Marriage and/or Relationship Issues EMDR

Marriage and/or Relationship Issues

Entering into a relationship means merging your life with another person, understanding his or her flaws, quirks and beliefs. With marriage rates declining and divorce statistics set at 50%, it is clear that people are increasingly challenged by marriage and relationship issues, and many lack effective ways to address them. So how can we bridge the gap to understanding our partners better and enjoying romantic bliss?

Many factors affect the interpersonal relationship between two partners who are a couple and sometimes it's hard to see the cause of conflict or friction in a relationship. While some people find divorce to be the best or only option, other people speak to counsellors and psychologists  in a bid to try salvage the relationship.

Signs that indicate a need for couples counselling include poor communication in a relationship, affairs, living past one another, inability to resolve marriage of couples' issues, and acting out negative feelings. When divorce seems like the only option, or if a couple is staying together for the kids' sake, that's a sure sign that therapy is needed.

Therapists do not necessarily  believe that all marriages can be salvaged, but counselling can often help even some of the most challenged relationships.  Through talk therapy, the couple will discover again why they fell in love and what they can do to get back to that place in their marriage. They use a range of effective, proven methods to help couples in any situation to restore intimacy and move past the hurt and wounds to a safe and comfortable place.

The concrete tools used by marriage therapists provide guidance in a supportive and encouraging setting and empower clients to restructure their thoughts and emotions. It helps the couple to work with each other, instead of on one another, helping each individual to find the person he or she is at the core level and to build a happy union.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who works with  couples you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

EMDR, Traumatic Incident Reduction (TIR)

EMDR, also known as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy uses a range of processes to address the full clinical situation. Dual stimulation is one of the key elements and the therapist will use tools such as bilateral eye movements, taps or tones.

Reprocessing involves the client momentarily attending to triggers, past memories or anticipated future events, all the while focusing on the supplied external stimulus. Normally, the client will experience memory changes, new associations and insights. EMDR has been found to be incredibly useful for processing past and present trauma that can continue to impact an individual in many ways.

There are eight phases to EMDR treatment and the therapist will devise a treatment plan during the first phase, and equip the client with the necessary coping skills in the second phase. Phases 3-6 cover the actual EMDR treatment, described above. Phase 7 is about closure, while phase eight is all about re-evaluation of the process.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers EMDR Therapy, please browse our list of practitioners below..

Traumatic Incident Reduction (TIR) is a short term therapy for people of all ages who have been exposed to violent crimes, natural disasters, abuse, war, traumatic bereavement or other emotionally disturbing events. TIR is specifically aimed at resolving the symptoms of a range of shock induced conditions, including PTSD, anxiety and depression.

Traumatic Incident Reduction (TIR) integrates the emotional and cognitive memory. While some sessions generally last 90-120 minutes, it may be necessary for the client to attend repeated sessions to reduce residual distress. Traumatic Incident Reduction (TIR) is an effective and highly recommended therapy for people who have been exposed to distressing events or situations.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers Traumatic Incident Reduction (TIR), please browse our list of practitioners below..

Anita Thandi

M.A., RCC
Anita is a Registered Clinical Counsellor (#2262) with experience working with families, couples and individuals. Anita has worked as a therapist and group facilitator for over eighteen years, dealing with such diverse... Read more