Borderline personality disorder, like all other personality disorders is a learned behavior pattern that is deeply ingrained and ongoing. It manifests as an inappropriate deviation from social norms and it is a stable behavioural pattern. Social performance is impeded by the subjective distress the person tends to experience.

People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) may to alternate between the extremes of devaluation and idealization, and form unstable but intense relationships. They may make frantic attempts to avoid imagined or real abandonment. There are two types of borderline personality disorders; the impulsive BPD is prone to emotional instability and poor impulse control.

Borderline personality disorder sufferers may tend to act impulsively, without paying attention to the consequences and they have a tendency to experience emotional outbursts and be quarrelsome.

Therapy can be beneficial for people with borderline personality disorder and there are some powerful approaches developed recently that bring great hope to those who would be diagnosed with this disorder. Unlike most family members and friends, a psychologist or counsellor has the appropriate training, as well as patience, to withstand the emotional crises the patient will experience over the course of the relationship. These episodes can cause tremendous damage to a person's interpersonal relationships, but a therapist has the skills to remain even tempered and optimistic and knows how to teach better coping skills. It is important to help the person with borderline personality disorder to develop helpful communication skills as well as the capacity to self-regulate emotions.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who offers therapy to address your borderline personality disorder issues you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Family members are affected by substance use and other addictions. There is a tremendous amount both in the news and in public discourse about what family/friends can do for people affected by addictions. Sometimes it's cast as simply attending Al Anon for example.  There are many professionals who are trained in Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) who may be able to help you help yourself and the addict in compassionate and productive ways.

Note: The Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT Model) was developed by Drs. Robert J. Meyers and Jane Ellen Smith at the University of New Mexico. 

If you need a counsellor or psychologist to help you, as a friend or a family member, with addiction of another you may find someone here.