Borderline Personality Disorder Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline personality disorder, like all other personality disorders is a learned behavior pattern that is deeply ingrained and ongoing. It manifests as an inappropriate deviation from social norms and it is a stable behavioural pattern. Social performance is impeded by the subjective distress the person tends to experience.

People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) may to alternate between the extremes of devaluation and idealization, and form unstable but intense relationships. They may make frantic attempts to avoid imagined or real abandonment. There are two types of borderline personality disorders; the impulsive BPD is prone to emotional instability and poor impulse control.

Borderline personality disorder sufferers may tend to act impulsively, without paying attention to the consequences and they have a tendency to experience emotional outbursts and be quarrelsome.

Therapy can be beneficial for people with borderline personality disorder and there are some powerful approaches developed recently that bring great hope to those who would be diagnosed with this disorder. Unlike most family members and friends, a psychologist or counsellor has the appropriate training, as well as patience, to withstand the emotional crises the patient will experience over the course of the relationship. These episodes can cause tremendous damage to a person's interpersonal relationships, but a therapist has the skills to remain even tempered and optimistic and knows how to teach better coping skills. It is important to help the person with borderline personality disorder to develop helpful communication skills as well as the capacity to self-regulate emotions.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who offers therapy to address your borderline personality disorder issues you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) has helped couples and family members to treat distressed relationships, depression and a range of other emotional difficulties. It is one of the most common treatments used in private counselling and psychologist practices, training centres and hospital clinics around the world.

The main goal of Emotionally focused therapy is to create a secure bond between romantic partners and to reorganize and expand critical emotional responses. It helps to improve communication between partners, which is more beneficial to the relationship. EFT is a practical therapy that has been used successfully in relationships and marriages for many years, due to the fact that it creates a spirit of respect and harmony.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy generally only lasts between six to twenty sessions and has been shown effective in 90% of relationships.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, please browse our list of practitioners below..

Note:  Some practitioners practice Emotion Focused Therapy rather than Emotionally Focused therapy.  You will want to confirm that it is indeed Emotionally Focused Therapy that the counsellor/psychologist practices.

Note: You may narrow your search by selecting more than one filter below.

Evan Quinn

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
Welcome to Equalibrium Counselling. As a client-centred holistic therapist, my goal is to support you in navigating life's inevitable difficulties. Whether you're dealing with emotions, thoughts, life... Read more

Tyler Schaus

M.Couns., RCC
As a queer, transguy, and adoptive parent to a neurospicy child, I prioritize the importance of seeing people as complex, nuanced, and unique beings. I strive to keep my practice flexible, authentic, holistic... Read more

Heiin Lim

M.Couns., RCC
    • Online booking
About Me Hello there, I'm Heiin (pronounced as Hane), a bilingual therapist who provides counseling services in both English and Korean. It is a privilege for me to accompany clients on their journeys, witnessing... Read more

David Renaud

M.S.W., RCC
    • Online booking
I work with people experiencing difficult problems. Such problems go by many names, and may be new or old, but all share the common trait of stubbornly obstructing our happiness. You might feel depressed, anxious, or... Read more

Halina Deptuck

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
Periods of struggle, challenge, or feeling stuck inevitably occur throughout our lives. Whether you’ve gone through a life transition, are experiencing low mood, heightened anxieties, relationship challenges,... Read more

Jeff Darcy

M.S.W., RCSW
Are you feeling stuck? Is your life out of balance? Would you like to experience more joy, passion, and productivity? In a friendly, nurturing environment, I will guide you on a journey of self-discovery where you can... Read more

Sherri Calder

M.A., RCC
    • In-Person Sessions
    • Blog on profile
    • Online booking
Sherri works collaboratively with her clients on wellness and resource building by listening, setting goals and working towards meaningful change. She knows it can be difficult to face challenges in life so... Read more

Suzana Dujmic

M.C., RCC
    • Article(s) on profile
My name is Suzana Dujmic and I am Registered Clinical Counsellor with a Master’s Degree in Clinical Counselling from City University of Seattle (Vancouver campus) and a Post-Graduate Certificate in Child and Youth... Read more

Jennifer Tillar

M.C., RCC
   My approach to the counselling process is that not one approach fits all. Although my background and experience is rooted in attachment-based theory and cognitive behavioral approaches used within a... Read more

Jennifer Turnbrook

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
Life can have many challenges. Sometimes you can navigate through difficult things on your own while some issues are not so easily resolved. If you’re having a rough time and unsure how to get started, counselling... Read more

