Divorce and/or Separation Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Divorce and/or Separation

Breaking the vow of "till death do us part" and getting divorced has been listed on the list of top things that people fear. The end of a marriage can indeed cause incredible confusion, sadness, grief, anger, guilt, fear, anxiety and shame. Not only does the end of a marriage affect a couple, but also the children.

Issues that can cause a marriage to fail include criticism, lack of respect, defensiveness, and aloofness, to name a few. Dealing with these issues might save a marriage. Mediation therapy can help couples even before a divorce, when the signs of marital disintegration starts to show. Couples therapy is an excellent tool at that point in a marriage to see whether saving the marriage is a viable option, and if it's not, it can help them find ways to reach settlements, move forward, and co-parent in a healthy and constructive way.

For children going through the divorce of their parents, therapy is critical. While parents are facing the realities of divorce and the emotional trauma, they often don't have the time or inclination to help their children deal with their sense of abandonment, pain, loss or guilt. Children may even feel that they are to blame for their parents' problems. Therapy can help children to come to terms with these issues and find strategies to move forward in a positive way.

In the case where couples counselling is not an option, a therapist can help the person who was left behind deal with the grief from the divorce. Therapy is aimed at empowering the individual to overcome grief and negative emotions and to move forward as a single person.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who addresses divorce issues you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) has helped couples and family members to treat distressed relationships, depression and a range of other emotional difficulties. It is one of the most common treatments used in private counselling and psychologist practices, training centres and hospital clinics around the world.

The main goal of Emotionally focused therapy is to create a secure bond between romantic partners and to reorganize and expand critical emotional responses. It helps to improve communication between partners, which is more beneficial to the relationship. EFT is a practical therapy that has been used successfully in relationships and marriages for many years, due to the fact that it creates a spirit of respect and harmony.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy generally only lasts between six to twenty sessions and has been shown effective in 90% of relationships.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, please browse our list of practitioners below..

Note:  Some practitioners practice Emotion Focused Therapy rather than Emotionally Focused therapy.  You will want to confirm that it is indeed Emotionally Focused Therapy that the counsellor/psychologist practices.

Note: You may narrow your search by selecting more than one filter below.

Michele Maurer

M.Sc., RCC
Find Your Resilience! Professional Counselling for Women, Youth, Couples & Families I've been working as a counsellor for 30+ years and still, I love my job! You deserve to live life to the fullest. If... Read more

Morgan McKusick

M.A., RCC
I'm Morgan - Registered Clinical Counsellor and Certified Yoga Instructor. To me, one of the greatest trials and rewards in life is to feel at ease with who you are, how you experience the world and how... Read more

Joy Schellenberg

M.A., RCC
Are you Tired of the Pain and Turmoil in Your life? It’s likely you’ve been struggling for a long time. You’re overwhelmed and you don’t know where to turn. It seems the same negative things... Read more

Angela Leong

M.A., RCC
Are you an emerging adult that's looking to be more grounded in him or herself? Perhaps a recent relationship breakdown has caused you to feel very dysregulated and alone in the world. Working... Read more

Natalie Hansen

M.A., RCC
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Natalie Hansen, MA, Registered Clinical Counsellor Walking with you through life's challenges Natalie is a caring and competent Individual and Couples Therapist in Uptown New Westminster. Natalie knows... Read more

John Taylor

M.A., RCC
Relationships make the world go round; they can also make your world miserable when things aren't working. I am a trained marital therapist with the skills and passion to help you improve your... Read more

Diana Mawson

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Mawson has been providing counselling and therapy services since 1989. She has worked in community mental health settings, psychiatric treatment facilities, and private counselling practices. She works with adults... Read more

Steven Lake

M.Ed., CCC
Dr. Lake has a PhD in Educational Administration. He has a personal interest in emotion and crisis management and created a Model Of Effective Crisis Management for his dissertation. His Master's degree is in... Read more

Holly Yager

M.Ed., RCC
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Holly Yager (M.Ed., RCC, CCC) is a Registered Clinical Counsellor and a Canadian Certified Counsellor in Vancouver, BC with a specialized focus on reproductive health & fertility counselling... Read more

Barb Leigh

M.A., CCC
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  Feeling worried? Stressed? Anxious? Unmotivated? Troubled by relationship issues? Haunted by memories of past experiences which won't let you move to the rich, fulfilling life you deserve? Perhaps you have... Read more

