Marriage and/or Relationship Issues, Trauma Counselling Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Marriage and/or Relationship Issues, Trauma Counselling

Entering into a relationship means merging your life with another person, understanding his or her flaws, quirks and beliefs. With marriage rates declining and divorce statistics set at 50%, it is clear that people are increasingly challenged by marriage and relationship issues, and many lack effective ways to address them. So how can we bridge the gap to understanding our partners better and enjoying romantic bliss?

Many factors affect the interpersonal relationship between two partners who are a couple and sometimes it's hard to see the cause of conflict or friction in a relationship. While some people find divorce to be the best or only option, other people speak to counsellors and psychologists  in a bid to try salvage the relationship.

Signs that indicate a need for couples counselling include poor communication in a relationship, affairs, living past one another, inability to resolve marriage of couples' issues, and acting out negative feelings. When divorce seems like the only option, or if a couple is staying together for the kids' sake, that's a sure sign that therapy is needed.

Therapists do not necessarily  believe that all marriages can be salvaged, but counselling can often help even some of the most challenged relationships.  Through talk therapy, the couple will discover again why they fell in love and what they can do to get back to that place in their marriage. They use a range of effective, proven methods to help couples in any situation to restore intimacy and move past the hurt and wounds to a safe and comfortable place.

The concrete tools used by marriage therapists provide guidance in a supportive and encouraging setting and empower clients to restructure their thoughts and emotions. It helps the couple to work with each other, instead of on one another, helping each individual to find the person he or she is at the core level and to build a happy union.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who works with  couples you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Trauma counselling can assist with a wide range of internal emotional reactions to devastating situations. Some people experience things as more traumatic than others, and therefore they will need help in coping the emotional burdens of an event or situation.

Stressful events such as death of a loved one, rape, abuse, accidents, divorce, violence or bullying can leave people unable to cope or process the emotional burdens. However, it is not only events linked to the individual personally, but also being a witness to events that might leave a person with post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). This includes being a victim to violence or natural disasters - there is no limit to the causes of trauma.

In the case of PTSD, people can develop many different psychological reactions, as determined by their own coping skills, emotional stability and background. Symptoms of PTSD include a anger, depression, flashbacks, insomnia, nightmares, social withdrawal, loss of self esteem and confidence, and substance abuse.

It takes a strong person to have the courage to stand up and request trauma counselling. This is no time to compare yourself to other people in similar situations, but rather to recognize that everyone has a different reaction to trauma. Therefore, it is important to address the symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder as soon as possible to help you deal with emotions in a healthy way and to overcome the difficulties you are facing. Trauma counselling can help avert potentially more severe psychological disorders, that can occur if PTSD is left untreated.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who provides  trauma counselling to address your posttraumatic stress management issues you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) has helped couples and family members to treat distressed relationships, depression and a range of other emotional difficulties. It is one of the most common treatments used in private counselling and psychologist practices, training centres and hospital clinics around the world.

The main goal of Emotionally focused therapy is to create a secure bond between romantic partners and to reorganize and expand critical emotional responses. It helps to improve communication between partners, which is more beneficial to the relationship. EFT is a practical therapy that has been used successfully in relationships and marriages for many years, due to the fact that it creates a spirit of respect and harmony.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy generally only lasts between six to twenty sessions and has been shown effective in 90% of relationships.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, please browse our list of practitioners below..

Note:  Some practitioners practice Emotion Focused Therapy rather than Emotionally Focused therapy.  You will want to confirm that it is indeed Emotionally Focused Therapy that the counsellor/psychologist practices.

Note: You may narrow your search by selecting more than one filter below.

Fayza Bundalli

M.S.W., RSW
***ON MATERNITY LEAVE THROUGH SUMMER 2020***   Hi.  I'm Fayza. I am a Somatic Therapist and Registered Social Worker.  I support clients who are queer (or LGBTQ2S+), and clients who are... Read more

Chelsea Stenner

M.A., RCC
A common misconception is that you need to hit "rock bottom" before you decide to seek counselling. There are numerous reasons why a person may choose to speak with a qualified professional; everything from... Read more

Lisa Crossfield

M.Ed., RCC
I believe everyone has the ability to restore hope, strength, balance, joy, clarity, meaning and connection to live their best life. At certain points we may need help to recognize our strengths, to accept our... Read more

Jonathan Wieser

M.A., RCC
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Jon is a Registered Clinical Counsellor and Marriage and Family Therapist holding a Master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Trinity Western University with a focus on evidence-based... Read more

Heather Gretton

Ph.D., R.Psych
My virtual office is open with Telepsychology/Video/Online Options during COVID-19.  Please contact me for more information about my general practice. Notice for Front Line Health Workers: If you are needing... Read more

Whitney Regan

M.A., RCC
My passion for counselling comes out of a deep desire to walk alongside people as they courageously seek to better understand themselves, the relationships in their lives, and the challenges they face. As a therapist,... Read more

Daryl Ternowski

Ph.D., R.Psych
    • Online booking
  I typically consult with adults and older adolescents who are successful in many ways, but feel unsatisfied with some aspect of their life. They choose to participate in therapy because they want to feel... Read more

