Men's Issues, Addictions - Family and Friends affected by Counsellors

For centuries, men were defined as warriors who were responsible for providing and protecting their families, tribes and communities. Those restraining limitations that were imposed by cultural traditions limited men as far as emotions are concerned.However, modern psychology has rediscovered the differences between men and women and the role of male emotions, relationship dynamics and behaviour in men's issues.

The expectations and demands of our new modern world result in increasing stress levels, often related to relationships and work. Symptoms of male issues that are commonly seen in therapists' offices, include stress, anger, addiction, depression, relationship issues, and work adjustment issues.

A large percentage of men feel that they are inadequate in relationships and at work, and this leads to negative emotional states, shame and fear. These emotions usually stem from negative messages at home and at work. It is harder than ever for men to fulfill their traditional roles, as being the sole bread winner is unrealistic in today's economy, and more men are staying home while women are sole breadwinners.

Traditional roles, particularly in men who were predominantly raised by women, dictate that men are not supposed to show certain emotions. Men who feel the need for nurturance, feel ashamed at their display of emotion and vulnerability. If he experienced childhood abuse, or was raised by an overprotective mother, he may become excessively angry or hurt at perceived criticism, complaints or insults.

Men often perceive asking for help as shameful, or a sign of weakness. Therapy for men's issues was designed for men to vocally express their problems, in individual counselling, couples counselling or group therapy settings.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who offers men's issues to help with your stress and related issues you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Family members are affected by substance use and other addictions. There is a tremendous amount both in the news and in public discourse about what family/friends can do for people affected by addictions. Sometimes it's cast as simply attending Al Anon for example.  There are many professionals who are trained in Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) who may be able to help you help yourself and the addict in compassionate and productive ways.

Note: The Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT Model) was developed by Drs. Robert J. Meyers and Jane Ellen Smith at the University of New Mexico. 

If you need a counsellor or psychologist to help you, as a friend or a family member, with addiction of another you may find someone here.