Intimacy issues are common for people who fear vulnerability. Some people can become vulnerable in front of a few trusted friends, however, but when a relationship starts becoming too close, they feel suffocated. In this sense, the intimacy issues are seated in the fear of developing a deep and meaningful relationship with another person.

Two fears that are at the heart of intimacy issues, are the fear of abandonment (fearing the partner might leave them) and the fear of engulfment (fearing that they would lose themselves in a relationship), which sometimes co-exist. These fears, often rooted in childhood traumas, are often deeply entrenched in codependent adult relationships where they cause friction.

A therapist who works with people who have intimacy issues will first help you to learn to become comfortable with yourself and accept yourself for who you are. You will explore the complex past events that have created these intimacy issues and discover that those events don't have to cloud your present experiences.

This process is essential in discovering that rejection does not have to be a traumatic experience. Finally, you will learn how to set personal boundaries that will help you to avoid the fear of engulfment and to cope, should abandonment occur. While healing intimacy issues can be a challenging and somewhat painful task, the rewards are incredible.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who addresses intimacy issues, you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Family members are affected by substance use and other addictions. There is a tremendous amount both in the news and in public discourse about what family/friends can do for people affected by addictions. Sometimes it's cast as simply attending Al Anon for example.  There are many professionals who are trained in Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) who may be able to help you help yourself and the addict in compassionate and productive ways.

Note: The Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT Model) was developed by Drs. Robert J. Meyers and Jane Ellen Smith at the University of New Mexico. 

If you need a counsellor or psychologist to help you, as a friend or a family member, with addiction of another you may find someone here.