Addiction - Internet, Intimacy Issues Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Addiction - Internet, Intimacy Issues

Internet Addiction is a very real and  debilitating condition which is affecting more people every day. While the internet helps improve productivity by allowing us to get things done more quickly, internet addiction can have drastic effects when it interferes with day-to-day activities, work and relationships with family and friends. The first sign of internet addiction is usually the fact that you are more comfortable with your online friends than those people who are physically close to you, or when you are compulsively checking your social media accounts, or playing games online.

Internet addiction often includes co-occurring impulse-control conditions, including cybersex and/or relationship addiction, and internet gambling addiction. Addiction to offline games forms part of computer addiction, which falls under the same spectrum of disorders.

Symptoms of IAD (internet addiction disorder) don't only affect relationships and interfere with daily life and relationships, If you are addicted to the internet or computer, you may experience sudden weight loss or weight gain, and sleep disturbances.

Therapists and addiction counsellors can use cognitive-behavioral therapy to help you to balance out your internet use and put an end to compulsive behaviors. They will help you to find healthier coping mechanisms to deal with depression, stress and anxiety.  Marriage counseling can help your partner to deal with the effects of cybersex and help you as a couple to reconnect and fulfill your social and emotional needs.

If you need a counsellor or psychologist to help you address the effects of internet addiction, you can scroll down the page to find a professional with the approach best suited to your situation.

Intimacy issues are common for people who fear vulnerability. Some people can become vulnerable in front of a few trusted friends, however, but when a relationship starts becoming too close, they feel suffocated. In this sense, the intimacy issues are seated in the fear of developing a deep and meaningful relationship with another person.

Two fears that are at the heart of intimacy issues, are the fear of abandonment (fearing the partner might leave them) and the fear of engulfment (fearing that they would lose themselves in a relationship), which sometimes co-exist. These fears, often rooted in childhood traumas, are often deeply entrenched in codependent adult relationships where they cause friction.

A therapist who works with people who have intimacy issues will first help you to learn to become comfortable with yourself and accept yourself for who you are. You will explore the complex past events that have created these intimacy issues and discover that those events don't have to cloud your present experiences.

This process is essential in discovering that rejection does not have to be a traumatic experience. Finally, you will learn how to set personal boundaries that will help you to avoid the fear of engulfment and to cope, should abandonment occur. While healing intimacy issues can be a challenging and somewhat painful task, the rewards are incredible.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who addresses intimacy issues, you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) has helped couples and family members to treat distressed relationships, depression and a range of other emotional difficulties. It is one of the most common treatments used in private counselling and psychologist practices, training centres and hospital clinics around the world.

The main goal of Emotionally focused therapy is to create a secure bond between romantic partners and to reorganize and expand critical emotional responses. It helps to improve communication between partners, which is more beneficial to the relationship. EFT is a practical therapy that has been used successfully in relationships and marriages for many years, due to the fact that it creates a spirit of respect and harmony.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy generally only lasts between six to twenty sessions and has been shown effective in 90% of relationships.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, please browse our list of practitioners below..

Note:  Some practitioners practice Emotion Focused Therapy rather than Emotionally Focused therapy.  You will want to confirm that it is indeed Emotionally Focused Therapy that the counsellor/psychologist practices.

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Lyne Piche

Ph.D., R.Psych
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Dr. Lyne Piché is a Registered Psychologist working in South Surre, BC. Her services are offered in both French and English. She has many years experience working with people who have sexual difficulties, sexual... Read more