Divorce and/or Separation Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Divorce and/or Separation

Breaking the vow of "till death do us part" and getting divorced has been listed on the list of top things that people fear. The end of a marriage can indeed cause incredible confusion, sadness, grief, anger, guilt, fear, anxiety and shame. Not only does the end of a marriage affect a couple, but also the children.

Issues that can cause a marriage to fail include criticism, lack of respect, defensiveness, and aloofness, to name a few. Dealing with these issues might save a marriage. Mediation therapy can help couples even before a divorce, when the signs of marital disintegration starts to show. Couples therapy is an excellent tool at that point in a marriage to see whether saving the marriage is a viable option, and if it's not, it can help them find ways to reach settlements, move forward, and co-parent in a healthy and constructive way.

For children going through the divorce of their parents, therapy is critical. While parents are facing the realities of divorce and the emotional trauma, they often don't have the time or inclination to help their children deal with their sense of abandonment, pain, loss or guilt. Children may even feel that they are to blame for their parents' problems. Therapy can help children to come to terms with these issues and find strategies to move forward in a positive way.

In the case where couples counselling is not an option, a therapist can help the person who was left behind deal with the grief from the divorce. Therapy is aimed at empowering the individual to overcome grief and negative emotions and to move forward as a single person.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who addresses divorce issues you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) has helped couples and family members to treat distressed relationships, depression and a range of other emotional difficulties. It is one of the most common treatments used in private counselling and psychologist practices, training centres and hospital clinics around the world.

The main goal of Emotionally focused therapy is to create a secure bond between romantic partners and to reorganize and expand critical emotional responses. It helps to improve communication between partners, which is more beneficial to the relationship. EFT is a practical therapy that has been used successfully in relationships and marriages for many years, due to the fact that it creates a spirit of respect and harmony.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy generally only lasts between six to twenty sessions and has been shown effective in 90% of relationships.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, please browse our list of practitioners below..

Note:  Some practitioners practice Emotion Focused Therapy rather than Emotionally Focused therapy.  You will want to confirm that it is indeed Emotionally Focused Therapy that the counsellor/psychologist practices.

Note: You may narrow your search by selecting more than one filter below.

Lorne Pierce

M.A., R.Psych
I have been in private practice since 1999 providing counselling services to individuals, couples and familes. I have over 20 years experience in the helping professions in both government (federal and provincial)... Read more

Gayle Way

Ph.D., R.Psych
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Dr. Gayle Way is a registered psychologist and feminist therapist with over 25 years of clinical experience in providing consultation, psychotherapy and counselling to men, women and couples.  She sees clients for... Read more

Heather Bach

M.A., CCC
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For over 20 years, Heather Bach of Bach Counselling Group brings clinical expertise to working with those who wish to make a positive change in relationships, intimacy, depression, anxiety, trauma, grief, ADHD... Read more

Kristen Dowling

Ph.D., R.Psych
*NOT CURRENTLY ACCEPTING NEW CLIENTS*   I am a Registered Psychologist with the College of Psychologists of BC. I use the effective and evidence-based method of Cognitive Behavioural ... Read more

Fayza Bundalli

M.S.W., RSW
***ON MATERNITY LEAVE THROUGH SUMMER 2020***   Hi.  I'm Fayza. I am a Somatic Therapist and Registered Social Worker.  I support clients who are queer (or LGBTQ2S+), and clients who are... Read more

Sharon Southey

M.A., RCC
Sharon Southey is a skilled professional with a nursing background, who has been counselling since 1992. She is careful about her private practice and likes to work with individuals who are teenage or adult, families of... Read more

Daphne Gelbart

M.A., RCC
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Daphne Gelbart, MA, RCC, is a Vancouver clinical counsellor registered with the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors (Registration # 3290). Daphne is a graduate of the University of British Columbia (UBC... Read more

Michal Regev

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Michal Regev is a Registered Psychologist and a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist. She has been counselling individuals, couples, and families since 1990, and has trained psychologists and counsellors in... Read more

Bea Mackay

Ph.D., R.Psych
For 28 years I have enjoyed working with individuals, couples and families. I believe in using methods that are grounded in theory and research. My goal is to help people help themselves. I view people as resourceful.... Read more

Colette Mrazek

M.Ed., RCC
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My counselling career began over 20 years ago and since then, I have worked in a variety of settings with many different populations, such as youth at risk, children who have been orphaned, young parents,... Read more

