Marriage and/or Relationship Issues, Trauma Counselling Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Marriage and/or Relationship Issues, Trauma Counselling

Entering into a relationship means merging your life with another person, understanding his or her flaws, quirks and beliefs. With marriage rates declining and divorce statistics set at 50%, it is clear that people are increasingly challenged by marriage and relationship issues, and many lack effective ways to address them. So how can we bridge the gap to understanding our partners better and enjoying romantic bliss?

Many factors affect the interpersonal relationship between two partners who are a couple and sometimes it's hard to see the cause of conflict or friction in a relationship. While some people find divorce to be the best or only option, other people speak to counsellors and psychologists  in a bid to try salvage the relationship.

Signs that indicate a need for couples counselling include poor communication in a relationship, affairs, living past one another, inability to resolve marriage of couples' issues, and acting out negative feelings. When divorce seems like the only option, or if a couple is staying together for the kids' sake, that's a sure sign that therapy is needed.

Therapists do not necessarily  believe that all marriages can be salvaged, but counselling can often help even some of the most challenged relationships.  Through talk therapy, the couple will discover again why they fell in love and what they can do to get back to that place in their marriage. They use a range of effective, proven methods to help couples in any situation to restore intimacy and move past the hurt and wounds to a safe and comfortable place.

The concrete tools used by marriage therapists provide guidance in a supportive and encouraging setting and empower clients to restructure their thoughts and emotions. It helps the couple to work with each other, instead of on one another, helping each individual to find the person he or she is at the core level and to build a happy union.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who works with  couples you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Trauma counselling can assist with a wide range of internal emotional reactions to devastating situations. Some people experience things as more traumatic than others, and therefore they will need help in coping the emotional burdens of an event or situation.

Stressful events such as death of a loved one, rape, abuse, accidents, divorce, violence or bullying can leave people unable to cope or process the emotional burdens. However, it is not only events linked to the individual personally, but also being a witness to events that might leave a person with post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). This includes being a victim to violence or natural disasters - there is no limit to the causes of trauma.

In the case of PTSD, people can develop many different psychological reactions, as determined by their own coping skills, emotional stability and background. Symptoms of PTSD include a anger, depression, flashbacks, insomnia, nightmares, social withdrawal, loss of self esteem and confidence, and substance abuse.

It takes a strong person to have the courage to stand up and request trauma counselling. This is no time to compare yourself to other people in similar situations, but rather to recognize that everyone has a different reaction to trauma. Therefore, it is important to address the symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder as soon as possible to help you deal with emotions in a healthy way and to overcome the difficulties you are facing. Trauma counselling can help avert potentially more severe psychological disorders, that can occur if PTSD is left untreated.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who provides  trauma counselling to address your posttraumatic stress management issues you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) has helped couples and family members to treat distressed relationships, depression and a range of other emotional difficulties. It is one of the most common treatments used in private counselling and psychologist practices, training centres and hospital clinics around the world.

The main goal of Emotionally focused therapy is to create a secure bond between romantic partners and to reorganize and expand critical emotional responses. It helps to improve communication between partners, which is more beneficial to the relationship. EFT is a practical therapy that has been used successfully in relationships and marriages for many years, due to the fact that it creates a spirit of respect and harmony.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy generally only lasts between six to twenty sessions and has been shown effective in 90% of relationships.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, please browse our list of practitioners below..

Note:  Some practitioners practice Emotion Focused Therapy rather than Emotionally Focused therapy.  You will want to confirm that it is indeed Emotionally Focused Therapy that the counsellor/psychologist practices.

Note: You may narrow your search by selecting more than one filter below.

Jo-Anne Stoltz

Ph.D., RCC
I have a PhD in Counselling Psychology and am a BC Registered Clinical Counsellor. I work with individuals and couples, and over the last twenty years have worked with hundreds of clients and counsellor trainees at the... Read more

Lisa Moore

M.A., RCC
Transitions Counselling Centre's mission is to help people heal and grow through periods of transitions in their lives.  Many of us experience loss, grief, unhappiness or a sense of loss when we transition from... Read more

Morgan McKusick

M.A., RCC
I'm Morgan - Registered Clinical Counsellor and Certified Yoga Instructor. To me, one of the greatest trials and rewards in life is to feel at ease with who you are, how you experience the world and how... Read more

Babak Farzaneh

M.A., RCC
Babak brings genuine caring and compassion as he listens to the life stories of the children, adolescents, couples and families he works with. His non-judgmental, patient and open-minded attitude gives his clients the... Read more

Lorne Pierce

M.A., R.Psych
I have been in private practice since 1999 providing counselling services to individuals, couples and familes. I have over 20 years experience in the helping professions in both government (federal and provincial)... Read more

Christopher Cook

M.A., RCC
All of us have the innate drive to grow, heal, and realize our potential, living our fullest life. But we all, at one time or another, need support along the way. I am a queer therapist offering individual and... Read more

Rosalyn Best

M.Couns., RCC
Rosalyn Best, MoC, RCC #8656. Ros Best is passionate about counselling because she has so often witnessed its transformative power. She offers couples counselling, and counselling for life transitions, trauma, cancer... Read more

