Divorce and/or Separation Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Divorce and/or Separation

Breaking the vow of "till death do us part" and getting divorced has been listed on the list of top things that people fear. The end of a marriage can indeed cause incredible confusion, sadness, grief, anger, guilt, fear, anxiety and shame. Not only does the end of a marriage affect a couple, but also the children.

Issues that can cause a marriage to fail include criticism, lack of respect, defensiveness, and aloofness, to name a few. Dealing with these issues might save a marriage. Mediation therapy can help couples even before a divorce, when the signs of marital disintegration starts to show. Couples therapy is an excellent tool at that point in a marriage to see whether saving the marriage is a viable option, and if it's not, it can help them find ways to reach settlements, move forward, and co-parent in a healthy and constructive way.

For children going through the divorce of their parents, therapy is critical. While parents are facing the realities of divorce and the emotional trauma, they often don't have the time or inclination to help their children deal with their sense of abandonment, pain, loss or guilt. Children may even feel that they are to blame for their parents' problems. Therapy can help children to come to terms with these issues and find strategies to move forward in a positive way.

In the case where couples counselling is not an option, a therapist can help the person who was left behind deal with the grief from the divorce. Therapy is aimed at empowering the individual to overcome grief and negative emotions and to move forward as a single person.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who addresses divorce issues you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) has helped couples and family members to treat distressed relationships, depression and a range of other emotional difficulties. It is one of the most common treatments used in private counselling and psychologist practices, training centres and hospital clinics around the world.

The main goal of Emotionally focused therapy is to create a secure bond between romantic partners and to reorganize and expand critical emotional responses. It helps to improve communication between partners, which is more beneficial to the relationship. EFT is a practical therapy that has been used successfully in relationships and marriages for many years, due to the fact that it creates a spirit of respect and harmony.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy generally only lasts between six to twenty sessions and has been shown effective in 90% of relationships.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, please browse our list of practitioners below..

Note:  Some practitioners practice Emotion Focused Therapy rather than Emotionally Focused therapy.  You will want to confirm that it is indeed Emotionally Focused Therapy that the counsellor/psychologist practices.

Note: You may narrow your search by selecting more than one filter below.

Melanie Huck

M.A., RCC
Melanie is a Registered Clinical Counsellor (#2136) and a member of the Adlerian Association of BC.  She has been a member of the BC Association of Clinical Counsellors since 2003.   She works with... Read more

Lizelle Badenhorst

M.A., RCC
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I have a Masters Degree in Psychology and have worked as a therapist since 1995. I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor(RCC) with the BC Association for Clinical Counsellors. I have been working with anxiety,... Read more

Peter Vaughan

M.A., RCC
Certified Gottman Method Therapist, Peter frequently addresses couples communication during conflict, restoring fidelity and commitment, or building intimacy and sexuality. Other common issues: ongoing incompatibilities... Read more

Erin Seggie

M.C., RCC
I’m Erin Seggie, a registered clinical counsellor (RCC). I have a Masters of Counselling Psychology (MCP) from Adler University, and a Bachelors of Arts (BA) in Psychology from the University of the Fraser Valley... Read more

Steven Lake

M.Ed., CCC
Dr. Lake has a PhD in Educational Administration. He has a personal interest in emotion and crisis management and created a Model Of Effective Crisis Management for his dissertation. His Master's degree is in... Read more

Barb Leigh

M.A., CCC
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I have a Masters degree in Counselling Psychology from the Adler School of Individual Psychology and am an accredited counsellor with the Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association. Feeling worried? Stressed... Read more

David Brown

M.S.W., RCSW
Most of us want to make changes and improvements in our life, yet we tend to rely on the same old approaches (or habits) despite our best intentions. My approach to counselling is to support people to experiment with... Read more

Paul Bains

M.A., RCC
Paul Bains, B.Sc., M.A., RCC is a Registered Clinical Counsellor. He has over 23 years experience working with couples, families, children, adolescents and individual adults. Benefits you may gain or learn by... Read more

Kelly-Anne Breen

M.A., RCC
Kelly-Anne Breen is a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) who sees clients at offices in North Vancouver, and is available for “Walk & Talk” across the Lower Mainland. Kelly-Anne provides counselling... Read more

Jan Sutherland

M.Sc., RMFT
Jan Sutherland is an experienced couples, marriage and family therapist with a well established practice in Kelowna, B.C. She provides relationship and marriage counselling to both singles and couples. In couples... Read more

