About Ros

Ros is a Registered Clinical Counsellor, no.8656.

Ros has been a lifelong student of people, culture and history. Ros noticed the importance of the stories we tell about our lives, how these shape what we feel is possible, and how we understand belonging, attachment and success.  Some of our stories served us well in the past, but now get in our way. The good news? We’re not stuck with our limiting old stories.

Ros came to counselling as a second profession, in mid-life.  Why? Because she discovered that counselling is the best game in town. Ros gets to facilitate couples strengthening their bond rather than ending their relationship in failure. She can assisthelp people release their anxiety, depression, trauma and fear. She can draw out of people their best selves, their hunger for healing, their drive to be creative, to belong, to use their strengths and skills for their family and community. And as she works with each client, Ros' heart grows and grows. 

Ros is truly honoured to be a witness to people’s journeys, and help them make sense of their lives.

Ros' Core Beliefs

• All humans have the capacity for personal growth and hope
• Conflict, trauma and emotional pain are rooted in beliefs about our relationships
• Humans long to belong, to have a role, and most especially to have a safe, secure, trusting, committed bond with their partner
• Humility is helpful. Love is Ros' best heart-space. Gratitude opens Ros up to the miracles of the day.
• By contributing to healthy couple relationships, Ros is contributing to a healthier society, which we need desperately.

Inspiration

I draw inspiration from such authors as Brené Brown (The Gifts of Imperfection and Daring Greatly), Sue Johnson (Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love and Created for Connection), Martin Seligman (Flourish and Learned Optimism), Gordon Neufeld (Making Sense of Anxiety in Children and Youth), and Louann Brizendine (The Female Brain and The Male Brain).

Courses that changed my world recently were: Somatic Experiencing (Intermediate III in Sept.2023), Gottman Method Couples Counselling Level 3, EFT Couples Therapy Externship in New York with Sue Johnson, EMDR, and Attachment-Based Advanced EMDR with Andrew Leeds, The Essentials of Dementia Care and Putting on an Alzheimer Cafe with Dr. Gemma Jones. The conferences that enriched me most were the Evolution of Psychotherapy (2009, 2013, 2017), where I heard Yalom, Seligman, Johnson, the Gottmans, Francine Shapiro, Kay Jamison, Diane Ackerman, Marsha Linehan, Christine Padesky, three generations of Becks, Amen, and many, many more; Mindsight (Daniel Siegal); Mindfulness-Based Art Therapy (Margaret & Brian Callahan);  and the annual BC School Counsellors’ Association, where I heard Stuart Shenker. We are so lucky to be living in a time where brain research is opening up the fields of counselling and psychotherapy at breakneck pace!

Getting Started

• Please give Ros a call (778-834-1867) for an initial conversation. 
• If it seems like a good fit, you and Ros will schedule the first appointment. 
• To save time in session, please print off and fill in the appropriate Intake and Informed Consent Form (for Couples, for Family Counselling, for Individuals) from Ros' website (rosbestcounselling.com).
• Ros and you will review the form, informed consent, and the counselling fee during the first session. 

Benefits and Risks of Therapy:

• According to research, counselling is at least as efficacious as doctor-prescribed medications in the treatment of depression and anxiety, and counselling benefits remain after treatment has concluded. 
• Individuals, you will feel heard and valued, will catch up with your inner wisdom, will sense a ‘way forward’ and feel less trapped, more at peace.
• Couples, you will be less at risk for heart attacks, and
• You will develop a more profound and meaningful connection with your partner (or realize that you and your partner are not open to developing a secure bond together).
• You will get to know yourself, your body and your emotions much more deeply. 
• Counselling does require an investment of time, emotional energy, and finances;
• You may feel triggered, and feel worse before you feel better. 
• It is important for us to consider if now is the right time for counselling. 
• Also, clients should know that psychotherapy is contraindicated when the client is under the influence of alcohol and some drugs.

We will review the limits of confidentiality – that I must reach out for help if you indicate the intention to harm yourself or others, that I must report suspected child or elder abuse, and that my Process Notes can be subject to subpoena.  All other communication shall be kept strictly confidential.  If I am to collaborate with your doctor, I will need your written and specific permission.  I do not join my clients on social media, in consideration of the limits of confidentiality.

Counselling Fee (Including GST):

• Fee payment is accepted by cash, e-transfer, or cheque, payable to Rosalyn Best.
• Individual Talk Therapy sessions: $196.50/ 60 minute session.
• Individual EMDR Trauma Therapy sessions: $196.50/60 minute session, or preferrably, $295/90 minute session.
• Couple or Family Therapy:  $345/90 minute session.
• People With Disabilities, please ask about Ros' sliding fee scale.
• Preferred payment method: e-transfer, or cash.
• Cancellations must be made at least 48 hours before the scheduled session so Ros can open up that space to another client.  Cancellation fee is the full cost of the session.   

Scheduling Sessions: To accommodate people’s work schedules, Ros schedules counselling sessions on Mondays (AM, Afternoon), Tuesdays (variably mornings, afternoons, evenings), and full day Wednesdays including evenings. Please email Ros to book.