Marriage and/or Relationship Issues EMDR

Marriage and/or Relationship Issues

Entering into a relationship means merging your life with another person, understanding his or her flaws, quirks and beliefs. With marriage rates declining and divorce statistics set at 50%, it is clear that people are increasingly challenged by marriage and relationship issues, and many lack effective ways to address them. So how can we bridge the gap to understanding our partners better and enjoying romantic bliss?

Many factors affect the interpersonal relationship between two partners who are a couple and sometimes it's hard to see the cause of conflict or friction in a relationship. While some people find divorce to be the best or only option, other people speak to counsellors and psychologists  in a bid to try salvage the relationship.

Signs that indicate a need for couples counselling include poor communication in a relationship, affairs, living past one another, inability to resolve marriage of couples' issues, and acting out negative feelings. When divorce seems like the only option, or if a couple is staying together for the kids' sake, that's a sure sign that therapy is needed.

Therapists do not necessarily  believe that all marriages can be salvaged, but counselling can often help even some of the most challenged relationships.  Through talk therapy, the couple will discover again why they fell in love and what they can do to get back to that place in their marriage. They use a range of effective, proven methods to help couples in any situation to restore intimacy and move past the hurt and wounds to a safe and comfortable place.

The concrete tools used by marriage therapists provide guidance in a supportive and encouraging setting and empower clients to restructure their thoughts and emotions. It helps the couple to work with each other, instead of on one another, helping each individual to find the person he or she is at the core level and to build a happy union.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who works with  couples you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

EMDR

EMDR, also known as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy uses a range of processes to address the full clinical situation. Dual stimulation is one of the key elements and the therapist will use tools such as bilateral eye movements, taps or tones.

Reprocessing involves the client momentarily attending to triggers, past memories or anticipated future events, all the while focusing on the supplied external stimulus. Normally, the client will experience memory changes, new associations and insights. EMDR has been found to be incredibly useful for processing past and present trauma that can continue to impact an individual in many ways.

There are eight phases to EMDR treatment and the therapist will devise a treatment plan during the first phase, and equip the client with the necessary coping skills in the second phase. Phases 3-6 cover the actual EMDR treatment, described above. Phase 7 is about closure, while phase eight is all about re-evaluation of the process.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers EMDR Therapy, please browse our list of practitioners below..

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Christian Monks

M.A., RCC
Does your mind race, are you up in your head a lot, or do you lack motivation and struggle to realize your goals? Have you found success in your career or in the family but find life unsatisfying. Do you find you are... Read more
Jane, a Registered Clinical Counsellor (#0828), is a Certified EMDR therapist and a Cognitive Behaviorial therapist. Since 1989 she has worked with individuals and couples experiencing distressing life events such as... Read more

Janice Stuart

Ph.D., R.Psych
Have you been struggling with a problem for what seems like eons – and there’s no end in sight? Why is it so hard to get to the root of something? Maybe you’ve tried many things and still find... Read more

Lindsay Stewart

M.S.W., RCSW
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At the heart of Integrative Psychotherapy is a respectful and sensitive attunement to the client’s inner world. This helps create a foundation of safety and trust on which all other work in therapy is built. As... Read more

Meagan Maddocks

M.Couns., RCC
Meagan is a registered clinical counsellor who has an expertise in working with clients who live with chronic diseases in Vancouver BC, near Oak & Broadway. Balancing life’s stressors and joys can be a... Read more

Liz James

M.Ed., RCC
I am a registered clinical counsellor (BCACC), an experienced workshop facilitator, a passionate mental health advocate, and a dedicated lifelong learner. I have over 10 years of combined education and work... Read more

Mila Skeeles

M.A., CCC
Like many people, I grew up in an environment where we didn’t talk about our struggles and emotions. From an early age, I learned to keep the difficult things inside and deal with my emotions on my own. Although I... Read more

Fernanda Souza

Ph.D. (cand), RCC
Challenging events? Life changes? Overwhelmed? Stressed? Needing balance?  Struggling with anxiety, relationships, depression, grief, decisions, performance?  Looking forward to getting to where you want to be... Read more

Tricia Antoniuk

M.S.W., RSW
Imagine finding Hope & Passion in your Life... If you feel stuck or frustrated, in emotional pain or a struggling relationship, counselling can help. With respect and patience we will discover how you can meet... Read more

Joy Schellenberg

M.A., RCC
Are you Tired of the Pain and Turmoil in Your life? It’s likely you’ve been struggling for a long time. You’re overwhelmed and you don’t know where to turn. It seems the same negative things... Read more

