Divorce and/or Separation, Intimacy Issues, Women's Issues Counsellors

Divorce and/or Separation, Intimacy Issues, Women's Issues

Breaking the vow of "till death do us part" and getting divorced has been listed on the list of top things that people fear. The end of a marriage can indeed cause incredible confusion, sadness, grief, anger, guilt, fear, anxiety and shame. Not only does the end of a marriage affect a couple, but also the children.

Issues that can cause a marriage to fail include criticism, lack of respect, defensiveness, and aloofness, to name a few. Dealing with these issues might save a marriage. Mediation therapy can help couples even before a divorce, when the signs of marital disintegration starts to show. Couples therapy is an excellent tool at that point in a marriage to see whether saving the marriage is a viable option, and if it's not, it can help them find ways to reach settlements, move forward, and co-parent in a healthy and constructive way.

For children going through the divorce of their parents, therapy is critical. While parents are facing the realities of divorce and the emotional trauma, they often don't have the time or inclination to help their children deal with their sense of abandonment, pain, loss or guilt. Children may even feel that they are to blame for their parents' problems. Therapy can help children to come to terms with these issues and find strategies to move forward in a positive way.

In the case where couples counselling is not an option, a therapist can help the person who was left behind deal with the grief from the divorce. Therapy is aimed at empowering the individual to overcome grief and negative emotions and to move forward as a single person.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who addresses divorce issues you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Intimacy issues are common for people who fear vulnerability. Some people can become vulnerable in front of a few trusted friends, however, but when a relationship starts becoming too close, they feel suffocated. In this sense, the intimacy issues are seated in the fear of developing a deep and meaningful relationship with another person.

Two fears that are at the heart of intimacy issues, are the fear of abandonment (fearing the partner might leave them) and the fear of engulfment (fearing that they would lose themselves in a relationship), which sometimes co-exist. These fears, often rooted in childhood traumas, are often deeply entrenched in codependent adult relationships where they cause friction.

A therapist who works with people who have intimacy issues will first help you to learn to become comfortable with yourself and accept yourself for who you are. You will explore the complex past events that have created these intimacy issues and discover that those events don't have to cloud your present experiences.

This process is essential in discovering that rejection does not have to be a traumatic experience. Finally, you will learn how to set personal boundaries that will help you to avoid the fear of engulfment and to cope, should abandonment occur. While healing intimacy issues can be a challenging and somewhat painful task, the rewards are incredible.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who addresses intimacy issues, you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Women are complex, and often their need to feel heard and understood is not met in society. In this world, women are required to listen and to care, when they are often the ones who need nurturing, too.  Therefore, talk therapy has been found to be extremely beneficial in dealing with women's issues.

Talking can help a woman to better understand the feelings, thoughts and beliefs that manifest in certain unwanted behaviors. It can help pave the way to empowerment in terms of decisions and self-acceptance, two elements that can improve relationships and life in general. Working through these issues is essential because it determines a woman's experience of life and the people around her.

Women's issues are often at play when someone has experienced abuse (physical, emotional or sexual), relationship problems, physical conditions, family problems, or loss. Those issues can make anyone feel lonely or isolated, depressed, lacking confidence, anxious or stressed.

Talk therapy includes one-on-one consultations that will help you to learn to set clear boundaries, gain assertiveness and build self esteem in order to gain more control. In cases that involve other family members, group sessions will help to redefine relationships, improve communication and resolve resentment and anger issues. Businesswomen can benefit from women's issues counselling by learning how to develop themselves and to achieve work-life balance.

Counsellors and psychologists who deal with women's issues provide a safe and confidential environment in which you can express yourself, process your emotions and restructure your thoughts, while learning how to assert yourself as a woman in today's fast-paced world.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who offers talk therapy or counselling to address your women's issues you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Bianca Rucker

Ph.D., RMFT
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Bianca Rucker uses a brief model of psychotherapy and/or clinical hypnosis to help individuals and couples who experience sexual or relationship difficulties. Dr. Rucker is a CAMFT Approved Supervisor and Mentor.... Read more