Starting with a new therapist, whether you’re new to counselling or a more experienced client, takes a lot of courage. With that courage also comes the discomfort of exploring some of the impactful and painful memories of the past, as well as the current experiences of the present. For this to be possible we have to create a space where safety, trust and collaboration are at the forefront. In my work, I want to engage with folks in a transparent relationship where they can give themselves the opportunity to relax and let go of the expectations they hold themselves to.
In the beginning, I find it really important to help clients learn about their emotions and how these show up for them. With the idea that we experience emotions differently, and have different levels of comfort in sitting with them. In learning how to process our emotions we give ourselves the opportunity to be curious and explore the influence of our past and present experiences. Overtime, you might find that by doing this you move away from judgement, criticism and self-loathing, and more into self-compassion, openness, and a better quality of life.
Therapy can be many things, including messy. I believe therapy to be a journey to unlearn old coping mechanisms, beliefs and behaviours that no longer align with who we are or are no longer serving us in a helpful manner. Therapy is not only about painful experiences, it’s also a place where we celebrate finding new ways of coping and navigating the world. I show up to sessions aware of my own experiences and politics. I am curious, caring and compassionate. I will challenge you and help you develop new ways of moving through the world.
If you’re wondering more about my approach and perspective, I invite you to listen to my podcast ‘Therapy After Hours’.
