Borderline Personality Disorder Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline personality disorder, like all other personality disorders is a learned behavior pattern that is deeply ingrained and ongoing. It manifests as an inappropriate deviation from social norms and it is a stable behavioural pattern. Social performance is impeded by the subjective distress the person tends to experience.

People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) may to alternate between the extremes of devaluation and idealization, and form unstable but intense relationships. They may make frantic attempts to avoid imagined or real abandonment. There are two types of borderline personality disorders; the impulsive BPD is prone to emotional instability and poor impulse control.

Borderline personality disorder sufferers may tend to act impulsively, without paying attention to the consequences and they have a tendency to experience emotional outbursts and be quarrelsome.

Therapy can be beneficial for people with borderline personality disorder and there are some powerful approaches developed recently that bring great hope to those who would be diagnosed with this disorder. Unlike most family members and friends, a psychologist or counsellor has the appropriate training, as well as patience, to withstand the emotional crises the patient will experience over the course of the relationship. These episodes can cause tremendous damage to a person's interpersonal relationships, but a therapist has the skills to remain even tempered and optimistic and knows how to teach better coping skills. It is important to help the person with borderline personality disorder to develop helpful communication skills as well as the capacity to self-regulate emotions.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who offers therapy to address your borderline personality disorder issues you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) has helped couples and family members to treat distressed relationships, depression and a range of other emotional difficulties. It is one of the most common treatments used in private counselling and psychologist practices, training centres and hospital clinics around the world.

The main goal of Emotionally focused therapy is to create a secure bond between romantic partners and to reorganize and expand critical emotional responses. It helps to improve communication between partners, which is more beneficial to the relationship. EFT is a practical therapy that has been used successfully in relationships and marriages for many years, due to the fact that it creates a spirit of respect and harmony.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy generally only lasts between six to twenty sessions and has been shown effective in 90% of relationships.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, please browse our list of practitioners below..

Note:  Some practitioners practice Emotion Focused Therapy rather than Emotionally Focused therapy.  You will want to confirm that it is indeed Emotionally Focused Therapy that the counsellor/psychologist practices.

Note: You may narrow your search by selecting more than one filter below.

Ishtar Beck

M.A., RCC
    • Video on profile
I believe that healing is possible. In the therapeutic space, I aim to provide a supportive space for you to grow as an individual and in your relationships. You will be attentively listened to. You will find... Read more

Michele Francis

MCP, RCC
You are important and what you have to say matters! Taking the first step to looking for counselling tells me your mental and emotional wellbeing matters to you. You are not willing to sit by and let challenges... Read more

Marion Gargiulo

M.Couns., RCC
    • Online booking
It is common to feel alone with your problems. Excessive worries, depression, a difficult relationship, or a painful loss feel heavy and make it hard to cope. You might feel further weighed down by thinking your... Read more

Summy Pajouh

MCP:AT, RCC
    • Online booking
Summy is a Registered Clinical Counsellor and a Counselling Art Therapist who graduated with a Master of Counselling Psychology: Art Therapy from Adler University. Summy has experience providing individual and... Read more

Joe Ramirez

M.Couns., CCC
    • In-Person Sessions
Joe Ramirez, owner of ClearCounselling.ca, is a Canadian Certified Counsellor and an Adlerian psychotherapist with a Master of Counselling Psychology, providing Individual Counselling, Couples Counselling, and Sex... Read more

Ryan Schebek

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
If you are reading this, then you have taken the first courageous step in a long journey of healing and self-discovery… Or maybe this journey began long ago, but now you are looking for a new direction. As a... Read more

Suzy Davis

M.A., RCC
I offer a free 15-minute phone consultation to all prospective clients. I am currently accepting new clients for virtual sessions only, sliding fee scale available upon inquiry.  My approach to counselling is... Read more

Ned Baess

Psy.D., R.Psych
Dr. Ned Baess was awarded his doctoral degree in clinical psychology from the Adler School of Professional Psychology, Chicago, in 2003.  He was clinically trained at the Royal Jubilee Hospital (RJH) and... Read more

Kevin Erickson

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
In a world that constantly demands more, finding your stride in both personal and professional spheres can be a challenging journey. If you're someone who feels you're not quite showing up as the best version of... Read more

Mercedes Baines

M.A., RCC
Mercedes Baines is a Registered Clinical Counsellor & a Certified Adlerian Therapist with a Master’s degree in Counselling Psychology & a research focus in grief & loss. Inspiring fully embodied living... Read more

