Borderline Personality Disorder Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline personality disorder, like all other personality disorders is a learned behavior pattern that is deeply ingrained and ongoing. It manifests as an inappropriate deviation from social norms and it is a stable behavioural pattern. Social performance is impeded by the subjective distress the person tends to experience.

People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) may to alternate between the extremes of devaluation and idealization, and form unstable but intense relationships. They may make frantic attempts to avoid imagined or real abandonment. There are two types of borderline personality disorders; the impulsive BPD is prone to emotional instability and poor impulse control.

Borderline personality disorder sufferers may tend to act impulsively, without paying attention to the consequences and they have a tendency to experience emotional outbursts and be quarrelsome.

Therapy can be beneficial for people with borderline personality disorder and there are some powerful approaches developed recently that bring great hope to those who would be diagnosed with this disorder. Unlike most family members and friends, a psychologist or counsellor has the appropriate training, as well as patience, to withstand the emotional crises the patient will experience over the course of the relationship. These episodes can cause tremendous damage to a person's interpersonal relationships, but a therapist has the skills to remain even tempered and optimistic and knows how to teach better coping skills. It is important to help the person with borderline personality disorder to develop helpful communication skills as well as the capacity to self-regulate emotions.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who offers therapy to address your borderline personality disorder issues you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) has helped couples and family members to treat distressed relationships, depression and a range of other emotional difficulties. It is one of the most common treatments used in private counselling and psychologist practices, training centres and hospital clinics around the world.

The main goal of Emotionally focused therapy is to create a secure bond between romantic partners and to reorganize and expand critical emotional responses. It helps to improve communication between partners, which is more beneficial to the relationship. EFT is a practical therapy that has been used successfully in relationships and marriages for many years, due to the fact that it creates a spirit of respect and harmony.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy generally only lasts between six to twenty sessions and has been shown effective in 90% of relationships.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, please browse our list of practitioners below..

Note:  Some practitioners practice Emotion Focused Therapy rather than Emotionally Focused therapy.  You will want to confirm that it is indeed Emotionally Focused Therapy that the counsellor/psychologist practices.

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I believe that we are all born with an innate drive to be the best we can be in life. There are, however, obstacles along the way and some of us run into more than do others. Our parents, siblings and extended families... Read more

Parminder Mann

M.A., RCC
Parminder Mann is a registered clinical counsellor located in Surrey. Parminder is currently offering virtual and phone counselling. Life can be very stressful at times.  Some people may have jobs to juggle... Read more

Sebastian-Poichi Ang

M.Couns., RCC
I have a master’s degree in counselling and am a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) in British Columbia. I offer in-person and video-call counselling. Apart from English,  I speak fluent Mandarin and... Read more

Andrew Wilkins

M.Couns., RCC
    • Video on profile
    • Online booking
Accepting new clients! By considering a therapist, you have already taken a significant step toward becoming the person you wish to be. Something has shifted for you. I can help you build on that initial spark by... Read more

Marc Keith

M.A., RCC
Marc Keith currently lives and works in British Columbia.  Marc and his wife have two daughters, aged 18 and 14 who attended local schools and are engaged in recreational and social activities in the community. The... Read more

Kevin Erickson

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
In a world that constantly demands more, finding your stride in both personal and professional spheres can be a challenging journey. If you're someone who feels you're not quite showing up as the best version of... Read more

Jess Holtslander

M.S.W., RCC
    • Online booking
We are all human and, as humans, we all experience loss and change. With any loss or life change comes conflicting emotions. Grief, or conflicting emotions, can result from losing a loved one, losing a pet, changing... Read more

Thomas Wiens

Ph.D., R.Psych
    • Video on profile
    • Online booking
What if your psychologist could help you overcome challenges AND get to that next level? Dr. Wiens assists professionals to manage the demands of their career and personal life so that they can perform at their best... Read more

Sara Place

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
It is my honour to deeply listen and support your personal journey through whatever life circumstance brings you to counselling.  We can work through difficult life circumstances, relationship challenges (including... Read more

Douglas Matear

Ed.D., CCC
    • In-Person Sessions
Douglas Matear is a Canadian Certified Counsellor providing Individual Counselling to adults, teens, and children.  He has a Master in Counselling Psychology and a Doctor of Education in Leadership and Policy.... Read more

Colter Long

M.Ed., RCC
    • Video on profile
    • Online booking
“Only in the darkness can you see the stars.” – Martin Luther King JR. Are you looking for an alternative to traditional talk therapy?  If you are interested in learning psychological tools or... Read more

