that takes defining what you want and with a timeline. For example, "I'd like to own a home by the time I am 40". Or "I want to give birth to my first child before my 35th birthday." If this is easy for you, great. 

Internal Family System - example of parts work

February 15th, 2024
In: Anxiety

Internal Family System, developed by Richard Schwartz, a Marriage and Family Therapist, is a therapeutic approach that recognizes the presence of different parts within individuals, just like how different members exist within a family. The purpose of Internal Family System is to address and work with these various internal parts. In my therapy sessions with clients, I often utilize this approach to help them identify their internal parts and activate the Self, which serves as the leader of these internal family members (the parts).

The shame cycle explained.

Even the mention of shame brings up a desire to avoid even talking about it.  It is the worst feeling and experience. It can be experienced as a constant dull ache lurking to erupt if we give it any attention, to a sudden flash of heat and intense feeling of needing to disappear.  Shame is a relational experience. In other words, we are shamed by others and we develop internal shaming to prevent further experiences of shame, including shaming others.

Healing is not fixing

February 3rd, 2024
In: Trauma

Wounds, whether they are physical or emotional, can be quite painful. When it comes to physical wounds, we are often advised not to touch or disturb them. This is because we are concerned about the possibility of infection, bleeding, or making the wound worse.

Did You Know that Relational Repair is One Way?

February 1st, 2024

This is often hard to understand for a lot of the people I work with, so in this post I am going to go through what we mean about repair in relationships.  Let’s start by acknowledging the things we need to repair in a relationship.  That might seem obvious, but let’s lay the foundation for this.  It starts with a communication or action by your partner that leaves you hurt, disappointed, let down, frustrated, and so on.  There may be things you have both said or done during a conflict that cause both to want attention to your hurt feelings. 

Boundaries with Others

January 28th, 2024

Are you getting burnt out by someone in your life? Do you feel resentment towards them? Are you exhausted? Do you feel guilty for not being able to maintain a lot of contact with them? Ask yourself this: Are you good at setting boundaries with others? Setting boundaries with others is a healthy way to preserve a relationship. When we constantly go beyond our limit with others we end up feeling resentful and wanting to avoid contact. We stay on the phone longer than we'd like, or spend money we don't have on them, or always go over to their house. 

The Truth About Depression and the "Just Be Happy" Myth

January 24th, 2024

Millions of people all over the world are affected by depression. However, despite its prevalence, misconceptions and misunderstandings about this condition persist, leading to ineffective and potentially harmful advice. One common myth is the notion that telling someone with depression to "just be happy" or to think positively will magically alleviate their symptoms. However, as mental health professionals and experts emphasize, the reality is far more complex.


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