Kelly-Anne Breen

M.A., RCC
Kelly-Anne Breen is a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) who sees clients at offices in North Vancouver, and is available for “Walk & Talk” across the Lower Mainland. Kelly-Anne provides counselling... Read more

Whitney Regan

M.A., RCC
My passion for counselling comes out of a deep desire to walk alongside people as they courageously seek to better understand themselves, the relationships in their lives, and the challenges they face. As a therapist,... Read more

Barb Leigh

M.A., CCC
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  Feeling worried? Stressed? Anxious? Unmotivated? Troubled by relationship issues? Haunted by memories of past experiences which won't let you move to the rich, fulfilling life you deserve? Perhaps you have... Read more

Joy Schellenberg

M.A., RCC
Are you Tired of the Pain and Turmoil in Your life? It’s likely you’ve been struggling for a long time. You’re overwhelmed and you don’t know where to turn. It seems the same negative things... Read more

Susan Rungta

M.A., R.Psych
Susan is a registrant of the College of Psychologists of B.C. (CPBC # 1647). She has been helping individuals, couples, families, and groups for over 25 years. Susan works with a wide range of issues including stress... Read more

Stephen Barker

M.A., RCC
Stephen is a registered clinical counsellor with the BCACC and has a Master’s in Counselling Psychology. He has been practicing family therapy for 20 years, both in the non-profit sector and as a private... Read more

Fayza Bundalli

M.S.W., RSW
***ON MATERNITY LEAVE THROUGH SUMMER 2020***   Hi.  I'm Fayza. I am a Somatic Therapist and Registered Social Worker.  I support clients who are queer (or LGBTQ2S+), and clients who are... Read more

Cate Pelling

M.A., RCC
As a Registered Clinical Counsellor with a MA in Counselling Psychology, I have been working in private practice since 2003.  Previous to this, I worked for a number of years in clinical settings... Read more

Lillian Kelly

M.A., RCC
I see clients in So. Surrey, B.C.Frustrated? Unhappy with your relationship?Are you repeating painful patterns in your relationship, and in your life? I can help you create the changes that you long for! You can create... Read more

Carly Goodfellow

M.A., RCC
Are you struggling with your feelings day after day? Do you feel life is harder that it needs to be? Are you moving from one unsatisfying relationship after another? I have over 12 years experience as an empathic and... Read more

Jonathan Wieser

M.A., RCC
Jon is a Registered Clinical Counsellor and Marriage and Family Therapist holding a Master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Trinity Western University with a focus on evidence-based... Read more

Natalie Hansen

M.A., RCC
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Natalie Hansen, MA, Registered Clinical Counsellor Walking with you through life's challenges Natalie is a caring and competent Individual and Couples Therapist in Uptown New Westminster. Natalie knows... Read more

Kristen Dowling

Ph.D., R.Psych
  NOT CURRENTLY ACCEPTING NEW CLIENTS.  I am a Registered Psychologist with the College of Psychologists of BC. I use the effective and evidence-based method of Cognitive Behavioural ... Read more

Lisa Catallo

M.A., RCC
You feel alone.  Even though you might have a number of relationships, you aren't sure that anyone else truly gets you, what you've been through, and what you're facing right now.  I get that.... Read more

Fernanda Souza

Ph.D. (cand), RCC
Challenging events? Life changes? Overwhelmed? Stressed? Needing balance?  Struggling with anxiety, relationships, depression, grief, decisions, performance?  Looking forward to getting to where you want to be... Read more

Liz James

M.Ed., RCC
With offices in Burnaby and Sechelt, I am a registered clinical counsellor (BCACC), an experienced workshop facilitator, a passionate mental health advocate, and a dedicated lifelong learner. I have over 10 years... Read more

Tanya Elez

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Tanya Elez is a Registered Psychologist and a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist who sees clients at her office in New Westminster downtown. She offers counselling services to diverse couples,... Read more

Lisa Crossfield

M.Ed., RCC
I believe everyone has the ability to restore hope, strength, balance, joy, clarity, meaning and connection to live their best life. At certain points we may need help to recognize our strengths, to accept our... Read more

Sarajoy David

Ph.D., R.Psych
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The focus of my service is the teaching of emotional self-care skills.  I draw upon leading edge therapies in facilitating each person's journey to self-awareness, healing and empowerment. This self-exploration... Read more

Alex Abdel-Malek

M.S.W., RCC
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Hello! My practice is dedicated to helping you make transformational change in your life. The style I use is gentle, thought-provoking, and focused. I'm interested in more than helping you get through whatever... Read more

Carolyn Heppner

M.Ed., RCC
Carolyn Heppner, B.A., M.Ed., RCC Experience positive results much sooner than traditional therapy, through the use of modern techniques such as EMDR. I offer counselling and therapeutic services for individuals,... Read more

Melanie Huck

M.A., RCC
Melanie is a Registered Clinical Counsellor (#2136) and a member of the Adlerian Association of BC.  She has been a member of the BC Association of Clinical Counsellors since 2003.   She works with... Read more

Daphne Gelbart

M.A., RCC
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Daphne Gelbart, MA, RCC, is a Vancouver clinical counsellor registered with the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors (Registration # 3290). Daphne is a graduate of the University of British Columbia (UBC... Read more