Divorce and/or Separation Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Divorce and/or Separation

Breaking the vow of "till death do us part" and getting divorced has been listed on the list of top things that people fear. The end of a marriage can indeed cause incredible confusion, sadness, grief, anger, guilt, fear, anxiety and shame. Not only does the end of a marriage affect a couple, but also the children.

Issues that can cause a marriage to fail include criticism, lack of respect, defensiveness, and aloofness, to name a few. Dealing with these issues might save a marriage. Mediation therapy can help couples even before a divorce, when the signs of marital disintegration starts to show. Couples therapy is an excellent tool at that point in a marriage to see whether saving the marriage is a viable option, and if it's not, it can help them find ways to reach settlements, move forward, and co-parent in a healthy and constructive way.

For children going through the divorce of their parents, therapy is critical. While parents are facing the realities of divorce and the emotional trauma, they often don't have the time or inclination to help their children deal with their sense of abandonment, pain, loss or guilt. Children may even feel that they are to blame for their parents' problems. Therapy can help children to come to terms with these issues and find strategies to move forward in a positive way.

In the case where couples counselling is not an option, a therapist can help the person who was left behind deal with the grief from the divorce. Therapy is aimed at empowering the individual to overcome grief and negative emotions and to move forward as a single person.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who addresses divorce issues you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) has helped couples and family members to treat distressed relationships, depression and a range of other emotional difficulties. It is one of the most common treatments used in private counselling and psychologist practices, training centres and hospital clinics around the world.

The main goal of Emotionally focused therapy is to create a secure bond between romantic partners and to reorganize and expand critical emotional responses. It helps to improve communication between partners, which is more beneficial to the relationship. EFT is a practical therapy that has been used successfully in relationships and marriages for many years, due to the fact that it creates a spirit of respect and harmony.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy generally only lasts between six to twenty sessions and has been shown effective in 90% of relationships.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, please browse our list of practitioners below..

Note:  Some practitioners practice Emotion Focused Therapy rather than Emotionally Focused therapy.  You will want to confirm that it is indeed Emotionally Focused Therapy that the counsellor/psychologist practices.

Note: You may narrow your search by selecting more than one filter below.

Ann Holroyd

Ph.D., RCC
Introduction People seek counselling or long-term psychotherapy for a wide variety of reasons. Sometimes a crisis has arisen in your life that feels unresolvable without professional help; Or it maybe a significant... Read more

Chris Walker

M.A., CCC
“At some time or other, we all find ourselves unable to cope with life’s difficulties. The aim of counselling is to help you deal with these or other issues, so that you can get on with a meaningful and... Read more

Tanya Elez

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Tanya Elez is a Registered Psychologist and a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist who sees clients at her office in New Westminster downtown. She offers counselling services to diverse couples,... Read more

Michelle Coulombe

M.A., RCC
***Please note that I am not currently accepting new clients until September 2019.***    I have a BA in Psychology, as well as an MA in Counselling Psychology (family specialization) from UBC. I have been... Read more

Paul James

Ed.D., R.Psych
Although the adults whom I assist come with a wide range of presenting problems - such as sexual dysfunctions, mental health issues, relationship distress, and addictions, the underlying problem is that all are... Read more

Lisa Crossfield

M.Ed., RCC
I believe everyone has the ability to restore hope, strength, balance, joy, clarity, meaning and connection to live their best life. At certain points we may need help to recognize our strengths, to accept our... Read more

Rotem Regev

Ph.D., R.Psych
Hello! I am a Registered Psychologist (PhD in Clinical Psychology).  I am the author of multiple journal articles and book chapters, an invited speaker in the areas of attachment, family transitions, and trauma,... Read more

Mary Gillis

M.A., RCC
Mary Gillis is a registered clinical counsellor who sees clients at her Vancouver office, located West Broadway, near Yew St. Mary brings years of experience to her therapy practice. She... Read more

Jeff Ross

M.A., RCC
 Feel good about the possibilities that life has to offer.Are you seeing life clearly?Do you tell your family and friends “I’m fine” even though you know you are not?Do you feel physically,... Read more

Bea Mackay

Ph.D., R.Psych
For 28 years I have enjoyed working with individuals, couples and families. I believe in using methods that are grounded in theory and research. My goal is to help people help themselves. I view people as resourceful... Read more

