Borderline Personality Disorder Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline personality disorder, like all other personality disorders is a learned behavior pattern that is deeply ingrained and ongoing. It manifests as an inappropriate deviation from social norms and it is a stable behavioural pattern. Social performance is impeded by the subjective distress the person tends to experience.

People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) may to alternate between the extremes of devaluation and idealization, and form unstable but intense relationships. They may make frantic attempts to avoid imagined or real abandonment. There are two types of borderline personality disorders; the impulsive BPD is prone to emotional instability and poor impulse control.

Borderline personality disorder sufferers may tend to act impulsively, without paying attention to the consequences and they have a tendency to experience emotional outbursts and be quarrelsome.

Therapy can be beneficial for people with borderline personality disorder and there are some powerful approaches developed recently that bring great hope to those who would be diagnosed with this disorder. Unlike most family members and friends, a psychologist or counsellor has the appropriate training, as well as patience, to withstand the emotional crises the patient will experience over the course of the relationship. These episodes can cause tremendous damage to a person's interpersonal relationships, but a therapist has the skills to remain even tempered and optimistic and knows how to teach better coping skills. It is important to help the person with borderline personality disorder to develop helpful communication skills as well as the capacity to self-regulate emotions.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who offers therapy to address your borderline personality disorder issues you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) has helped couples and family members to treat distressed relationships, depression and a range of other emotional difficulties. It is one of the most common treatments used in private counselling and psychologist practices, training centres and hospital clinics around the world.

The main goal of Emotionally focused therapy is to create a secure bond between romantic partners and to reorganize and expand critical emotional responses. It helps to improve communication between partners, which is more beneficial to the relationship. EFT is a practical therapy that has been used successfully in relationships and marriages for many years, due to the fact that it creates a spirit of respect and harmony.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy generally only lasts between six to twenty sessions and has been shown effective in 90% of relationships.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, please browse our list of practitioners below..

Note:  Some practitioners practice Emotion Focused Therapy rather than Emotionally Focused therapy.  You will want to confirm that it is indeed Emotionally Focused Therapy that the counsellor/psychologist practices.

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Tom Foster

M.S.W., RSW
TOM FOSTER, MSW, RSW: Tom has been a therapist for over 40 years and has experience working with clients facing a wide range of concerns. Tom has worked extensively with issues related to sexuality, relationship... Read more

Doug Elliott

M.A., RCC
What I do: rethink is a professional counselling service run by Doug Elliott, with offices in Vancouver's West End and on Bowen Island.  I hold a Masters Degree in counselling psychology and have extensive... Read more

Celine Du

M.C., RCC
Change can be terrifying, and also difficult and lonely to pursue. Even when you finally make up your mind to embark on the journey of change, the future still feels uncertain. After trying so many times on your own to... Read more

Robin Curry

MCP, RCC
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I have a Master of Counselling Psychology degree and I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor through the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors. I specialize in anxiety, depression,... Read more

Teddy Chu

MC, RCC
Hello! I am the founder of WAVE Performance and Wellness offering individual clinical counselling, relationship counselling, and mental performance / sport psychology consulting services. My passion for... Read more

Susan Rai

Psy.D., RCC
    • Online booking
Dr. Susan Rai is a Registered Clinical Counsellor with a Doctorate Degree in Clinical Psychology. Susan is currently in the process of registering with the BC College of Psychologists and offering telephone counselling... Read more

Banafsheh Sadeghi

M.A., RSW
Banafsheh is a registered social worker with a Master's degree in Social Work and a Bachelor's degree in General Psychology with more than 20 years of experience in counselling students, individuals, couples,... Read more

Stephanie Pugsley

M.A., RCC
I have over 20 years experience of working with individuals, couples, families and groups in private practice, the Health Service, the Social Services and voluntary organisations.  I am a registered Clinical... Read more

Nancy Nigro

M.S.W., RCC
I am a Psychotherapist in private practice with over 30 years of clinical experience. I have specialized training in Relationship issues, Self Esteem, Anxiety/Depression, Grief/Loss, Trauma, Life Transitions. If you... Read more

Toni Pieroni

M.A., RCC
I believe that healing, growth and development occur within the context of relationship. Therefore, choosing the right therapist is a critical aspect of the therapeutic process. I bring over 40 years of personal... Read more

Shari Allen

MC, RCC
You may have questions about: relationships e.g., How can my partner and I communicate better? identity formation and the future e.g., Who am I?; What should I do with my life? how to find ways... Read more

