Areas of practice
- Adolescent Issues
- Anxiety and/or Panic
- Child Behaviour
- COVID-19 Stress, Anxiety and Depression
- Divorce and/or Separation
- Family Issues
- Life Transitions
- Marriage and/or Relationship Issues
- Parenting Issues
- Personal Growth
- Pre-Marital Counselling
- Self-Esteem Issues
- Stress Management
- Trauma Counselling
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
- Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)
- Emotionally Focused Therapy - Individuals
- ONLINE / VIRTUAL / TELEHEALTH COUNSELLING
- Psychodynamic Therapy
Counselling practice website:www.treerootscounselling.com
As my client, your well-being will always be my guiding focus. In the safety of counselling, you will be valued, respected and listened to. Like the roots below affecting the tree above, the inner worlds of your mind and body affect the outer aspects of your lives. Guided by these values, therapy at Tree Roots Counselling provides a safe place to restore balance to your inner and outer worlds.
When life gets overwhelming, you cope by over or under reacting with fight, flight, or freeze. Once there to protect you, these short-term coping strategies can become stuck habits that no longer help you. If unaddressed, these habits can impact your daily life and how you connect with others. The more you protect, the harder it is to connect.
To restore functioning and strengthen relationships, we will reframe how your coping strategies work for and against you. We can begin to make sense of your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. We can develop safer strategies to connect and protect. You can learn new ways to be seen and accepted. You can learn new ways to feel safe and secure. This new awareness is the source for resilience and growth.
You want connection with your partner. You want to be seen and cared for but somehow you feel misunderstood and lonely. No matter how hard you try, you feel trapped in this pattern of resentment and anger. Or, you feel blamed and hurt and the only way to cope is to hide and withdraw. You're exhausted from trying to fix the problem, and you don’t know how to end this pattern.
When partners become overwhelmed, it becomes hard to meet each other’s needs. Bids for attention can be misunderstood as cues of danger. Coping mechanisms that once helped you become patterns of blame and shutdown in the relationship. Instead of being stuck as an unwitting creator and victim of negative cycles, new patterns of reaching and responding can be created. Instead of isolation, angry pursuit or defensive withdrawal, secure bonds can be cultivated. Safety can be restored in your relationship to build more trust and connection. By learning how to share and what to listen for, partners can become emotionally more accessible, responsive and engaged.
Parents and Families
What is the meaning behind your child or teen’s behaviour? What you do depends on what you see? Misbehaviour can be reframed as stress-behaviour and parents can shift from:
- Reacting to short-term problems to
- Responding to long-term needs
From reactivity to receptivity, parents learn strategies to be present and respond to the emotional and developmental needs of their child or teen. Meaningful change begins to happen with practical tools to understand and manage behaviour—a real shift in the trajectory of your relationship. Healthier connections take shape and brains can be rewired to develop more secure attachment. In cases where there is separation or divorce, parents can learn to respectfully co-parent to raise resilient and self-regulated children who will thrive.
It is important to me that my clients feel safe. It is in this safety that you can reconnect with your vulnerability as strength. You can restore your sense of self to live life with more authenticity and intentionality.
My training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) allows me to help couples make sense of their negative patterns. EFT is an evidence-based approach that focuses on how relationships get organized into these negative patterns. Rather than being caught in a circular power struggle, the meaning of relational distress can be reframed to understand how unmet longings for connection and protection become danger cues. With couples where trust is shattered, making the relationship unsafe to reach and respond, the Attachment Injury Repair Model (AIRM) can help couples heal and restore healthier bonds. Empirically, EFT is the most effective method for couple therapy.
Whether it is individuals or couples who seek my support, I am always humbled by the trust my clients place in me to walk alongside their journey. I live in Vancouver with my wife and three kids.