Geoffrey Carr

Ph.D., R.Psych
My waitlist is usually about 6 months long, but please check drgeoffreycarr.com for a more accurate estimate.  Dr. Carr (Ph.D., McGill, 1985) is a Registered Psychologist (#953) who offers psychotherapy for... Read more

Lorill Drummund

M.Ed., RCC
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I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor (#0921) working in BC since 1994 as a therapist, group facilitator, and instructor. My primary focus is working with couples to break through their ... Read more

Peter Silin

M.S.W., RSW
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I  have been bringing  warmth and compassion to my counselling with individuals and couples since 1980.  I believe the key to effective therapy begins with  building safe relationships where  my... Read more

Whitney Regan

M.A., RCC
My passion for counselling comes out of a deep desire to walk alongside people as they courageously seek to better understand themselves, the relationships in their lives, and the challenges they face. As a therapist,... Read more

Yaari Dyer

Ph.D., R.Psych
Hello! I am a Registered Psychologist (#2094) and see individual clients and couples in my peaceful Kitsilano office.  I assist adults at every life stage who are grappling with issues... Read more

Megan Jespersen

M.Couns., RCC
I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor and the Founding Director of The Grounding Stone, a queer-owned counselling center and community space located at 5446 Victoria Drive in East Vancouver.  The Grounding Stone... Read more

Daphne Gelbart

M.A., RCC
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Daphne Gelbart, MA, RCC, is a Vancouver clinical counsellor registered with the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors (Registration # 3290). Daphne is a graduate of the University of British Columbia (UBC... Read more

Mary Munro

M.C., RCC
I can help. I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor practicing in downtown Victoria.  Counselling can help you function better: to feel more effective, to give you insight, to help you meet challenges and live... Read more

Lizelle Badenhorst

M.A., RCC
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I have a Masters Degree in Psychology and have worked as a therapist since 1995. I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor(RCC) with the BC Association for Clinical Counsellors. I have been working with anxiety,... Read more

Tabasom Eblaghie

M.A., RCC
Tabasom Eblaghie has her Masters in Counselling Psychology and is a Registered Clinical Counsellor with the BC Association of Clinical Counsellors. She has received her advanced training in Eye Movement Desensitization... Read more

Sophie McEntee

MFT, RCC
I have a combined fifteen years of training and clinical experience working with individuals and couples. Clients come to me usually when they are feeling stuck, overwhelmed or at a crossroad. My clients are often... Read more

Cate Pelling

M.A., RCC
As a Registered Clinical Counsellor with a MA in Counselling Psychology, I have been working in private practice since 2003.  Previous to this, I worked for a number of years in clinical settings... Read more

Michele Maurer

M.Sc., RCC
Find Your Resilience! Professional Counselling for Women, Youth, Couples & Families I've been working as a counsellor for 30+ years and still, I love my job! You deserve to live life to the fullest. If... Read more

Kathleen Beaton

M.Couns., RCC
Sometimes dealing with life’s difficulties can leave you feeling overwhelmed, stuck, alone, or unable to cope. You may notice patterns in your life that continuously leave you stranded in the same stuck places,... Read more

Lauren Shay

M.S.W., RSW
I provide professional, non-judgmental, collaborative support to individuals and couples in Vancouver. By offering a safe and warm therapeutic environment for exploring your unique life challenges, I can help you to... Read more

Ruth Skutezky

M.A., RCC
Is anxiety getting in the way of living your best life? Are you feeling disconnected from your partner, arguing more, or even having doubts about your future together? Are you a new parent, struggling to adjust to this... Read more
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One of my clients said that prior to coming to counselling she'd feared that the experience of therapy would be "like turning the room completely upside down." She instead found it to be "like finally... Read more

Sophia Van Vuuren

M.A., R.Psych
Sophia holds a Masters degree in Clinical Psychology and is a Registered Psychologist with the College of Psychologists in British Columbia, #1659. She has worked in the mental health field as a Clinical Psychologist... Read more

Fernanda Souza

Ph.D. (cand), RCC
Challenging events? Life changes? Overwhelmed? Stressed? Needing balance?  Struggling with anxiety, relationships, depression, grief, decisions, performance?  Looking forward to getting to where you want to be... Read more

Joy Schellenberg

M.A., RCC
Are you Tired of the Pain and Turmoil in Your life? It’s likely you’ve been struggling for a long time. You’re overwhelmed and you don’t know where to turn. It seems the same negative things... Read more