Areas of practice
- Chronic Illness
- Death and Dying
- Divorce and/or Separation
- Eldercare Issues
- Family Caregiver Stress
- Family Issues
- Grief and Loss - General
- Learning Disabilities
- Life Transitions
- Professional Burnout
- Women's Issues
- Adlerian Therapy
- Family Systems
- Family Therapy
- Group Therapy
- Mindfulness approaches
- Psycho-Educational Groups
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Vocational Counselling
Counselling practice website:rosbestcounselling.com
Rosalyn Best, MoC, MEd, RCC, CAC.
Living lighter, one story at a time…
You’re at a crossroads. You figured out a lot, you’re older, wiser. But you weren’t prepared for this bump in the road. It’s complex. You feel stuck and maybe overwhelmed. You’d like support from a professional counsellor who will keep your confidence, listen deeply, and help you find your way even through this… I am that professional. In my practice we focus most on family issues, life transitions, burnout, chronic pain, and end of life concerns, all of which often come down to "Who am I now?" Here are some examples of areas we focus on in my practice:
- You’re the kind of person who doesn’t let family down, but you’re exhausted and there is no end in sight…
- You wonder if your own history is messing with your parenting/ relationship;
- Your spouse and you are separating, and you can’t move past your own anger and tears. You’re afraid. You want your hope back!
- You are grieving a private loss - the loss of a dream through circumstance, mental or physical health or disability, the inability to have children perhaps – but the subject is taboo with family and friends.
Retirement/ Life Transitions/ Professional Burnout
- You’re fine. Kids are grown, the home is paid for. Change is upon you, you should be happy, but you’re really scared: Who am I, without my career? Who are my people? What will my legacy be?
- You’re not fine. You’ve lost your zest for life and dread going into work. You fight feelings of failure and panic, you really don’t know what to do…
Grieving, illness, chronic pain, death
- It is really confusing. You feel dead inside, or you feel you’re going crazy. You struggle with meaning, whose fault, your thoughts are like a tape loop, and you can’t think straight about the topic.
- Nobody gets it; you feel you can’t keep going to your friends with this, they just want to fix you and urge you to move on. They don’t get it.
- You do not want to stay in this state, and want help.
I can help you get through. And yes, you will get through this.
I help clients with these and many other issues such as anxiety, depression, aging, job loss, thriving in the presence of disabilities, and identity issues. I am very comfortable with youth concerns as well.
What will therapy look like? Mostly, we’ll talk, but may use drawing and painting, metaphors, dreams, movies, early recollections, and storytelling as well. For complex concerns, clients will want to sign on for as many as 10 weekly sessions or more to work through issues.
We can meet at either my South Vancouver home office, or the Vancouver Broadway office. There is plentiful parking. Both offices are located on official bike routes. Both offices are wheelchair accessible, however bathrooms are not fully wheelchair accessible in either.
I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor, no.8656, and a Certified Adlerian Counsellor, no.8039. I completed my Master of Counselling Degree at the Adler School of Professional Psychology, a Diploma in Guidance Studies at the University of British Columbia, an earlier Master of Education at Simon Fraser University, and completed my Adlerian Certification at the Adler Centre in Vancouver.
This education framed for me the importance of the stories we tell about our lives, how these shape what we feel is possible, and how we understand belonging and success. Some of our stories served us well in the past, but are tripping us up currently. We’re not stuck with our limiting old stories.
I came to counselling in as a second profession, in mid-life. Why? After many years of teaching French Immersion, I realized that I had shifted from wanting to impart knowledge and skills to youth, to wanting to accompany people as they struggle with big Life transitions and concerns.
My world got bigger and bigger, as each person shared with me their experience with life, big decisions, identity and diversity with me, and as I struggled with some changes in my own life (loss of a significant relationship in middle age; assisting a sibling with severe physical disabilities; supporting my parents as each aged well despite increasing memory loss; my own career changes).
I am truly honoured to be a witness to people’s journeys, and help them make sense of their lives.
My Values in counselling and in Life
- Being present
- Acting with courage and integrity
- Knowing that Life can be better; Hope for personal growth
- Having respect for all the ways we come up with "who we are"
- Informed humility
I draw inspiration from such authors as Brené Brown (The Gifts of Imperfection and Daring Greatly), Sue Johnson (Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love), Martin Seligman (Flourish and Learned Optimism), Gordon Neufeld (Making Sense of Anxiety in Children and Youth), and Louann Brizendine (The Female Brain and The Male Brain).
The conferences that enriched me most were the Evolution of Psychotherapy (2009, 2013), where I heard Yalom, Seligman, Johnson, the Gottmans, Francine Shapiro, Kay Jamison, Diane Ackerman, Linehan, Padesky, three generations of Becks, Amen, and many, many more; Mindsight (Daniel Siegal); Mindfulness-Based Art Therapy (Margaret & Brian Callahan); NASAP; and the annual BC School Counsellors’ Association, where I heard Stuart Shanker.
Please give me a call (778-834-1867) so we can have an initial conversation. If it seems like a good fit, we would schedule our first appointment. To save time in session, you could print off and fill in the Intake and Informed Consent Form on my website (rosbestcounselling.com), and we will go over that form during the first session.
At my Kent Street office, sessions are 60 minutes. At my (shared) Broadway office, sessions are 50 minutes.
Benefits and Risks of Therapy: According to research, counselling is at least as efficacious as doctor-prescribed medications in the treatment of depression and anxiety, but counselling benefits remain after treatment has concluded. You will feel heard and valued, your will catch up with your inner wisdom, you will sense a ‘way forward’ and feel less trapped, more at peace.
Counselling does require an investment of time, emotional energy, and finances; you may feel triggered, and feel worse before you feel better. It is important for us to consider if now is the right time for counselling. Also, clients should know that psychotherapy is contraindicated when the client is under the influence of alcohol or drugs.
We will review the limits of confidentiality – that I must reach out for help if you indicate the intention to harm yourself or others, that I must report suspected child or elder abuse, and that my notes can be subject to subpoena. All other communication shall be kept strictly confidential. If I am to collaborate with your doctor, I will need your written and specific permission. I do not join my clients on social media, in consideration of the limits of confidentiality.
Counselling Fee: Fee payment is accepted by cash, e-transfer, or cheque, payable to Rosalyn Best. Please be sure to avoid NSF cheques, as they will incur a $40 fee, in addition to the cost of the therapy. My rate for individual therapy is $130/50-60 minute hour. Family or couples counselling is $150/hour. Ask me about my Disability Rate. Cancellations must be made at least 24 hours before the scheduled session, or a $60 fee will be charged. Sessions cannot be extended due to late arrival; this would be unfair to the following client.
Scheduling Sessions: I offer Office Hours that accommodate people’s work schedules on Tuesday, Thursday and Friday late afternoons and early evenings, and some Saturdays. Please indicate when booking your preference for the Kent Street or Broadway office. Established clients are welcome to book in person in advance, and use text or email to indicate scheduling problems. I will respond to emails or calls generally within 24 hours.
Client fee individuals:130 per 60 minute hour.