Marriage and/or Relationship Issues, Trauma Counselling EMDR

Marriage and/or Relationship Issues, Trauma Counselling

Entering into a relationship means merging your life with another person, understanding his or her flaws, quirks and beliefs. With marriage rates declining and divorce statistics set at 50%, it is clear that people are increasingly challenged by marriage and relationship issues, and many lack effective ways to address them. So how can we bridge the gap to understanding our partners better and enjoying romantic bliss?

Many factors affect the interpersonal relationship between two partners who are a couple and sometimes it's hard to see the cause of conflict or friction in a relationship. While some people find divorce to be the best or only option, other people speak to counsellors and psychologists  in a bid to try salvage the relationship.

Signs that indicate a need for couples counselling include poor communication in a relationship, affairs, living past one another, inability to resolve marriage of couples' issues, and acting out negative feelings. When divorce seems like the only option, or if a couple is staying together for the kids' sake, that's a sure sign that therapy is needed.

Therapists do not necessarily  believe that all marriages can be salvaged, but counselling can often help even some of the most challenged relationships.  Through talk therapy, the couple will discover again why they fell in love and what they can do to get back to that place in their marriage. They use a range of effective, proven methods to help couples in any situation to restore intimacy and move past the hurt and wounds to a safe and comfortable place.

The concrete tools used by marriage therapists provide guidance in a supportive and encouraging setting and empower clients to restructure their thoughts and emotions. It helps the couple to work with each other, instead of on one another, helping each individual to find the person he or she is at the core level and to build a happy union.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who works with  couples you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Trauma counselling can assist with a wide range of internal emotional reactions to devastating situations. Some people experience things as more traumatic than others, and therefore they will need help in coping the emotional burdens of an event or situation.

Stressful events such as death of a loved one, rape, abuse, accidents, divorce, violence or bullying can leave people unable to cope or process the emotional burdens. However, it is not only events linked to the individual personally, but also being a witness to events that might leave a person with post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). This includes being a victim to violence or natural disasters - there is no limit to the causes of trauma.

In the case of PTSD, people can develop many different psychological reactions, as determined by their own coping skills, emotional stability and background. Symptoms of PTSD include a anger, depression, flashbacks, insomnia, nightmares, social withdrawal, loss of self esteem and confidence, and substance abuse.

It takes a strong person to have the courage to stand up and request trauma counselling. This is no time to compare yourself to other people in similar situations, but rather to recognize that everyone has a different reaction to trauma. Therefore, it is important to address the symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder as soon as possible to help you deal with emotions in a healthy way and to overcome the difficulties you are facing. Trauma counselling can help avert potentially more severe psychological disorders, that can occur if PTSD is left untreated.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who provides  trauma counselling to address your posttraumatic stress management issues you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

EMDR

EMDR, also known as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy uses a range of processes to address the full clinical situation. Dual stimulation is one of the key elements and the therapist will use tools such as bilateral eye movements, taps or tones.

Reprocessing involves the client momentarily attending to triggers, past memories or anticipated future events, all the while focusing on the supplied external stimulus. Normally, the client will experience memory changes, new associations and insights. EMDR has been found to be incredibly useful for processing past and present trauma that can continue to impact an individual in many ways.

There are eight phases to EMDR treatment and the therapist will devise a treatment plan during the first phase, and equip the client with the necessary coping skills in the second phase. Phases 3-6 cover the actual EMDR treatment, described above. Phase 7 is about closure, while phase eight is all about re-evaluation of the process.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers EMDR Therapy, please browse our list of practitioners below..

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Carolyn Heppner

M.Ed., RCC
Carolyn Heppner, B.A., M.Ed., RCC Experience positive results much sooner than traditional therapy, through the use of modern techniques such as EMDR. I offer counselling and therapeutic services for individuals,... Read more

Lida Izadi

M.A., RCC
I am a bi-lingual and bi-cultural clinical counsellor, mental health clinician, and university instructor with extensive experience and remarkable results. My broad range of professional qualifications has enabled me to... Read more

Maureen McEvoy

M.A., RCC
Maureen McEvoy, MA, RCC has been in private practice for more than 20 years. She works with individuals, couples and groups. Maureen uses Imago Relationship Therapy in her work with couples. As an Imago therapist,... Read more

Jessica Cooper

M.A., RCC
Are you looking to feel less stressed, anxious or depressed? Would you like to feel happier, more empowered and motivated, and more in control of your life?  Jessica can help you. Jessica Cooper, MA, RCC... Read more

Megan Pinfield

Ph.D., RCC
I have been registered with BCACC, as a registered clinical counsellor,  for over 15 years. I provide individual counselling for a variety of issues and concerns including anxiety, mood issues, grief &... Read more

Lori McHattie

M.A., RCC
Hello and welcome - I hope that you find this information helpful as you make your decision about seeking counselling. I completed my MA in Counselling Psychology at Simon Fraser University and have more than... Read more

Diana Romer

M.Ed., RCC
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Diana has a Master's Degree in Counselling Psychology from UBC and is a Registered Clinical Counsellor. She has over 20 years experience working with adults and adolescents as a social worker, educator, and... Read more

