Intimacy Issues, Marriage and/or Relationship Issues Counsellors

Intimacy Issues, Marriage and/or Relationship Issues

Intimacy issues are common for people who fear vulnerability. Some people can become vulnerable in front of a few trusted friends, however, but when a relationship starts becoming too close, they feel suffocated. In this sense, the intimacy issues are seated in the fear of developing a deep and meaningful relationship with another person.

Two fears that are at the heart of intimacy issues, are the fear of abandonment (fearing the partner might leave them) and the fear of engulfment (fearing that they would lose themselves in a relationship), which sometimes co-exist. These fears, often rooted in childhood traumas, are often deeply entrenched in codependent adult relationships where they cause friction.

A therapist who works with people who have intimacy issues will first help you to learn to become comfortable with yourself and accept yourself for who you are. You will explore the complex past events that have created these intimacy issues and discover that those events don't have to cloud your present experiences.

This process is essential in discovering that rejection does not have to be a traumatic experience. Finally, you will learn how to set personal boundaries that will help you to avoid the fear of engulfment and to cope, should abandonment occur. While healing intimacy issues can be a challenging and somewhat painful task, the rewards are incredible.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who addresses intimacy issues, you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Entering into a relationship means merging your life with another person, understanding his or her flaws, quirks and beliefs. With marriage rates declining and divorce statistics set at 50%, it is clear that people are increasingly challenged by marriage and relationship issues, and many lack effective ways to address them. So how can we bridge the gap to understanding our partners better and enjoying romantic bliss?

Many factors affect the interpersonal relationship between two partners who are a couple and sometimes it's hard to see the cause of conflict or friction in a relationship. While some people find divorce to be the best or only option, other people speak to counsellors and psychologists  in a bid to try salvage the relationship.

Signs that indicate a need for couples counselling include poor communication in a relationship, affairs, living past one another, inability to resolve marriage of couples' issues, and acting out negative feelings. When divorce seems like the only option, or if a couple is staying together for the kids' sake, that's a sure sign that therapy is needed.

Therapists do not necessarily  believe that all marriages can be salvaged, but counselling can often help even some of the most challenged relationships.  Through talk therapy, the couple will discover again why they fell in love and what they can do to get back to that place in their marriage. They use a range of effective, proven methods to help couples in any situation to restore intimacy and move past the hurt and wounds to a safe and comfortable place.

The concrete tools used by marriage therapists provide guidance in a supportive and encouraging setting and empower clients to restructure their thoughts and emotions. It helps the couple to work with each other, instead of on one another, helping each individual to find the person he or she is at the core level and to build a happy union.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who works with  couples you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

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Mary Longworth

M.Sc., RCC
Mary Longworth is in private practice (Delta Counselling) in the South Delta, Tsawwassen, Ladner and New Westminster regions since receiving her M.Sc. in marital, family and child counselling in 1995. Mary is a... Read more

John Taylor

M.A., RCC
Relationships make the world go round; they can also make your world miserable when things aren't working. I am a trained marital therapist with the skills and passion to help you improve your... Read more

Daniele Doucet

Ph.D., RCC
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Dr Daniele Doucet (nee Duplassie) is the Founder and Director of The Shanti Counselling Centre. She is a Registered Clinical Counsellor with the BC Association of Clinical Counsellors, a Certified... Read more

Lauren Shay

M.S.W., RSW
I provide professional, non-judgmental, collaborative support to individuals and couples in Vancouver. By offering a safe and warm therapeutic environment for exploring your unique life challenges, I can help you to... Read more

Andrea Yeo

M.Ed., RCC
Andrea Yeo is a Registered Clinical Counsellor with the BCACC, a Child Interviewer for BC Hear the Child Society, a Secondary School Teacher with North Vancouver School District, a Certified Parenting Facilitator and... Read more

Tom Foster

M.S.W., RSW
TOM FOSTER, MSW, RSW: Tom has been a therapist for over 25 years and has experience working with clients facing a wide range of concerns. Tom has worked extensively with issues related to sexuality, relationship... Read more

Tanya Elez

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Tanya Elez is a Registered Psychologist and a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist who sees clients at her office in New Westminster downtown. She offers counselling services to diverse couples,... Read more

Joanne Duma

Ed.D., R.Psych
Dr. Duma is a registered psychologist who completed her Doctorate in Counselling Psychology at the University of Toronto. She has extensive experience treating a wide variety of clinical issues including:... Read more

Grant McMahon

M.C., RCC
I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC # 11135) and psychotherapist working in Vancouver.  I can help you if you are struggling with low mood, depression, anxiety/panic, or problems in your marriage or intimate... Read more

