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A client of mine — I’ll call her Maya — once told me about a moment at a friend’s gathering. Someone she’d known for years asked, warmly, “How are you doing?” Maya, who lives with chronic pain, answered honestly: “Today’s been a hard pain day.” Her friend, without missing a beat, said, “Well, you’ve just got to stay positive! Attitude is everything.” Maya told me she smiled, said something like “you’re right,” and changed the subject — but something in her quietly closed. She spent the rest of the evening in the room but not really in it, and drove home feeling not just unseen, but ashamed for…