Michal Regev

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Michal Regev is a Registered Psychologist and a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist. She has been counselling individuals, couples, and families since 1990, and has trained psychologists and counsellors in... Read more

Patrick Bensen

M.A., CCC
Patrick has a Master in Psychology and is originally coming from Norway. He has worked as a Clinician in Counselling Psychology or Psychotherapy for the Royal Social Service of Norway under the Ministry of Health and... Read more

Kaela Scott

M.Couns., RCC
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I am passionate and excited about the relationships people have with themselves and with others. As a Registered Clinical Counsellor (#3732) I work hard to help people get at the root of what is causing their painful... Read more

Tanya Elez

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Tanya Elez is a Registered Psychologist and a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist who sees clients at her office in New Westminster downtown. She offers counselling services to diverse couples,... Read more

Amber Louie

M.Sc., RCC
To assist you in reaching your goals, I support you to focus on developing your strengths. As an anti-oppression psychotherapist, I value your experiences based on culture, race, indigeneity, socioeconomic status,... Read more

Patricia Crowe

M.A., RCC
I am committed to helping individuals and couples in the discovery of their own strengths and truths as they heal, change, and deal with life’s difficulties in more meaningful and welcome ways. I create a warm... Read more

Mary Munro

M.C., RCC
I can help. I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor practicing in downtown Victoria.  Counselling can help you function better: to feel more effective, to give you insight, to help you meet challenges and live... Read more

Bea Mackay

Ph.D., R.Psych
For 28 years I have enjoyed working with individuals, couples and families. I believe in using methods that are grounded in theory and research. My goal is to help people help themselves. I view people as resourceful... Read more

Tim Clark

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Tim Clark is a Registered Psychologist with offices in Langley, North Vancouver and New Westminster. He received his Masters degree in counselling psychology from McGill University in 1980 and completed a Ph.D. in... Read more

Don Davies

Ph.D., RCC
 Dr. Don Davies has a Ph.D. from the University of Arizona in Counselling Psychology.  With over 35 years of experience as an individual, couples and group therapist, Don’s unique counselling style... Read more

Celine Brouillette

Ed.D., R.Psych
Thank you for visiting my website. As a registered psychologist, I’ve been practicing in Vancouver and North Vancouver for over 20 years, providing psychotherapy and psycho-educational assessments. I work with... Read more

Jo-Anne Stoltz

Ph.D., RCC
I have a PhD in Counselling Psychology and am a BC Registered Clinical Counsellor. I work with individuals and couples, and over the last twenty years have worked with hundreds of clients and counsellor trainees at the... Read more

Ellie Bolgar

Psy.D., RCC
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Dr. Bolgar has been practicing psychotherapy since 1998. She is also a professor at Adler University, teaching Masters of Counselling students. She has a Doctor of Psychology degree from Southern California University... Read more

Heather Bach

M.A., CCC
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For over 20 years, Heather Bach of Bach Counselling Group brings clinical expertise to working with those who wish to make a positive change in relationships, intimacy, depression, anxiety, trauma, grief, ADHD... Read more

Kim Boivin

M.Ed., RCC
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Are you struggling with anxiety? Are you experiencing difficulties in your relationships?  Are you hard on yourself?  I can help.  I offer a compassionate and grounded approach with ... Read more

Sharon Southey

M.A., RCC
Sharon Southey is a skilled professional with a nursing background, who has been counselling since 1992. She is careful about her private practice and likes to work with individuals who are teenage or adult, families of... Read more

Mary Gillis

M.A., RCC
Mary Gillis is a registered clinical counsellor who sees clients at her Vancouver office, located West Broadway, near Yew St. Mary brings years of experience to her therapy practice. She... Read more

Sophie McEntee

MFT, RCC
I have a combined fifteen years of training and clinical experience working with individuals and couples. Clients come to me usually when they are feeling stuck, overwhelmed or at a crossroad. My clients are often... Read more

Stephen Barker

M.A., RCC
Stephen is a registered clinical counsellor with the BCACC and has a Master’s in Counselling Psychology. He has been practicing family therapy for 20 years, both in the non-profit sector and as a private... Read more

Peter M Williamson PhD

Ph.D., R.Psych
Dr. Peter Williamson is one of only 7 officially Certified Gottman Method Couples Therapists in the province of B.C. (at time of this writing - 9/2017). Although extensively trained and with 25+ years of expertise... Read more