Teresa Moseley

M.Sc., RCC
    • Online booking
Are you tired of thinking that everything sucks? Nothing will change and your Hogwarts letter will never come! Are you laying in bed with your junk food, not wanting to get up, downing Starbucks and Red Bulls like it... Read more

Samantha Lee

M.Ed., RCC
Hey there, I’m Sam! I provide therapy from a trauma-informed, client centered perspective that is anti-oppressive. My style of counselling prioritizes warm, transparent communication. I have experience supporting... Read more

Mafe Boucher

MCP, RCC
Hello! My name is Mafe Boucher, and I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor who sees clients at the Skylark office located in Vancouver, BC.  My past experience has focused primarily on working with emerging... Read more

Linette Read

M.Ed., RCC
I’m a European settler, an explorer of nature, a knitter, and a Registered Clinical Counsellor who has supported youth and adults and their mental health for over a decade. I’m a calm, curious, relaxed... Read more

Judith Hradsky

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
Experiences of stress, anxiety, and depression - as well as questions around your mental health - are very common. Counselling can help you "make sense" of your experiences and provide you with the... Read more

Shelley Hine

M.Couns., RCC
I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor who blends perspectives of inclusiveness, feminism, social justice and trauma work into my counselling practice. I am trained in a variety of clinical methods and... Read more
Together we can work through what is holding you back from having the life you hope for. I believe this is worth doing at any age, and any stage of life or relationship. It is never too late to find out who you... Read more

Jess Holtslander

M.S.W., RCC
    • Online booking
We are all human and, as humans, we all experience loss and change. With any loss or life change comes conflicting emotions. Grief, or conflicting emotions, can result from losing a loved one, losing a pet, changing... Read more

Amy Ibrahim

M.A., RCC
Life can be overwhelming sometimes. Whether you're having a hard time navigating family relationships, issues with your partner or friends, or work related issues, you may find yourself feeling alone or... Read more

Allison Rice

M.A., RCC
Allison Rice (she/her) is a Registered Clinical Counsellor, with over 20 years of experience, who works with clients in offices in Vancouver and Courtenay, BC. Splitting her time between the city of Vancouver... Read more

Lola OpacicLunot

M.S.W., RSW
If you're contemplating counselling, see it  a positive step towards addressing any challenges or issues you might be facing. Counselling can offer numerous benefits, regardless of whether you're dealing... Read more

Leslie Sanderson

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
I offer in-person and online counselling services. I take on a limited number of clients so I can devote time and space to your healing journey. I tailor my therapeutic approach to meet your needs and provide an... Read more

Jess Lenihan

M.S.W., RSW
    • Online booking
People often come to see me to discuss problems related to depression, anxiety, climate anxiety, life transitions, grief, and parenting. My practice is narrative, gender affirming, neurodiversity affirming, anti-... Read more

Serina Islam

Ph.D., RCC
If you are considering to begin counselling or making a decision about which therapist might be right for you, I hope this website will be an informative starting point. If you still feel uncertain after reading through... Read more

Lara Ellison

M.S.W., RSW
Lara Ellison, MSW, RSW Lara Ellison MSW, RSW has been professionally involved in various mental health programming since 2006.  Starting her work at Peak House, a youth residential alcohol and drug treatment... Read more

Jas Lachar

M.S.W., RSW
Sometimes our mental well-being suffers because we have had a major life transition such as starting or finishing university, becoming a new parent, taking a new position at work, moving or Covid-19. Transitions are... Read more

Cameron Watson

Ph.D., RCC
Dr. Cameron Watson is a Registered Clinical Counsellor who sees clients at offices in Maple Ridge. He operates Kanaka Creek Community Counselling and is committed to offering the best of counselling therapy services to... Read more

Emmalee Brunt

M.Couns., RCC
    • Online booking
Emmalee offers in person counselling in Victoria, BC, as well as phone and online video counselling sessions for clients across British Columbia. She works with individual clients and welcomes clients from all gender... Read more

Emily Macdonell

M.C., RCC
    • Online booking
You can connect with me for in-person/online sessions through Providence Therapy and Neurofeedback (Vancouver, BC) as well as through Aster Wellness Centre (Port Coquitlam, BC).  At both practices, you can... Read more

Scott Harrison

M.A., RCC
Scott is a Registered Clinical Counsellor with the BC Association of Clinical Counsellors. Scott weaves the science and art of clinical counselling into therapeutic conversations that focus on solutions and strengths... Read more