Areas of practice
- Adolescent Issues
- Anxiety and/or Panic
- Child Behaviour
- COVID-19 Stress, Anxiety and Depression
- Divorce and/or Separation
- Family Issues
- Life Transitions
- Marriage and/or Relationship Issues
- Parenting Issues
- Personal Growth
- Pre-Marital Counselling
- Self-Esteem Issues
- Stress Management
- Trauma Counselling
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
- Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)
- Emotionally Focused Therapy - Individuals
- ONLINE / VIRTUAL / TELEHEALTH COUNSELLING
- Psychodynamic Therapy
Counselling practice website:www.treerootscounselling.com
As my client, your well-being will always be my guiding focus. In the safety of counselling, you will be valued, respected and listened to. Like the roots below affecting the tree above, the inner worlds of your mind and body affect the outer aspects of your lives. Guided by these values, therapy at Tree Roots Counselling provides a safe place to restore balance to your inner and outer worlds.
When life gets overwhelming, you find protection by over or under reacting with fight, flight, or freeze. Once there to help you, these short-term coping strategies can become stuck habits that no longer help you. If unaddressed, these habits can impact your daily life and how you connect with others. The more you protect, the harder it is to connect.
To restore functioning and strengthen relationships, we will reframe how your coping strategies work for and against you. We can begin to make sense of your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. We can develop safer strategies to connect and protect. You can learn new ways to be seen and accepted. You can learn new ways to feel safe and secure. This new awareness is the source for resilience and growth.
You want connection with your partner. You want to be seen and cared for but somehow you feel misunderstood. No matter how hard you try, you feel trapped in this pattern of resentment and anger, and you don’t know how to end this cycle. You would like to find the intimacy and connection again.
When partners become overwhelmed, it becomes hard to meet each other’s needs. Bids for attention can be misunderstood as cues of danger. Coping mechanisms that once helped you become cycles of blame and shutdown. In the safety of counselling, we can unpack what is causing this anguish and explore how past and present exchanges may contribute to your stuck patterns.
Instead of being stuck as an unwitting creator and victim of negative cycles, new patterns can be created. Instead of isolation, angry pursuit or defensive withdrawal, secure bonds can be cultivated. Guided by empirically-based Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), safety can be restored in your relationship to build more trust and connection. Partners can become emotionally more accessible, responsive and engaged with each other.
Parents and Families
What is the meaning behind your child or teen’s behaviour? What you do depends on what you see? Misbehaviour can be reframed as stress-behaviour and parents can shift from:
- Reacting to short-term problems to
- Responding to long-term needs
From reactivity to receptivity, parents learn strategies to be present and respond to the emotional and developmental needs of their child or teen. Meaningful change begins to happen with practical tools to understand and manage behaviour—a real shift in the trajectory of your relationship. Healthier connections take shape and brains can be rewired to develop more secure attachment. In cases where there is separation or divorce, parents can learn to respectfully co-parent to raise resilient and self-regulated children who will thrive.
I conduct parenting workshops in Vancouver throughout the year:
Learn how to manage your child’s behaviour and emotions while reinforcing connection so your child can thrive. Learn evidence-based strategies and tools to develop:
- emotional awareness &
- self-regulation in your child.
My work doesn't often connect me to children and families until there is some kind of crisis, and when I do see these families, I often wish I could have supported them earlier – before the fork in the road started to widen. A story to help illustrate this: My wife and I lost all of our photos in our back-up drive, most of them irreplaceable pictures of our kids. Until that point, we had no issues and were unaware that a hard drive can die unexpectedly. We wish we knew earlier. In my work, I find that parenting is similar – parents do the best they can until something comes up. My goal with these workshops is to help parents be proactive.
Please contact me for the next workshop location and details.