Chi Hung

M.Couns., RCC
You don’t have to struggle alone Living with anxiety, fear, and helplessness is difficult. Relationship can be confusing and disappointing. Dealing with your parents or your children can be frustrating. You are... Read more
    • Online booking
Starting with a new therapist, whether you’re new to counselling or a more experienced client, takes a lot of courage. With that courage also comes the discomfort of exploring some of the impactful and painful... Read more

Tabasom Eblaghie

M.A., RCC
Tabasom Eblaghie has her Masters in Counselling Psychology and is a Registered Clinical Counsellor with the BC Association of Clinical Counsellors. She has received her advanced training in Eye Movement Desensitization... Read more

Veronika Tkacova

M.C., RCC
    • Online booking
I believe that therapy can be a safe space for healing and self-discovery, and I feel incredibly fortunate to be able to support others throughout this process.  I have experience working with various forms of... Read more

Mike Mathers

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
I am a Clinical Counsellor with 15 years of experience working in residential and outpatient treatment programs with both individuals and groups. I have a passion for helping individuals and families impacted by... Read more

Elise Girardin

MCP:AT, RCC
    • Online booking
I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor and Creative Arts Therapist. I am also the director of The Woods Arts and Wellness based in North Vancouver, where we address the wellbeing of mind-body-spirit through engagement... Read more

Priscilla Amaral

MCP:AT, RCC
    • Blog on profile
    • Online booking
Are you experiencing challenging life events that have left you feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and in need of balance? Do you find yourself struggling with anxiety, relationships, transitions, depression, grief,... Read more

Alex Charleton

MCP, RCC
    • Online booking
Through Alex's own journey with mental health, she experienced firsthand the healing that is possible for anyone who feels suffocated by life. Alex's lived experiences motivated her to venture into the... Read more

Christy Arsenault

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
Christy Arsenault (Waisman) is a seasoned therapist with extensive experience working with complex issues and diverse populations.  Christy graduated with a Master’s Degree in Counselling Psychology from the... Read more

Donna Vidas

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
Some issues I regularly work with in therapy include: Overcoming recent or life-long patterns that may be interfering with your enjoyment of life resolving traumatic experiences managing life transitions... Read more

Jessica Condon

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
My clients often come to me feeling like the weight of the world is on their shoulders and that every decision they make creates a ripple that negatively touches on those around them. Their thoughts are overwhelmingly... Read more

Johanna Simmons

M.A., RCC
I believe that families are the foundation of any society. As parents you create the future through your children. Occasionally we encounter challenges and need some encouragement to overcome these. I can provide... Read more

James Lowe

M.A., CCC
    • Online booking
James is a counsellor who practices multicultural counselling in Vancouver, Richmond and Metro Vancouver, BC. James provides cross cultural counselling and therapy to a variety of ethnic and minority immigrants and... Read more

Meagan Maddocks

M.Couns., RCC
Meagan is a registered clinical counsellor who has over 20 years of expertise in working with clients who live with chronic illnesses. Balancing life’s stressors and joys can be a difficult task. When... Read more

Uri Sanhedrai

M.A., RCC
Uri Sanhedrai is a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) & Therapist in Private Practice in downtown Vancouver, providing counselling, therapy, coaching and consultation to individuals, groups and businesses. Uri... Read more

Karla Vargas

MCP, RCC
**Currently accepting new clients** Hi! I’m Karla and it is a pleasure to meet you! I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) holding a Master of Counselling Psychology degree as well as a Bachelor of Arts... Read more

Nicole Fofonoff

M.Ed., RCC
    • Online booking
I help folks who are pregnant or postpartum, who may be struggling with anxiety, depression, OCD, or who are in the aftermath of infant or pregnancy loss.  I dive with you into your past hurts, current coping... Read more

Kendra Antony

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
Hello! I'm Kendra (she/her), Registered Clinical Counsellor and owner of Hope Stone Counselling. I’m so glad you’re here.  Since 2006, I’ve had the privilege of being invited into people... Read more

David Holmes

M.A., RCC
David provides Individual and Couples Counselling. He is an Adlerian Psychotherapist, Registered Clinical Counsellor, and a Canadian Certified Counsellor at Clear Counselling private practice in downtown Vancouver.... Read more

Lida Izadi

M.A., RCC
  I am a registered clinical counsellor, an approved clinical supervisor, and an educator with extensive experience. My broad range of professional qualifications has enabled me to work with a range of mental... Read more