Daphne Georghiou

MFT, RCC
Get help from a seasoned, clinically trained psychotherapist in Vancouver, with over 20 years of experience supporting individuals, couples and families cultivate inner balance and create a path to finding joy in... Read more

Ron Prasad

M.A., RCC
Hello, my name is Ron and I’m a registered clinical counselor with the BCACC (British Columbia Clinical Counselors Association), and a member of ITAPP (International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals... Read more

Toni Pieroni

M.A., RCC
I believe that healing, growth and development occur within the context of relationship. Therefore, choosing the right therapist is a critical aspect of the therapeutic process. I bring over 40 years of personal... Read more

Aiden Ansarian

M.Couns., RCC
Welcome. My name is Aiden and I'm a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) and Canadian Certified Counsellor (CCC) with a focus on treating anxiety/panic and mood issues related to relationships, chronic stress, and... Read more

Susan Baum

Ph.D., R.Psych
"When we are no longer able to change a situation—we are challenged to change ourselves." Victor Frankl To have my clients take up the challenge to change—this is the power I try to help them... Read more

Sara Kammerzell

M.Ed., RCC
For over twenty years, Sara has helped people grow through turbulent times in their lives so that they can reclaim their full vitality and live the life they were born to live.  She strives to connect with... Read more

Svetlana Vasilyeva

M.C., RCC
I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor with a Master of Counselling Degree from City University of Seattle. My previous education and experience was in medicine (M.D. from Kuban State Medical University in Russia with a... Read more

Kim Watt

M.A., RCC
How are you? Are things going as well as you'd like them to? If not, maybe I can help. I understand how challenging day-to-day life can be, and have the skills and experience to help you manage your mood, your... Read more

Kaela Scott

M.Couns., RCC
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I am passionate and excited about the relationships people have with themselves and with others. As a Registered Clinical Counsellor (#3732) I work hard to help people get at the root of what is causing their painful... Read more

Tamara Adilman

M.A., RCC
Tamara has specialized training in relationship therapy and individual psychotherapy. As a relationship therapist she works with couples, adult children with their parents and adult sibling relationships. Her goal is to... Read more

Avraham Cohen

Ph.D., RCC
Avraham Cohen, Ph. D., RCC, CCC holds the designations of Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) with the BC Association of Clinical Counsellors and Canadian Counsellor Certification (CCC) with the Canadian Counselling... Read more

Daphne Gelbart

M.A., RCC
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Daphne Gelbart, MA, RCC, is a Vancouver clinical counsellor registered with the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors (Registration # 3290). Daphne is a graduate of the University of British Columbia (UBC... Read more

Abby Petterson

M.A., RCC
Abby Petterson is a Registered Clinical Counsellor and a Cerified Canadian Counsellor offering psychotherapy and counselling services to individuals, couples and families. Abby has specialized training and... Read more

Steven Lake

M.Ed., CCC
Dr. Lake has a PhD in Educational Administration. He has a personal interest in emotion and crisis management and created a Model Of Effective Crisis Management for his dissertation. His Master's degree is in... Read more

Erin Seggie

M.C., RCC
I’m Erin Seggie, a registered clinical counsellor (RCC). I have a Masters of Counselling Psychology (MCP) from Adler University, and a Bachelors of Arts (BA) in Psychology from the University of the Fraser Valley... Read more

Diana Sadat

M.C., RCC
From the outside looking in, you have a great sex life but deep down, you’re overwhelmed and feel ashamed of your who you are sexually. Sometimes, it feels like you just keep spiralling down and you’ll never... Read more

Michael Dayan

Ph.D., RCC
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Here is some basic information about Dr. Michael Dayan: Fluent in CBT and other modalities, theories, & technique (narrative, depth, attachment, family systems, psychodynamic, existential... Read more

Meagan Maddocks

M.Couns., RCC
Meagan is a registered clinical counsellor who has an expertise in working with clients who live with chronic diseases in Vancouver BC, near Oak & Broadway. Balancing life’s stressors and joys can be a... Read more

Peter Vaughan

M.A., RCC
Certified Gottman Method Therapist, Peter frequently addresses couples communication during conflict, restoring fidelity and commitment, or building intimacy and sexuality. Other common issues: ongoing incompatibilities... Read more

Lyne Piche

Ph.D., R.Psych
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Dr. Lyne Piché is a Registered Psychologist working in Abbotsford, BC. Her services are offered in both French and English. She has many years experience working with people who have sexual difficulties, sexual... Read more

Renee Bartkiewicz

M.A., RCC
  Renee Bartkiewicz is both a Registered Clinical Counsellor and an Art Therapist. In her inclusive, creative, and collaborative practice, she sees individuals that present with a variety of  issues... Read more