Olivia Kienzel

M.Couns., RCC
Olivia has more than a decade of experience as a counsellor working with clients to transform their relationship to themselves, their lives, and the people they care about. She can help you, gently, get to the root... Read more

Ayesha Sackey

M.S.W., RSW
Does your mind consistently race? Do you feel unsafe or wish you had more confidence? Do you feel like you simply can’t control what’s going around you? Do you feel like you must keep busy all the time for... Read more

Shelley Foster

M.A., RCC
Unique Family Coaching, Customized Individual Counselling and Online Consultation. Are you a family with teenagers looking for help?  Need something to change. Feel like you can no longer communicate or trust... Read more

Susan Baum

Ph.D., R.Psych
"When we are no longer able to change a situation—we are challenged to change ourselves." Victor Frankl To have my clients take up the challenge to change—that is the power I try to help... Read more

Michelle Mann

Ph.D., RCC
Michelle Mann (PhD RCC) is a Registered Clinical Counsellor and a therapist providing counselling, therapy and coaching to children, youth, adults and families. Trust, respect, warmth and empathy are key... Read more

Peter Vaughan

M.A., RCC
Certified Gottman Method Therapist, Peter frequently addresses couples communication during conflict, restoring fidelity and commitment, or building intimacy and sexuality. Other common issues: ongoing incompatibilities... Read more

Eileen Peterson

M.S.W., RCSW
    • Online booking
  NOTE: To provide support during COVID-19 precautions,  sessions may now be in person or virtual: video or by phone. Please call or email to book your appointment. Taking new clients. I'm a... Read more

Lisa McLellan

M.A., RCC
If you are looking for a practically based down-to-earth counsellor with over 30 years of experience in helping others,  you have arrived at the right place. Making the decision to enter into counselling ... Read more

Sarah Susswein

M.C., RCC
    • Online booking
Sarah Susswein, MC, RCC ✨Anxiety ✨Trauma / PTSD ✨Self Esteem / Self Worth ✨Neurodiversity Specialization (ADHD, Autism, Learning Disabilities, etc.) ✨ICBC Approved Vendor with Direct Billing When... Read more

Barbara Crosby

M.Ed., RCC
    • Online booking
Barbara has over 35 years of experience in the Mental health field in both the public and private sectors. Her Clinical practice started in Social Work, then changed to Counselling Psychology... Read more

Fred West

B.A., RCC
As humans, we possess complicated emotions.  Our behavior, thoughts and feelings can sometimes be overwhelming, even to ourselves! If you have been feeling lost, having depressed thoughts or going... Read more

ivania Redpath

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
My clients come from diverse backgrounds and live with anxiety, depression, trauma, grief, loss, and attachment dysregulation. I offer virtual counselling and in person counselling for adults and children, in addition... Read more

Colin Lester

M.Ed., RCC
I am a Registered Clinical Counselling with a Masters of Education in Counselling Psychology. For more than 30 years, I have been helping people with depression, anxiety, and life problems. As well, those wanting to... Read more

Diane Cronk

M.Couns., RCC
From my many years of working in the corporate world as a recruiter, coach, and counsellor, I have had hundreds of conversations and experiences with people from all walks of life, and am familiar with ... Read more

Kayla Fleming

MC, RCC
Providing phone and video/virtual counselling to clients across British Columbia, I work with children, youth and adults, and support both individuals and couples. When you come for a session... Read more

Nicklas Ehrlich

M.S.W., RCC
I help you get to the root of your problems, train your brain to be more resilient, overwrite unwanted default programming, and finally feel equipped to live a balanced and optimal life. 95% of your thoughts and... Read more

Cameron Gibson

M.A., RCC
    • Video on profile
    • Blog on profile
    • Online booking
Our counselling team works with a wide range of people and mental health struggles. We use evidence based counselling techniques to reduce and manage symptoms, while teaching skills and providing resources to... Read more

Josipa Katinic

M.Couns., RCC
    • Online booking
 I work with individuals (15+) and couples online.  My clients commonly have struggles in the following areas and are willing to and want to see and feel an improvement in their lives through a... Read more

Joanne Schwartz

M.S.W., RSW
    • Video on profile
    • Online booking
I can help you achieve: Relief from negative thinking, anxiety and depression. Better coping mechanisms to help you overcome addictive or destructive behaviours. Balance in your day-to-day life. I aim to... Read more