Intimacy Issues, Marriage and/or Relationship Issues Counsellors

Intimacy Issues, Marriage and/or Relationship Issues

Intimacy issues are common for people who fear vulnerability. Some people can become vulnerable in front of a few trusted friends, however, but when a relationship starts becoming too close, they feel suffocated. In this sense, the intimacy issues are seated in the fear of developing a deep and meaningful relationship with another person.

Two fears that are at the heart of intimacy issues, are the fear of abandonment (fearing the partner might leave them) and the fear of engulfment (fearing that they would lose themselves in a relationship), which sometimes co-exist. These fears, often rooted in childhood traumas, are often deeply entrenched in codependent adult relationships where they cause friction.

A therapist who works with people who have intimacy issues will first help you to learn to become comfortable with yourself and accept yourself for who you are. You will explore the complex past events that have created these intimacy issues and discover that those events don't have to cloud your present experiences.

This process is essential in discovering that rejection does not have to be a traumatic experience. Finally, you will learn how to set personal boundaries that will help you to avoid the fear of engulfment and to cope, should abandonment occur. While healing intimacy issues can be a challenging and somewhat painful task, the rewards are incredible.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who addresses intimacy issues, you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Entering into a relationship means merging your life with another person, understanding his or her flaws, quirks and beliefs. With marriage rates declining and divorce statistics set at 50%, it is clear that people are increasingly challenged by marriage and relationship issues, and many lack effective ways to address them. So how can we bridge the gap to understanding our partners better and enjoying romantic bliss?

Many factors affect the interpersonal relationship between two partners who are a couple and sometimes it's hard to see the cause of conflict or friction in a relationship. While some people find divorce to be the best or only option, other people speak to counsellors and psychologists  in a bid to try salvage the relationship.

Signs that indicate a need for couples counselling include poor communication in a relationship, affairs, living past one another, inability to resolve marriage of couples' issues, and acting out negative feelings. When divorce seems like the only option, or if a couple is staying together for the kids' sake, that's a sure sign that therapy is needed.

Therapists do not necessarily  believe that all marriages can be salvaged, but counselling can often help even some of the most challenged relationships.  Through talk therapy, the couple will discover again why they fell in love and what they can do to get back to that place in their marriage. They use a range of effective, proven methods to help couples in any situation to restore intimacy and move past the hurt and wounds to a safe and comfortable place.

The concrete tools used by marriage therapists provide guidance in a supportive and encouraging setting and empower clients to restructure their thoughts and emotions. It helps the couple to work with each other, instead of on one another, helping each individual to find the person he or she is at the core level and to build a happy union.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who works with  couples you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

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Renee Bartkiewicz

M.A., RCC
  Renee Bartkiewicz is both a Registered Clinical Counsellor and an Art Therapist. In her inclusive, creative, and collaborative practice, she sees individuals that present with a variety of  issues... Read more

Judith Setton-Markus

M.Ed., R.Psych
Judith Setton-Markus is a Registered Psychologist licensed with the College of Psychologists of BC #1712. She is also a Psychoanalyst and Psychoanalytically Oriented Psychotherapist, a member of the Western Branch... Read more

Amber Louie

M.Sc., RCC
To assist you in reaching your goals, I support you to focus on developing your strengths. As an anti-oppression psychotherapist, I value your experiences based on culture, race, indigeneity, socioeconomic status,... Read more

Ron Prasad

M.A., RCC
Hello, my name is Ron and I’m a registered clinical counselor with the BCACC (British Columbia Clinical Counselors Association), and a member of ITAPP (International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals... Read more
My name is Constance and I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor and a Canadian Certified Counsellor. I hold a MA in Counselling Psychology from Adler University, and a BA in Psychology from the University of... Read more

John Taylor

M.A., RCC
Relationships make the world go round; they can also make your world miserable when things aren't working. I am a trained marital therapist with the skills and passion to help you improve your... Read more

Shelley Gordon

M.S.W., RCC
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Shelley Gordon has been an Imago Relationship Therapist since 1996, and a Therapist since 1983. She has over 25 years of experience, and is an advanced clinician with Imago Relationships International. Shelley is... Read more

Teesha Morgan

M.A., CCC
Dr. Teesha Morgan is a Psychotherapist, published author, and the co-founder of the Westland Academy of Clinical Sex Therapy. Dr Morgan specializes in Sex Therapy and Couples Counselling, and has had a successful full... Read more

Tamara Adilman

M.A., RCC
Tamara has specialized training in relationship therapy and individual psychotherapy. As a relationship therapist she works with couples, adult children with their parents and adult sibling relationships. Her goal is to... Read more

Michele Maurer

M.Sc., RCC
Find Your Resilience! Professional Counselling for Women, Youth, Couples & Families I've been working as a counsellor for 30+ years and still, I love my job! You deserve to live life to the fullest. If... Read more