Carolyn Heppner

M.Ed., RCC
Carolyn Heppner, B.A., M.Ed., RCC NOW OFFERING VIDEO COUNSELLING. Although many of the restrictions due to COVID-19 are easing, many clients are not comfortable with in-person counselling at this point. I am... Read more

Lizelle Badenhorst

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
I have a Masters Degree in Psychology and have worked as a therapist since 1995. I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor(RCC) with the BC Association for Clinical Counsellors. I have been working with anxiety,... Read more

Tanya Elez

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Tanya Elez is a Registered Psychologist and a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist who sees clients at her office in New Westminster downtown. She offers counselling services to diverse couples,... Read more

Eileen Peterson

M.S.W., RCSW
  NOTE: To provide support during COVID-19 precautions, all sessions are now virtual: video or by phone. Please call or email to book your appointment. Taking new clients. No matter how well we manage our... Read more

Eli Norman

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
I enjoy coming alongside my clients and helping them achieve personal growth, healing, and well-being. Facing problems alone can be overwhelming, whether it’s depression, anxiety, anger, mood swings, stress,... Read more

Babak Farzaneh

M.A., RCC
Babak brings genuine caring and compassion as he listens to the life stories of the children, adolescents, couples and families he works with. His non-judgmental, patient and open-minded attitude gives his clients the... Read more

Deborrah Dunne

Ph.D., RCC
The decision to go for counselling often arises in the face of crisis and overwhelm. It can also come about because we are tired of dragging our issues along with us through days, weeks, months and even years. My goal... Read more

Gayle Way

Ph.D., R.Psych
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Dr. Gayle Way is a registered psychologist and feminist therapist with over 25 years of clinical experience in providing consultation, psychotherapy and counselling to men, women and couples.  She sees clients for... Read more

Erin Seggie

M.C., RCC
I’m Erin Seggie, a registered clinical counsellor (RCC). I have a Masters of Counselling Psychology (MCP) from Adler University, and a Bachelors of Arts (BA) in Psychology from the University of the Fraser Valley... Read more

Leanne Cuddington

M.A., RCC
Leanne is a Registered Clinical Counsellor based in Kitsilano. She obtained her Master’s degree in Somatic Counselling Psychology from Naropa University, Colorado and she has specialized credentials in Body... Read more

Sarajoy David

Ph.D., R.Psych
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The focus of my service is the teaching of emotional self-care skills.  I draw upon leading edge therapies in facilitating each person's journey to self-awareness, healing and empowerment. This self-exploration... Read more

Daphne Gelbart

M.A., RCC
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Daphne Gelbart, MA, RCC, is a Vancouver clinical counsellor registered with the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors (Registration # 3290). Daphne is a graduate of the University of British Columbia (UBC... Read more

Carly Goodfellow

M.A., RCC
    • Online booking
*Due to the current health crisis I am pleased to offer online Videoconferencing and TeleHealth options for counselling and hypnotherapy appointments. As we all maneuver through this unprecedented... Read more

Liz James

M.Ed., RCC
I am a registered clinical counsellor (BCACC), an experienced workshop facilitator, a passionate mental health advocate, and a dedicated lifelong learner. I have over 10 years of combined education and work... Read more

Lorill Drummund

M.Ed., RCC
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I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor (#0921) working in BC since 1994 as a therapist, group facilitator, and instructor. My primary focus is working with couples to break through their ... Read more

Joy Schellenberg

M.A., RCC
Are you Tired of the Pain and Turmoil in Your life? It’s likely you’ve been struggling for a long time. You’re overwhelmed and you don’t know where to turn. It seems the same negative things... Read more

Janice Bell

M.S.W., RCC
Janice has had a private practice for 25 years, twenty of those in Nanaimo.Her office location provides comfort, confidentiality and convenience. Herschedule is structured to meet the needs of clients.Janice... Read more

Susan McConnell

M.S.W., RSW
I have been in private practice as a counsellor and psychotherapist for over 20 years. During that time I have had the privilege of being able to connect with people and help them achieve their personal goals, create... Read more

Stephen Barker

M.A., RCC
Stephen is a registered clinical counsellor with the BCACC and has a Master’s in Counselling Psychology. He has been practicing family therapy for 20 years, both in the non-profit sector and as a private... Read more

Paulo Matos

Ph.D., RCC
I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor with a combined 25 years education and experience in counselling. I have a doctorate (Ph.D.) in Counselling Psychology and master's degrees from Harvard University (Ed.M.) and... Read more

Heather Rennie

M.A.Sc., RCC
Life got you down? Feeling alone? Welcome to Leap of Faith Counselling Services. I am so glad that you are here. I offer affordable, professional counselling to individuals, couples, families and groups- regardless of... Read more

Fernanda Souza

Ph.D. (cand), RCC
Challenging events? Life changes? Overwhelmed? Stressed? Needing balance?  Struggling with anxiety, relationships, depression, grief, decisions, performance?  Looking forward to getting to where you want to be... Read more

Cate Pelling

M.A., RCC
As a Registered Clinical Counsellor with a MA in Counselling Psychology, I have been working in private practice since 2003.  Previous to this, I worked for a number of years in clinical settings... Read more