I work with folks navigating queer relationships (couples/partners and individuals), identity exploration, sex and intimacy, and problematic substance use.
Working with queer and trans clients.
Queer and trans relationships come with their own specific dynamics and they're not always easy to navigate.
Maybe one of you is further out of the closet than the other, and that gap is creating distance
You moved in together quickly because you felt so deeply in love, but now feel more like roommates
One of you is transitioning, and now you're navigating a transition in your relationship too
Your body doesn't feel like yours during sex, and you don't know how to ask for what you need
You don't want to have sex as much as you used to, and the "lesbian bed death" myth is looming over you
Maybe you've been to therapy before and it was fine but your queer or trans identity stayed outside the room. Like it was separate from the real issues, when actually it's the context everything else lives inside.
I'm a queer counsellor, and in our sessions that context is always part of the conversation.
My approach.
Some people do a few sessions, learn the coping skills, and still feel stuck. Did you ever play whack-a-mole as a kid? That's how I think about anxiety when you quickly apply a coping skill without exploring what's underneath it. You push it down, but it keeps popping up somewhere new, getting louder each time. Deep breathing might take the edge off — it won't make the issue go away if what you're really worried about is coming out to homophobic or transphobic parents. I work from an anti-oppressive, feminist lens, and I'm not in a rush to skip to solutions before we've explored your issues in depth.
I'm warm but direct, comfortable with dark humour, and I promise won't bat an eyelid at you swearing in session!
Client fees.
Individual
(50 min) $170
(75 min) $250
Couples/partners
(50 min) $200
(75 min) $295
Sliding scale.
I offer a limited number of sliding scale spots to make sure counselling stays accessible. I give priority to clients who identify as trans, non-binary, gender-diverse, or BIPOC, including couples where one or more partners holds these identities. Please contact me to enquire about sliding scale.