Donna Vidas

M.A., RCC
Some issues I regularly work with in therapy include: Overcoming recent or life-long patterns that may be interfering with your enjoyment of life depression and mood challenges anxiety and worry grief (loss... Read more

Ginnie Cramer

MC, RCC
Ginnie Cramer is a BCACC Registered Clinical Counseller with a Master's degree in Counselling Psychology from City University of Seattle. Ginnie values each client as an individual and acknowledges his or her unique... Read more

Jaminie Hilton

M.A., RCC
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I am available for telephone appointments as well as in office. My approach is compassionate with individuals - adults and adolescents; couples; and parent-child communication, including parenting after separation... Read more

Carol Siebert

M.Ed., RCC
The Japanese tradition of repairing broken pottery with gold is done with wisdom, knowledge, patience and skill. Once restored, the item will become more beautiful and valuable then the original piece. That is what... Read more

Penney Hartsen

M.S.W., RCSW
Life is difficult. We all struggle at times and need help to find our way. This is a safe place to sit with our doubts and insecurities...no judgement... on the way to healing and developing into the person you most... Read more

Tamara Adilman

M.A., RCC
Tamara has specialized training in relationship therapy and individual psychotherapy. As a relationship therapist she works with couples, adult children with their parents and adult sibling relationships. Her goal is to... Read more

Bonnie Mason

M.A., RCC
Bonnie Mason and Associates currently has six  associates providing services to White Rock and South Surrey, Melanie Huck, Tia Noble,  Sherri Calder, Leanne Fessler, Eva Pedersen and Teal Maedel... Read more

Tania Zulkoskey

M.S.W., RCSW
Video/Telephone Sessions Available. Tania counsels individuals, children and couples on issues such as:  relationship dynamics  communication issues  parenting and multiples  ... Read more

Jesse Schellenberg

M.A., RCC
Note: Due to the recent state of emergency in B.C., I will be offering sessions exclusively online until the crisis is resolved.  Jesse believes that each person has the ability to grow and change. He approaches... Read more

Mary Smyth

M.Sc., CCC
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I am a Certified Canadian Counsellor and I trained as an Integrative Counsellor and Psychotherapist which enables me to work with clients drawing from  many modalities according to the individual client and what he... Read more

Susan Rungta

M.A., R.Psych
Susan is a registrant of the College of Psychologists of B.C. (CPBC # 1647). She has been helping individuals, couples, families, and groups for over 25 years. Susan works with a wide range of issues including stress... Read more

Morgan McKusick

M.A., RCC
I'm Morgan - Registered Clinical Counsellor and Certified Yoga Instructor. To me, one of the greatest trials and rewards in life is to feel at ease with who you are, how you experience the world and how... Read more

Jonathan Wieser

M.A., RCC
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Jon is a Registered Clinical Counsellor and Marriage and Family Therapist holding a Master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Trinity Western University with a focus on evidence-based... Read more

Lori McHattie

M.A., RCC
Hello and welcome - I hope that you find this information helpful as you make your decision about seeking counselling. I completed my MA in Counselling Psychology at Simon Fraser University and have more than... Read more

Debbie Day

M.A., RCC
Debbie Day has a Masters Degree in Counseling Psychology from the Adler School of Professional Psychology. Debbie is a Registered Clinical counselor (1519) with BC Association of Clinical Counselors. She has... Read more

Lisa Webster

M.A., CCC
  What makes Lisa stand out is her warm personality and her straight forward approach. With gentleness and humour, she guides clients to find their own insights, while providing tools and teaching techniques... Read more

Amber Louie

M.Sc., RCC
As an anti-oppression psychotherapist, I value your experiences based on culture, race, indigeneity, socioeconomic status, gender identity, sexuality, age, (dis)ability, and spirituality. I often work with people who... Read more

Joelle Lazar

M.A., RCC
I love my work, and am passionate about helping people have more joy and fulfillment in their lives and relationships! I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor and EMDR practitioner with extensive training and... Read more

Sophia Van Vuuren

M.A., R.Psych
Sophia holds a Masters degree in Clinical Psychology and is a Registered Psychologist with the College of Psychologists in British Columbia, #1659. She has worked in the mental health field as a Clinical Psychologist... Read more

Gwen Scott

M.C., RCC
Welcome to Gwen Scott Counselling. Thank you for taking the time to read this synopsis of who I am as a therapist and the professional services I offer. It has been my privilege to serve clients in the Ft. Langley... Read more