Areas of practice
- Abuse - Emotional, Physical, Sexual
- Intimacy Issues
- Marriage and/or Relationship Issues
- Sexual Assault
- Trauma Counselling
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behaviour Therapy
- Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)
- Family Systems
- Gottman Method Couples Therapy
- Marriage & Couples Counselling
- Narrative Therapy
- Sex Therapy
- Somatic Experiencing
Counselling practice website:www.laurenshay.ca
I provide professional, non-judgmental, collaborative support to individuals and couples in Vancouver. By offering a safe and warm therapeutic environment for exploring your unique life challenges, I can help you to increase your self-awareness and break free from painful patterns. I recognize how difficult it can be to take the step of contacting a therapist for help, and the courage that it takes to look at our patterns of relating with ourselves, our loved ones, and the world as a whole - I am passionate about helping my clients to access the courage to do this brave work.
My therapeutic practice is guided by a client-centred and strengths-based framework. I aim to be part of a movement to help build a more compassionate, caring, respectful, and equal world.
My areas of practice include:
I have worked with countless individuals who have experienced intimate partner violence, sexual assault, and childhood sexual abuse. I focus on the long-term impacts of trauma on relationships, sense of self, and sexuality. Whether immediately after the event or years later, support and connection are essential for healing from overwhelmingly stressful and distressing events. I understand the importance of creating a safe relationship, which is the foundation for trauma recovery. For some individuals recovering from trauma, I incorporate Somatic Experiencing, a mind-body approach to trauma recovery that fosters nervous system healing and body awareness.
Sexuality is one of the most wonderful, complicated, scary, challenging, fun parts of being human. Concerns about an aspect of your sexuality or sex life can often be difficult to understand and resolve because of the culture of shame and silence that surrounds sex and sexuality in our society. This shame is often internalized by us as individuals, making it difficult to find opportunities to work through a sexual issue. I offer a comfortable, non-judgemental space to discuss any sexual concerns. I was trained in sex therapy at the University of Guelph’s Intensive Sex Therapy Training program. This program is the most widely recognized sex therapy training program in Canada, and is run by leaders in the field of sex therapy. I am experienced in working with sexual minorities, including members of the LGBTQ+ community, practitioners of BDSM, and non-monogamous relationships.
I am trained in EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) which views emotions as important indicators of the normal and healthy needs that people experience in relationships. Although these emotions can sometimes feel overwhelming, I believe that it is the act of honouring them, not overcoming them, that can help people to achieve relationships that are peaceful, caring, and passionate.
I am experienced in working on relationship concerns with individuals and couples, and both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships.
Heartbreak & Separation
After a separation, people often feel sad, lost, empty, alone, and angry. Expecting yourself to just “bounce back” after heartbreak is unrealistic. Recovering from the loss will take time and support. Seeing a counsellor is an effective way to learn to cope with the stressors associated with the loss.
I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) #13221 with the BC Association of Clinical Counsellors and a Registered Social Worker (RSW) #10631 with the BC College of Social Workers. I have a Master of Social Work Degree (MSW) from the University of British Columbia and have completed numerous advanced clinical trainings in couples counselling, sex therapy, somatic therapy, Dialectical Behavioural Therapy and narrative therapy.
I am registered with CVAP (the Crime Victim Assistance Program) which provides coverage for counselling for victims of crimes, their families, and witnesses of violent crimes Additionally, I will cover the difference in cost between my rate and the payout by CVAP in order to ensure that victims of crime can access counselling with me at no cost to them.
New clients are welcome to book a FREE 20-minute initial consultation here: https://eastvancouvercounselling.janeapp.com/#/staff_member/7/treatment/35. Please note that following this consultation, you will be placed on Lauren's waitlist (of approximately 6-8 weeks) before beginning counselling sessions.
- Somatic Experiencing - Beginner I, II, and III and Intermediate I, II, and III
- Sexual Health Educator Certification at Options for Sexual Health
- Intensive Sex Therapy Training Program at the University of Guelph
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy Externship and Core Skills at the Vancouver Couple & Family Institute
Client fee individuals:$145 - 50 minute session
Client fee couples/families:$210 - 80 minute session