Susan Rungta

M.A., R.Psych
Susan is a registrant of the College of Psychologists of B.C. (CPBC # 1647). She has been helping individuals, couples, families, and groups for over 25 years. Susan works with a wide range of issues including stress... Read more

Parminder Mann

M.A., RCC
Parminder Mann is a registered clinical counsellor who has offices in Surrey and Burnaby.  Life can be very stressful at times.  Some people may have jobs to juggle, or new careers to manage, some may have... Read more

Phoebe Tsang

M.C., RMFT
Background and training: Master of Counselling from Trinity Western University Registered Clinical Counsellor #1830 of BCACC Registered Marriage & Family Therapist- Supervisor of CAMFT #2017290 BC... Read more

Courtney Rombough

M.Couns., RCC
I believe that working towards wellness and self-understanding is a lifelong endeavour. My aim is to provide you with a safe and non-judgemental space for you to discover what wellness means for you. Together, we can... Read more

Peter Vaughan

M.A., RCC
Certified Gottman Method Therapist, Peter frequently addresses couples communication during conflict, restoring fidelity and commitment, or building intimacy and sexuality. Other common issues: ongoing incompatibilities... Read more

Jeff Ross

M.A., RCC
 Feel good about the possibilities that life has to offer.Are you seeing life clearly?Do you tell your family and friends “I’m fine” even though you know you are not?Do you feel physically,... Read more

Kelly-Anne Breen

M.A., RCC
Kelly-Anne Breen is a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) who sees clients at offices in North Vancouver, and is available for “Walk & Talk” across the Lower Mainland. Kelly-Anne provides counselling... Read more

Paul James

Ed.D., R.Psych
Although the adults whom I assist come with a wide range of presenting problems - such as sexual dysfunctions, mental health issues, relationship distress, and addictions, the underlying problem is that all are... Read more
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One of my clients said that prior to coming to counselling she'd feared that the experience of therapy would be "like turning the room completely upside down." She instead found it to be "like finally... Read more

Goretti Faria

M.S.W., RCSW
I have been a therapist for over 20 years helping individuals, couples and families resolve a variety of concerns including anxiety, depression, self confidence, grief and loss, relationship and couple difficulties,... Read more

Iona Monk

M.A., RCC
I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor who meets with couples and individuals in private practice in Vancouver. I have been working with couples for almost twenty years in private practice. I am a graduate of both... Read more

Kerry Moller

M.A., RCC
Many of our clients come in saying they feel disconnected - from their loved ones; their friends; their jobs and themselves.  They feel lonely and separate from those people and things they used to feel close... Read more

Lorill Drummund

M.Ed., RCC
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I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor (#0921) working in BC since 1994 as a therapist, group facilitator, and instructor. My primary focus is working with couples to break through their ... Read more

Stephen Barker

M.A., RCC
Stephen is a registered clinical counsellor with the BCACC and has a Master’s in Counselling Psychology. He has been practicing family therapy for 20 years, both in the non-profit sector and as a private... Read more

Sarajoy David

Ph.D., R.Psych
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The focus of my service is the teaching of emotional self-care skills.  I draw upon leading edge therapies in facilitating each person's journey to self-awareness, healing and empowerment. This self-exploration... Read more

Carolyn Heppner

M.Ed., RCC
Carolyn Heppner, B.A., M.Ed., RCC Experience positive results much sooner than traditional therapy, through the use of modern techniques such as EMDR. I offer counselling and therapeutic services for individuals,... Read more

Lisa Moore

M.A., RCC
Transitions Counselling Centre's mission is to help people heal and grow through periods of transitions in their lives.  Many of us experience loss, grief, unhappiness or a sense of loss when we transition from... Read more

Mark Davies

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr Mark Davies earned his Doctorate at the Universy of Alberta in Counselling Pschology and has been a registered psychologist since 1995. From 1995 to 2007 Mark has been a full time faculty member at Carey Theological... Read more

Chris Walker

M.A., CCC
“At some time or other, we all find ourselves unable to cope with life’s difficulties. The aim of counselling is to help you deal with these or other issues, so that you can get on with a meaningful and... Read more

Michelle Coulombe

M.A., RCC
***Please note that I am not currently accepting new clients until September 2019.***    I have a BA in Psychology, as well as an MA in Counselling Psychology (family specialization) from UBC. I have been... Read more