Borderline Personality Disorder Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline personality disorder, like all other personality disorders is a learned behavior pattern that is deeply ingrained and ongoing. It manifests as an inappropriate deviation from social norms and it is a stable behavioural pattern. Social performance is impeded by the subjective distress the person tends to experience.

People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) may to alternate between the extremes of devaluation and idealization, and form unstable but intense relationships. They may make frantic attempts to avoid imagined or real abandonment. There are two types of borderline personality disorders; the impulsive BPD is prone to emotional instability and poor impulse control.

Borderline personality disorder sufferers may tend to act impulsively, without paying attention to the consequences and they have a tendency to experience emotional outbursts and be quarrelsome.

Therapy can be beneficial for people with borderline personality disorder and there are some powerful approaches developed recently that bring great hope to those who would be diagnosed with this disorder. Unlike most family members and friends, a psychologist or counsellor has the appropriate training, as well as patience, to withstand the emotional crises the patient will experience over the course of the relationship. These episodes can cause tremendous damage to a person's interpersonal relationships, but a therapist has the skills to remain even tempered and optimistic and knows how to teach better coping skills. It is important to help the person with borderline personality disorder to develop helpful communication skills as well as the capacity to self-regulate emotions.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who offers therapy to address your borderline personality disorder issues you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) has helped couples and family members to treat distressed relationships, depression and a range of other emotional difficulties. It is one of the most common treatments used in private counselling and psychologist practices, training centres and hospital clinics around the world.

The main goal of Emotionally focused therapy is to create a secure bond between romantic partners and to reorganize and expand critical emotional responses. It helps to improve communication between partners, which is more beneficial to the relationship. EFT is a practical therapy that has been used successfully in relationships and marriages for many years, due to the fact that it creates a spirit of respect and harmony.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy generally only lasts between six to twenty sessions and has been shown effective in 90% of relationships.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, please browse our list of practitioners below..

Note:  Some practitioners practice Emotion Focused Therapy rather than Emotionally Focused therapy.  You will want to confirm that it is indeed Emotionally Focused Therapy that the counsellor/psychologist practices.

Note: You may narrow your search by selecting more than one filter below.

Deborah Kieran

M.C., R.Psych
Deborah Kieran is a Registered Psychologist with the College of Psychologists of BC (#2677). She obtained her Master of Arts in Counselling Psychology from City University in 2008.  Deborah sees counselling as a... Read more

Colette Mrazek

M.Ed., RCC
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My counselling career began over 20 years ago and since then, I have worked in a variety of settings with many different populations, such as youth at risk, children who have been orphaned, young parents,... Read more

Cordelia Mejin

M.A., RCC
Are you struggling with how to go on living in the wake of a loss? Does the pain of losing your person continue to have significant impact on your life and you are at a loss as to how to process the deep pain? Are you... Read more

Jisu Yoon

M.S.W., RSW
    • Online booking
Jisu holds a Master of Social Work (MSW) from the University of British Columbia, as well as a Bachelor of Social Work from Grant MacEwan University. She is registered with both the British Columbia College of Social... Read more

Sarah Mordell

Ph.D., R.Psych
    • Online booking
Curious about therapy but feeling a bit overwhelmed about where to start? Let's walk through it together. Finding someone who seems like a good fit for you is an important start. But reflecting on what you'... Read more

Nina Hopmeier

M.Couns., RCC
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Have you been feeling overwhelmed lately by your emotions and life’s demands? Do you sometimes feel like you have exhausted your coping resources and are stuck with where you are? It’s so easy to let these... Read more

Jennifer Baker

M.Ed., RCC
    • Online booking
This is definitely not what you expected. You may have thought that everything would fall perfectly into place, that being or becoming a parent would be the most natural thing in the world. Now, you’re finding... Read more

Raazhan Rae-Seebach

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Raazhan Rae-Seebach is a registered psychologist who works from an integrated, psychotherapeutic approach that includes mindfulness, meditation, spiritual and existential practices focused... Read more

Trisha Miciano

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
It's a common instinct to try and avoid situations that bring us pain. Emotional pain, in particular, may be a type of discomfort you have been conditioned to avoid.  You may have become skilled at pushing away... Read more

ivania Redpath

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
My clients come from diverse backgrounds and live with anxiety, depression, trauma, grief, loss, and attachment dysregulation. I offer virtual counselling and in person counselling for adults and children, in addition... Read more

Jonathan Carter

M.S.W., RSW
    • Online booking
**ACCEPTING NEW CLIENTS **NO REFERRAL NECESSARY When we set out on life's journey we all have expectations of what life is going to give us and how life is going to turn out. We all have a sense of how... Read more