Paula Bude

M.Ed., RCC
Paula Bude (MEd., C.C.C., R.C.C., C.Hyp.) is asking you to consider: "what if this imperfect moment is the gateway into everything I want?".  Therapy with Paula is an invitation to deepen... Read more

S Lorraine McAteer

M.A., RCC
Lorraine McAteer has dual accreditations as a Registered Clinical Counsellor and Certified Canadian Counsellor. She has 12 years Post-Secondary Education in Medical and Psychological Sciences, was awarded an MA in... Read more

Jonathan Wieser

M.A., RCC
Jon is a Registered Clinical Counsellor and Marriage and Family Therapist holding a Master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Trinity Western University with a focus on evidence-based... Read more

Mary Khashabi

Ph.D., RCC
Mary has a Ph.D. in Psychology and a doctorate in Natural Science ( Human Biology) from medical school. She is a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC), a Canadian Certified Counsellor (CCC), and a Certified Trauma... Read more

Gerry Bock

M.A., RCC
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Gerry Bock earned his Masters degree in 1990. He has been practicing as a Registered Clinical Counsellor for over 20 years (since 1991). As part of this counselling network, you will have access to the expertise and... Read more

Liz James

M.Ed., RCC
I am a registered clinical counsellor (BCACC), an experienced workshop facilitator, a passionate mental health advocate, and a dedicated lifelong learner. I have over 10 years of combined education and work... Read more

Heidi Sheehan

M.A., RCC
With over 20 years of experience providing therapy to couples and to individuals of all ages, including children, teens, and adults, Heidi has an intuitive and sensitive counselling style that ensures most people... Read more

Leanne Cuddington

M.A., RCC
Leanne is a Registered Clinical Counsellor based in Kitsilano. She obtained her Master’s degree in Somatic Counselling Psychology from Naropa University, Colorado and she has specialized credentials in Body... Read more

Laurissa Kowalchuk

M.Ed., RCC
Our work together will allow us to explore both your internal and external experiences to shed the light of awareness on what may be contributing to the places that feel stuck and confusing, as well as those that... Read more

Brenda Adams

M.D., RCC
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Brenda Adams is a Registered Clinical Counsellor who sees clients at her office in Duncan. Her main interests in counselling are working with people who have experienced violence and abuse or grief and loss. She... Read more

Joy Schellenberg

M.A., RCC
Are you Tired of the Pain and Turmoil in Your life? It’s likely you’ve been struggling for a long time. You’re overwhelmed and you don’t know where to turn. It seems the same negative things... Read more

Lorill Drummund

M.Ed., RCC
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I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor (#0921) working in BC since 1994 as a therapist, group facilitator, and instructor. My primary focus is working with couples to break through their ... Read more

Richard Somerset

M.A., RCC
How you doing ?  Does shame ride shotgun in your life? Do you wish your life had more purpose? Are your relationships unfulfilling? Do you wish you could change? I focus my work on helping men... Read more

Fernanda Souza

Ph.D. (cand), RCC
Challenging events? Life changes? Overwhelmed? Stressed? Needing balance?  Struggling with anxiety, relationships, depression, grief, decisions, performance?  Looking forward to getting to where you want to be... Read more

Donna Vidas

M.A., RCC
Some issues I regularly work with in therapy include: Overcoming recent or life-long patterns that may be interfering with your enjoyment of life depression and mood challenges anxiety and worry grief (loss... Read more

Sara Kammerzell

M.Ed., RCC
For over twenty years, Sara has helped people grow through turbulent times in their lives so that they can reclaim their full vitality and live the life they were born to live.  She strives to connect with... Read more

Deborrah Dunne

Ph.D., RCC
The decision to go for counselling often arises in the face of crisis and overwhelm. It can also come about because we are tired of dragging our issues along with us through days, weeks, months and even years. My goal... Read more

Christian Monks

M.A., RCC
Does your mind race, are you up in your head a lot, or do you lack motivation and struggle to realize your goals? Have you found success in your career or in the family but find life unsatisfying. Do you find you are... Read more

Jaminie Hilton

M.A., RCC
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My approach is compassionate with individuals - adults and adolescents; couples; and parent-child communication, including parenting after separation. I provide a safe therapeutic environment in which you are... Read more
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One of my clients said that prior to coming to counselling she'd feared that the experience of therapy would be "like turning the room completely upside down." She instead found it to be "like finally... Read more

Jesse Schellenberg

M.A., RCC
Jesse believes that each person has the ability to grow and change. He approaches counselling from a collaborative, empathic and supportive, client-centered basis, using a holistic biopsychosocial model. Jesse believes... Read more

Rosalyn Best

M.Couns., RCC
Rosalyn Best, MoC, RCC #8656. Ros Best is passionate about counselling because she has so often witnessed its transformative power. She offers couples counselling, and counselling for life transitions, trauma, cancer... Read more

Kate Blassnitz

M.S.W., RCC
"Life is so perfect, it doesn't always go our way."  It's the times when life doesn't go our way, or when habits have controlled our life one too many times, or that relationship is... Read more