Areas of practice
- Abuse - Emotional, Physical, Sexual
- Anxiety and/or Panic
- Brain Injury
- Cross Cultural Issues
- Marriage and/or Relationship Issues
- Personal Growth
- Self-Esteem Issues
- Body Centred Therapy
- Cross Cultural Therapy
- Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)
- Gottman Method Couples Therapy
- Mindfulness approaches
- Online/ Virtual Counselling
Counselling practice website:www.anelegantmind.com
Are you an emerging adult that's looking to be more grounded in him or herself? Perhaps a recent relationship breakdown has caused you to feel very dysregulated and alone in the world. Working with me can help you achieve a state of calm and groundedness that you have never experienced before.
I have a special interest in working in with cultural minorities gain clarity in the generational trauma that they have acquired through their family of origin. Generational trauma can present as symptoms as anxiety, depression, career difficulties and issues with intimate relationships.
I had personally walked this journey myself so I can confidently say that bringing these issues to awareness has been life-changing.
If you are a couple that's in relationship distress, I also help couples walk through difficulties in their relationship. Sometimes you need a third person to help you look outside of yourselves and see the changes that each of you need to make in order to achieve greater relationship satisfaction.
My work is grounded in neuroscience and psychological research, and uses the person of the therapist to create a safe container to tap into and process dormant thoughts and feelings.
I work with individuals and couples in the following three areas:
- Relationship distress
- Concussion/brain injury adjustment
My clientele is generally millennials and individuals from cultural minorities, particularly those of Asian heritage.
Book a free 15-minute consultation and start the journey of reconnecting with your creativity, alignment and freedom.
What I Work With
There is a common misconception that trauma is a rare event or that you have to have lived through a war to feel traumatized or be diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). However, you can become traumatized through a natural disaster, an accident, being betrayed in a relationship, through being emotionally neglected or through being physically, emotionally or financially abused. Trauma can be passed down from generations to generations. It can be as simple as having insufficient emotional attunement from parents who never received emotional attunement themselves. As Stephen Porges said, our nervous system expects from birth to be met with attunement in the form of being heard and understood and when we don’t receive it, it feels are if we hve been physically assaulted. When trauma is repeated and/or feels inescapable, ‘complex trauma’ can develop. Stop the cycle of intergenerational trauma. Start talking to someone about it today.
GENDER AND CULTURAL MINORITIES
I recently attended a seminar by Dr. Derald Wing Sue at the Evolution of Psychotherapy Conference recently and I simply could not ignore the data that he was presenting. Probably one of the most compelling messages he had to say was he found that major American companies were not willing to acknowledge and accommodate cultural differences in workplace behaviour and styles of interacting. This is a racial microaggression. If you have experienced unfair advantages in life because of your race, gender, sexuality or ability, it’s important for therapists to acknowledge and validate these concerns. I work from a social justice and feminist standpoint and I would be honoured to hold your stories about injustice in my therapeutic space.
Concussions and brain injuries are most commonly caused by falling and hitting your head, motor vehicle or road accidents, sporting impacts or by assault or missiles to the head. You can also acquire a brain injury through lightning, electrical accidents and blast wave injuries. It is common after concussion or brain injury to experience extreme emotional distress, fatigue, difficulty concentrating and problem-solving, sensitivity to light and sound, and difficulty with returning to school, work and normal activities. It’s also not uncommon to experience more relationship tension as a result of changes to your behaviour.
These neurological changes can be extremely distressing. You do not have to navigate this alone. I have extensive experience working with brain injury survivors (including stroke, brain tumor, anoxic brain injury) and can help you develop strategies to get you back to living life.
Does it feel like your relationship is not what it used to be? Maybe it feels like there’s a break down in communication. Sometimes it feels like you’re operating at different frequencies. Or perhaps you have deeper feelings inside and you don’t know how to begin telling your partner. Maybe you and your other half are having the same fights over and over. Worst of all, you’re feeling alone in the dyad, with no felt sense of “someone there”.
Before you give up on the relationship, I earnestly suggest you give couples counselling a try. You might be able to experience your partner and/or yourself in a new way.
Couples counselling is intended to be brief and solution-focused. Most couples have sustainable results after 10 to 20 sessions.
I use two research-validated approaches to couples work, Emotionally Focused Therapy, developed by Dr. Sue Johnson and the Gottman Method, developed by John and Julie Gottman.
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy?
Quoted from the International Centre for Excellent in Emotionally Focused Therapy:
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a structured approach to couples therapy formulated in the 1980’s and has developed alongside the science on adult attachment and bonding to expand our understanding about what is happening in couple relationships and to guide therapists. In the last fifteen years, Dr. Johnson and her colleagues have further developed and refined the model and completed numerous studies. EFT is also used with families and individuals. A substantial body of research outlining the effectiveness of EFT now exists. Research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements. The major contraindication for EFT is on-going abuse in the relationship. EFT is being used with many different kinds of couples [... ] [from] many different cultural groups throughout the world. These distressed couples include partners suffering from disorders such as depression, post traumatic stress disorders and chronic illness.
What is the Gottman Method?
The Gottmans have conducted experiments, clinically observed and systematically assimilated research studies describing factors which predict relationship success. They boast a 94% accuracy in being able to predict divorce in couples from the factors they have isolated through quantitative analyses. As a result, they have developed a robust guide for behavioural changes needed for relationship success. A large proponent of the Gottman Method is the comprehensive assessment which details the strengths and areas of improvement in each couple. Equipped with such information, a clinician can make sound suggestions for aspects of The Sound Relationship House theory which require attention. A PDF of the Sound Relationship House theory is available on the resources page.
- I am trained in Gottman Level 1 for Couples Therapy.
- I have extended supervision and training in Accelerated Experiential Psychodynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP).
- Please see a list of additional training I have received by visiting my website or reviewing my LinkedIn profile.
Client fee individuals:120+tax
Client fee couples/families:185+tax