Sho sho O

M.Couns., RCC
    • Online booking
I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC), Canadian Certified Counsellor (CCC) and Certified Clinical Trauma Specialist (CCTSI) from Hong Kong. I specialize in helping clients heal from traumatic... Read more

Reza Roodi

M.Sc., RCC
As a Registered Clinical Counsellor/Psychotherapist with 25 years of experience working with individuals, couples, and families, I use a client-centred, integrative approach to address the therapeutic goals of... Read more

Erica Steward

M.A., RCC
    • Video on profile
    • Online booking
With a deep-rooted belief in the capacity for healing, personal growth, and transformation, I am honoured to offer my support on your unique journey. People often reach out to me when they feel stuck, struggle with... Read more
    • Online booking
I work alongside youth and adult clients to support and explore challenges related to neurodivergence, trauma, mental health, identity, sexual orientation, gender identity, well-being, relationships, and confidence.... Read more

Amanda Bowers

MCP, RCC
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    • Online booking
Hi! I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) with a virtual online private practice and a part time practice at Aster Wellness Centre in Port Coquitlam. I am originally from a small town near Toronto, Ontario, and... Read more

Jordana Glotman

M.Ed., RCC
    • Online booking
Welcome! My name is Jordana. I am here to help you navigate the challenges that prompted you to seek counseling. I am passionate about working with clients with Anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and Burnout... Read more

Victor Wakarchuk

M.S.W., RCC
    • Online booking
Hi, I'm Victor. I’m a Registered Clinical Counsellor and Registered Social Worker (BC, Alberta and Ontario) who primarily works with gay men through online video counselling. I help gay men find freedom... Read more

Nicole Alexander

M.Ed., CCC
    • Online booking
Do you sometimes feel like it is difficult to get through the day? Do you often feel low and like your progress is somehow blocked? Are you at a point in your life where it seems like nothing is changing? I understand... Read more

Alex Gheorghe

M.S.W., RSW
I started Out of the Woods Counselling with the goal of providing individuals, couples and families with evidence-based interventions and techniques to relieve them of challenges that keep them stuck - depression,... Read more

Penney Hartsen

M.S.W., RCSW
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Life is difficult. We all struggle at times and need help to find our way. This is a safe place to sit with our doubts and insecurities...no judgement... on the way to healing and developing into the person you most... Read more

Ashley Robinson

B.S.W., RSW
    • Online booking
I am a Registered Social Worker and Counsellor here to hold space for your healing while gaining empowerment, self-discovery, higher self-awareness, and deeper self-love.  I have spent much time working with... Read more

Emily Coughlin

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
Hi - I’m Emily (she/her), a Registered Clinical Counsellor in BC. I provide counselling for individuals with a focus on infertility, perinatal mental health, parenting, relationships, and meaning making. Many of... Read more

Dana Begg

MCP, RCC
    • Online booking
Hi there! My name is Dana and I’m a Registered Clinical Counsellor with a master’s degree in Counselling Psychology. I have experience working in private practice and government agency settings, supporting... Read more

Amrita Dhoot

MCP, RCC
    • Online booking
Welcome! Do you come from a family with complex dynamics and feel like people don’t quite understand you? Have these experiences led to you being anxious, and struggling to trust yourself or others? My unique... Read more

Emily Thomsen

M.Couns., RCC
    • Online booking
I am a registered clinical counsellor providing individual and couples counselling in-person and virtually.  I hold a Masters Degree in Counselling Psychology, am a certified Art Therapist, Life Coach, and... Read more

Bonnie Zargari

M.A., CCC
    • Online booking
Bonnie Zargari is a Canadian Certified Clinical Counselor who sees clients in person, online or via telephone.  Her main clinical focus is working with adolescents and adults with depression, anxiety and/or... Read more

Linda Stull

Ph.D., R.Psych
Congratulations on making the decision to reach out to improve your life by enhancing your well-being.  Although reaching out can be difficult, making that decision is the first step towards changing your life in... Read more

Kathleen Cain

M.Couns., RCC
Life can be really hard sometimes, for a lot of different reasons. And sometimes, what makes it even harder, is feeling alone in it. This can make us feel confused, hurt, angry, anxious, depressed, isolated, overwhelmed... Read more

Teddy Chu

MC, RCC
Hello! I am the founder of WAVE Performance and Wellness offering individual clinical counselling, relationship counselling, and mental performance / sport psychology consulting services. My passion for... Read more