Jim Browning

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Browning has been a registered psychologist in the Vancouver area since 1980. He has worked extensively in the areas of mental health, family violence, addictions, men's issues, trauma recovery and employee... Read more

Elaine Zbitniff

M.A., RCC
Elaine is a registered clinical counsellor and has former experience as a registered nurse in the specialties burns and plastic surgery unit and in a hospice. Her knowledge as a nurse has been informative to... Read more

Graham Haber

M.Ed., RCC
    • Online booking
My name is Graham (he/him). I'm a registered clinical counsellor (RCC #19364) with the BCACC. I work with adults and adolescents. My private practice is based out of Squamish BC, the traditional, ancestral, and... Read more

Alex Charleton

MCP, RCC
    • Online booking
Through Alex's own journey with mental health, she experienced firsthand the healing that is possible for anyone who feels suffocated by life. Alex's lived experiences motivated her to venture into the... Read more

Eric Addleman

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
If you are feeling overwhelmed in your life or relationship, I am here to inspire hope and to help empower you to navigate life with calm confidence. It is normal to need support; sometimes help is required to... Read more

Stephen Marcus

M.S.W., RCSW
    • Online booking
Do you struggle with a challenging relationship that affects your ability to feel seen, heard, and validated? Do you feel overwhelmed, frustrated, and lost by consistent arguing, defensiveness, and lack of closeness in... Read more

Lizelle Badenhorst

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
I have a passion for exploring and finding the power of our minds to help us heal. I immigrated to Canada in my early thirties and have experienced loss in my life. These experiences have shaped who I am as a person and... Read more

Ksenia Belova

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
I work with people desiring stronger, deeper and more fulfilling relationships with themselves, and with other people. If you're struggling to feel well and to live the life you want, you may feel cut off from your... Read more

Emma McLellan

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
*I am not currently accepting new clients. If you would like a referral to one of my colleagues please email us at info@lynnvalleycounselling.com*   I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) with the... Read more

Joe Ramirez

M.Couns., CCC
    • In-Person Sessions
Joe Ramirez, owner of ClearCounselling.ca, is a Canadian Certified Counsellor and an Adlerian psychotherapist with a Master of Counselling Psychology, providing Individual Counselling, Couples Counselling, and Sex... Read more

Bianca Rucker

Ph.D., RMFT
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Bianca Rucker uses a brief model of psychotherapy and/or clinical hypnosis to help individuals and couples who experience sexual or relationship difficulties. Dr. Rucker is a CAMFT Approved Supervisor and Mentor.... Read more

Rawda Tomoum

M.Sc., RCC
    • Online booking
My areas of focus: Couples stuck in fighting, withdrawal, and disconnection, who feel alone, unheard, and misunderstood in their relationship no matter what they do to make it work. Individuals struggling ... Read more

Steven Lake

M.Ed., CCC
Dr. Lake has a PhD in Educational Administration. He has a personal interest in emotion and crisis management and created a Model Of Effective Crisis Management for his dissertation. His Master's degree is in... Read more

Erica Steward

M.A., RCC
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    • Online booking
With a deep-rooted belief in the capacity for healing, personal growth, and transformation, I am honoured to offer my support on your unique journey. People often reach out to me when they feel stuck, struggle with... Read more

Rosalyn Best Clark

M.Couns., RCC
Rosalyn Best, MoC, RCC #8656. Ros Best is passionate about counselling because she has so often witnessed its transformative power. She offers couples counselling, and counselling for life transitions, trauma, cancer... Read more

Jyoti Gill

M.A., RCC
I believe that we ALL have the power to heal ourselves. This means that this power resides in YOU too. If that’s hard to believe, I hope that you will grant yourself the opportunity to discover it. In our work... Read more

Keri Povall

M.A.Sc., RCC
    • Online booking
Increase your emotional well-being, decrease your anxiety and stress and increase your enjoyment of life. My counselling practice in Burnaby provides a safe, confidential and compassionate space to explore your areas of... Read more

Patrick Myers

Ph.D., R.Psych
    • Online booking
Is life pushing you too hard?   Do you feel like you can't keep up?   Do you stay up late at night worrying?   Do you feel drained emotionally and/or  physically? Is your... Read more

Mary Smyth

M.Sc., CCC
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    • Online booking
I am a Certified Canadian Counsellor and I trained as an Integrative Counsellor and Psychotherapist which enables me to work with clients drawing from  many modalities according to the individual client and what he... Read more