Caregivers Need Extra Support

The longer I do this work the more I see evidence of a simple fact: Caregivers need extra support. Caregiving takes many forms. For example: having a child; taking in aging parents; fostering puppies; looking after people with health issues; hearing stories of suffering people, working in the health field, etc. Becoming a caregiver can bring significant joy and meaning.

New Door Opening

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” Alexander Graham Bell I have heard many stories from people about losing a job, or ending a relationship. Sometimes you have no choice but to let go of some piece of your life. It may feel like the end of the world. Former U.S. President Barack Obama said, “The only thing that’s the end of the world is the end of the world.”

People Exhaust Me. I Don't Need To Be Around Them Anyway, Right?

Are you avoiding people or groups because it feels like you get totally drained from interactions with them? It feels like, "I'm so exhausted after interactions with people. I'd rather just stay home where I'm comfortable and I can just be myself." Yes. We all need time on our own to recuperate and rest. 

I'm Always the One Doing the Helping. But Who is Going to Help Me?

Maybe you've always been the "good listener." The one people turn to. Or, maybe your care-taking role is newly acquired: You became a parent to a child or a pet, took on aging parents, or got married. Perhaps you've obtained a job where you are present with others while they are going through life's up and downs.  You're a health practitioner.  First responder. Lawyer. Social Worker. Teacher. Supervisor. Server. Accountant. The list is endless.

I thought I was better - Why am I doing this again?

"I'd done several sessions and had stopped having panic attacks. And then I just had another one today. Why do I keep doing this to myself?" "I had worked on my rage and hadn't had another episode in so long. And then I just totally went overboard again this weekend. Why can't I get past this?" "My mood had been up for the last 6 months and then recently it's down again. Why am I not able to manage this?" Are these thoughts familiar?

What's Behind All My Worrying?

Do you notice that you worry about things a lot? Do you tend to catastrophize things in your head? In doing "Parts Work" I explore the Part of you that has been getting a little extreme, that has been consuming too much of your time and energy. For some of us it is our Worrier.  The Worrier is working really hard these days. It's working in overdrive. And it's getting you into trouble and causing you stress. What can we do about it in therapy?

How important is sex in a relationship?

Is sex vital to a couple's ability to be sustaining and happy?  It depends. Sex researcher Barry McCarthy (2002) notes that when sex is going well couples attribute only 15-20% of their relationship satisfaction to it. It's like icing on a cake: If the cake is good we give a slight nod to icing but attribute much more of the goodness in our mouths to other aspects of the cake.

Is My Anxiety Normal or Not?

Every client has their own unique experiences. That is a given. But if I could pinpoint a common thread I hear in many of my clients' stories it would be the story of how anxiety hijacked their life. Some anxiety is normal and healthy- we need that little bit of fear/activation to get us out of bed and into our roles in life. But when our anxious behaviours start hijacking our life- and are interfering with our daily functioning  and are becoming distressing- that is when it's not normal anymore and seeking help is a good idea.

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