Gabriel Contreras

M.Couns., RCC
Gabriel Contreras MCP, RCC is a Registered Clinical Counsellor, Adlerian psychotherapist, providing individual counselling, couples / relationship counselling, and sex therapy, with extensive additional training and... Read more

Marilee Sigal

Psy.D., RCC
Our relationships with our parents, siblings, friends, lovers, spouses and children can be our greatest source of joy, and also provide our most profound experiences of frustration and sorrow. Marilee has been helping... Read more

Nicklas Ehrlich

M.S.W., RCC
Nicklas Ehrlich is a licensed Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) and a Registered Social Worker (RSW) with an MSW from the University of British Columbia. She has over 39 years of experience as a Psychotherapist... Read more

Mary Longworth

M.Sc., RCC
Mary Longworth is in private practice (Delta Counselling) in the South Delta, Tsawwassen, Ladner and New Westminster regions since receiving her M.Sc. in marital, family and child counselling in 1995. Mary is a... Read more

Tanya Elez

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Tanya Elez is a Registered Psychologist and a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist who sees clients at her office in New Westminster downtown. She offers counselling services to diverse couples,... Read more

Meagan Maddocks

M.Couns., RCC
Meagan is a registered clinical counsellor who has an expertise in working with clients who live with chronic diseases in Vancouver BC, near Oak & Broadway. Balancing life’s stressors and joys can be a... Read more

Meris Williams

Ph.D., R.Psych
Hello, and welcome to my counselling practice!  I have a PhD in Counselling Psychology (from the University of British Columbia), and I'm a Registered Psychologist (#2188) in BC.  My practice is located in... Read more

Maureen McEvoy

M.A., RCC
Maureen McEvoy, MA, RCC has been in private practice for more than 20 years. She works with individuals, couples and groups. Maureen uses Imago Relationship Therapy in her work with couples. As an Imago therapist,... Read more

Sandy Brooks

M.S.W., RSW
Sandy Brooks is a Registered Social Worker (#03369) approved for private practice.  She has over 30 years experience of helping individuals and families. Sandy draws from her many years of diverse... Read more

Jan Sutherland

M.Sc., RMFT
Jan Sutherland is an experienced couples, marriage and family therapist with a well established practice in Kelowna, B.C. She provides relationship and marriage counselling to both singles and couples. In couples... Read more

S Lorraine McAteer

M.A., RCC
Lorraine McAteer has dual accreditations as a Registered Clinical Counsellor and Certified Canadian Counsellor. She has 12 years Post-Secondary Education in Medical and Psychological Sciences, was awarded an MA in... Read more

Sandy Boon

M.A., RCC
Although not all of the last 30 plus years of Sandy's professional career has been spent exclusively practicing therapy, Sandy has passionately helped children, families, couples and corporations through her... Read more

Jessie Langlois

M.Sc., RCC
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I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) and a Canadian Certified Counsellor (CCC) working with adults and adolescents in my Vancouver office.   Many of the people who come to see me have various motivations... Read more

Aiden Ansarian

M.Couns., RCC
Welcome. My name is Aiden and I'm a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) and Canadian Certified Counsellor (CCC) with a focus on treating anxiety/panic and mood issues related to relationships, chronic stress, and... Read more

Nicole McLeod

M.A., RCC
Life can feel overwhelming.  It can get complicated.  It’s easy to feel stuck, powerless and empty and sometimes it feels impossible to see past that.   My name is Nicole McLeod, I’m a... Read more

Joe Ramirez

M.Couns., CCC
Joe Ramirez is a Canadian Certified Counsellor and an Adlerian psychotherapist with a Master of Counselling Psychology, providing women and men, both, individual and couples counselling.   His approach to the... Read more

Joel Brass

M.A.Sc., RCC
Joel Brass, M.A.Sc., R.C.C. has been an individual, relationship and family therapist for the past 35 years. His areas of expertise and personal passion are the healing and growth of individuals and love... Read more

Erin Seggie

M.C., RCC
I’m Erin Seggie, a registered clinical counsellor (RCC). I have a Masters of Counselling Psychology (MCP) from Adler University, and a Bachelors of Arts (BA) in Psychology from the University of the Fraser Valley... Read more

Josef Zaide

Ph.D., R.Psych
For over 35 years I have worked with clients in hospital, school and private practice settings. In my therapy practice I see individuals and couples from a variety of cultural and religious backgrounds. They bring a... Read more

Daniele Doucet

Ph.D., RCC
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Dr Daniele Doucet (nee Duplassie) is the Founder and Director of The Shanti Counselling Centre. She is a Registered Clinical Counsellor with the BC Association of Clinical Counsellors, a Certified... Read more