Paul James

Ed.D., R.Psych
Although the adults whom I assist come with a wide range of presenting problems - such as sexual dysfunctions, mental health issues, relationship distress, and addictions, the underlying problem is that all are... Read more

Lyne Piche

Ph.D., R.Psych
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Dr. Lyne Piché is a Registered Psychologist working in Abbotsford, BC. Her services are offered in both French and English. She has many years experience working with people who have sexual difficulties, sexual... Read more

Yaari Dyer

Ph.D., R.Psych
Hello! I am a Registered Psychologist (#2094) and see individual clients and couples in my peaceful Kitsilano office.  I assist adults at every life stage who are grappling with issues... Read more

Peter Silin

M.S.W., RSW
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I  have been bringing  warmth and compassion to my counselling with individuals and couples since 1980.  I believe the key to effective therapy begins with  building safe relationships where  my... Read more

Lillian Kelly

M.A., RCC
I see clients in So. Surrey, B.C.Frustrated? Unhappy with your relationship?Are you repeating painful patterns in your relationship, and in your life? I can help you create the changes that you long for! You can create... Read more

Ann-Marie Inoue

M.C., RCC
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Do you feel dissatisfied or discontented with life? Tired of looking happy on the outside, but feeling empty on the inside? Do you constantly push people away that love you? It is my passion to walk with people... Read more

Lisa Moore

M.A., RCC
Transitions Counselling Centre's mission is to help people heal and grow through periods of transitions in their lives.  Many of us experience loss, grief, unhappiness or a sense of loss when we transition from... Read more

Ruth Skutezky

M.A., RCC
Is anxiety getting in the way of living your best life? Are you feeling disconnected from your partner, arguing more, or even having doubts about your future together? Are you a new parent, struggling to adjust to this... Read more

Marilyn Kwong

Ph.D., R.Psych
Hello and welcome! I am a Registered Psychologist (#2043) located in Kitsilano, with specialized training in helping people with their emotions and relationships in a deep and experiential way. Relationships have... Read more

Joy Schellenberg

M.A., RCC
Are you Tired of the Pain and Turmoil in Your life? It’s likely you’ve been struggling for a long time. You’re overwhelmed and you don’t know where to turn. It seems the same negative things... Read more

Ann Holroyd

Ph.D., RCC
Introduction People seek counselling or long-term psychotherapy for a wide variety of reasons. Sometimes a crisis has arisen in your life that feels unresolvable without professional help; Or it maybe a significant... Read more

Babak Farzaneh

M.A., RCC
Babak brings genuine caring and compassion as he listens to the life stories of the children, adolescents, couples and families he works with. His non-judgmental, patient and open-minded attitude gives his clients the... Read more

Stephen Barker

M.A., RCC
Stephen is a registered clinical counsellor with the BCACC and has a Master’s in Counselling Psychology. He has been practicing family therapy for 20 years, both in the non-profit sector and as a private... Read more

Alison Bell

M.A., RCC
I have been providing counselling and psychotherapy services for over 15 years and I have worked in private practice in the South Surrey, White Rock and surrounding areas since 2006. I have a graduate degree from... Read more

Kim Watt

M.A., RCC
Are you feeling lost, sad, or unhappy? Maybe I can help. I view relationships as being a crucial component of holistic health, and my passion involves helping people develop better connections with others as well as... Read more

Nichole Fairbrother

Ph.D., R.Psych
I am a registered psychologist in Victoria BC. I have a PhD in clinical psychology and over 15 years experience as a therapist and scientist. I specialize in anxiety (anxiety disorders, trauma, OCD, and perinatal... Read more

Chelsea Stenner

M.A., RCC
A common misconception is that you need to hit "rock bottom" before you decide to seek counselling. There are numerous reasons why a person may choose to speak with a qualified professional; everything from... Read more

Leanne Fessler

M.A., RCC
Leanne works from the understanding that we all experience challenging life situations (counsellors included) that may last for shorter periods of time or be more ongoing in nature.  Such times may... Read more

Lorill Drummund

M.Ed., RCC
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I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor (#0921) working in BC since 1994 as a therapist, group facilitator, and instructor. My primary focus is working with couples to break through their ... Read more

Michelle Coulombe

M.A., RCC
***Please note that I am not accepting new clients at this time*** I have a BA in Psychology, as well as an MA in Counselling Psychology (family specialization) from UBC. I have been a Certified Canadian... Read more