Intimacy Issues Counsellors

Intimacy Issues

Intimacy issues are common for people who fear vulnerability. Some people can become vulnerable in front of a few trusted friends, however, but when a relationship starts becoming too close, they feel suffocated. In this sense, the intimacy issues are seated in the fear of developing a deep and meaningful relationship with another person.

Two fears that are at the heart of intimacy issues, are the fear of abandonment (fearing the partner might leave them) and the fear of engulfment (fearing that they would lose themselves in a relationship), which sometimes co-exist. These fears, often rooted in childhood traumas, are often deeply entrenched in codependent adult relationships where they cause friction.

A therapist who works with people who have intimacy issues will first help you to learn to become comfortable with yourself and accept yourself for who you are. You will explore the complex past events that have created these intimacy issues and discover that those events don't have to cloud your present experiences.

This process is essential in discovering that rejection does not have to be a traumatic experience. Finally, you will learn how to set personal boundaries that will help you to avoid the fear of engulfment and to cope, should abandonment occur. While healing intimacy issues can be a challenging and somewhat painful task, the rewards are incredible.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who addresses intimacy issues, you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Note: You may narrow your search by selecting more than one filter below.

Susan Baum

Ph.D., R.Psych
"When we are no longer able to change a situation—we are challenged to change ourselves." Victor Frankl To have my clients take up the challenge to change—this is the power I try to help them... Read more

Colleen Wilkie

Ph.D., R.Psych
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Are you disappointed in your relationships?  Do you feel lonely and misunderstood?  Are you feeling depressed or anxious?  Or, you might be someone who has had therapy in the past but needs something... Read more

Meris Williams

Ph.D., R.Psych
Hello, and welcome to my counselling practice!  I have a PhD in Counselling Psychology (from the University of British Columbia), and I'm a Registered Psychologist (#2188) in BC.  My practice is located in... Read more

Susan Blake

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Susan Blake, Registered Psychologist, provides individual and group psychotherapy with adults, working within a contemporary psychodynamic approach.Together we explore the experiences and relationships that have... Read more

Joanne Duma

Ed.D., R.Psych
Dr. Duma is a registered psychologist who completed her Doctorate in Counselling Psychology at the University of Toronto. She has extensive experience treating a wide variety of clinical issues including:... Read more

Lyne Piche

Ph.D., R.Psych
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Dr. Lyne Piché is a Registered Psychologist working in Abbotsford, BC. Her services are offered in both French and English. She has many years experience working with people who have sexual difficulties, sexual... Read more

Josef Zaide

Ph.D., R.Psych
For over 35 years I have worked with clients in hospital, school and private practice settings. In my therapy practice I see individuals and couples from a variety of cultural and religious backgrounds. They bring a... Read more

Geraldine Brooks

Ph.D., R.Psych
My counselling is holistic, informed by scientific advances in psychology and neurology as well as Transpersonal, Jungian (the theories of C.G. Jung) and Energy Psychologies. I address a wide variety of client concerns... Read more

Judith Setton-Markus

M.Ed., R.Psych
Judith Setton-Markus is a Registered Psychologist licensed with the College of Psychologists of BC #1712. She is also a Psychoanalyst and Psychoanalytically Oriented Psychotherapist, a member of the Western Branch... Read more

Paul James

Ed.D., R.Psych
Although the adults whom I assist come with a wide range of presenting problems - such as sexual dysfunctions, mental health issues, relationship distress, and addictions, the underlying problem is that all are... Read more

Peter M Williamson PhD

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Peter Williamson is one of only 7 officially Certified Gottman Method Couples Therapists in the province of B.C. (at time of this writing - 9/2017). Although extensively trained and with 25+ years of expertise... Read more

Tanya Elez

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Tanya Elez is a Registered Psychologist and a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist who sees clients at her office in New Westminster downtown. She offers counselling services to diverse couples,... Read more

Lynn Superstein-Raber

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Superstein-Raber is a Registered Psychologist (#01364) and Psychoanalyst who has been providing psychotherapy to actors, dancers and musicians for over twenty years. Fifteen of those years were spent in Los Angeles... Read more

Joachim Sehrbrock

Ph.D., R.Psych
When we feel overwhelmed, stressed, or bogged down by difficult situations or circumstances, it can be tough to see where to go, what to think, and what to do. Often what is missing is being able to see the bigger... Read more

Bea Mackay

Ph.D., R.Psych
For 28 years I have enjoyed working with individuals, couples and families. I believe in using methods that are grounded in theory and research. My goal is to help people help themselves. I view people as resourceful.... Read more