Marriage and/or Relationship Issues Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)

Marriage and/or Relationship Issues

Entering into a relationship means merging your life with another person, understanding his or her flaws, quirks and beliefs. With marriage rates declining and divorce statistics set at 50%, it is clear that people are increasingly challenged by marriage and relationship issues, and many lack effective ways to address them. So how can we bridge the gap to understanding our partners better and enjoying romantic bliss?

Many factors affect the interpersonal relationship between two partners who are a couple and sometimes it's hard to see the cause of conflict or friction in a relationship. While some people find divorce to be the best or only option, other people speak to counsellors and psychologists  in a bid to try salvage the relationship.

Signs that indicate a need for couples counselling include poor communication in a relationship, affairs, living past one another, inability to resolve marriage of couples' issues, and acting out negative feelings. When divorce seems like the only option, or if a couple is staying together for the kids' sake, that's a sure sign that therapy is needed.

Therapists do not necessarily  believe that all marriages can be salvaged, but counselling can often help even some of the most challenged relationships.  Through talk therapy, the couple will discover again why they fell in love and what they can do to get back to that place in their marriage. They use a range of effective, proven methods to help couples in any situation to restore intimacy and move past the hurt and wounds to a safe and comfortable place.

The concrete tools used by marriage therapists provide guidance in a supportive and encouraging setting and empower clients to restructure their thoughts and emotions. It helps the couple to work with each other, instead of on one another, helping each individual to find the person he or she is at the core level and to build a happy union.

If you are looking for a counsellor or psychologist who works with  couples you may want to search the directory to find a professional whose approach will suit you best.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), EMDR

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a psychological approach that deals with the way in which clients think about themselves, other people and the world. The outside world affects how we think and feel about ourselves and as a result, our behaviour. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy can help a person to change the way they think about thoughts and feelings, but it is not like other types of talk therapy.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy focuses on current issues and challenges that affect the client right now. It doesn't consider the past issues that caused distress, but rather looks for solutions that can improve the client's state of mind in the moment. Much of CBT involves looking at thought distortions that can affect mood and are affected by mood, and helps client examine and challenge distorted thinking patters.

CBT can help a range of problems, from OCD, PTSD, bulimia, stress, phobias and other issues that might seem overwhelming to the client, by breaking them down into smaller, more manageable chunks.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, please browse our list of practitioners below..

EMDR, also known as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy uses a range of processes to address the full clinical situation. Dual stimulation is one of the key elements and the therapist will use tools such as bilateral eye movements, taps or tones.

Reprocessing involves the client momentarily attending to triggers, past memories or anticipated future events, all the while focusing on the supplied external stimulus. Normally, the client will experience memory changes, new associations and insights. EMDR has been found to be incredibly useful for processing past and present trauma that can continue to impact an individual in many ways.

There are eight phases to EMDR treatment and the therapist will devise a treatment plan during the first phase, and equip the client with the necessary coping skills in the second phase. Phases 3-6 cover the actual EMDR treatment, described above. Phase 7 is about closure, while phase eight is all about re-evaluation of the process.

If you are looking for a therapist who offers EMDR Therapy, please browse our list of practitioners below..

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Mary Khashabi

Ph.D., RCC
Mary has a Ph.D. in Psychology and a doctorate in Natural Science ( Human Biology) from medical school. She is a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC), a Canadian Certified Counsellor (CCC), and a Certified Trauma... Read more

Tania Zulkoskey

M.S.W., RCSW
Tania counsels individuals, children and couples on issues such as:     * relationship dynamics     * communication issues     * parenting and multiples  ... Read more

Carolyn Heppner

M.Ed., RCC
Carolyn Heppner, B.A., M.Ed., RCC Experience positive results much sooner than traditional therapy, through the use of modern techniques such as EMDR. I offer counselling and therapeutic services for individuals,... Read more

Patrick Myers

Ph.D., R.Psych
  Is life pushing you too hard? Do you feel like you can't keep up? Do you worry too much? Is your mind always racing? Do you find you no longer enjoy doing the things you once did? Do you... Read more

Kate Blassnitz

M.S.W., RCC
"Life is so perfect, it doesn't always go our way."  It's the times when life doesn't go our way, or when habits have controlled our life one too many times, or that relationship is... Read more

Corrina Arnold

M.C., RCC
Corrina believes that healing growth and change happen in the context of relationship. Therefore, choosing the right counselor to guide you through your personal work is a critical aspect of the therapeutic process.... Read more

Debbie Day

M.A., RCC
Debbie Day has a Masters Degree in Counseling Psychology from the Adler School of Professional Psychology. Debbie is a Registered Clinical counselor (1519) with BC Association of Clinical Counselors. She has... Read more

Morgan McKusick

M.A., RCC
I'm Morgan - Registered Clinical Counsellor and Certified Yoga Instructor. To me, one of the greatest trials and rewards in life is to feel at ease with who you are, how you experience the world and how... Read more

Jessica Cooper

M.A., RCC
Are you looking to feel less stressed, anxious or depressed? Would you like to feel happier, more empowered and motivated, and more in control of your life?  Jessica can help you. Jessica Cooper, MA, RCC... Read more

Lyne Piche

Ph.D., R.Psych
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Dr. Lyne Piché is a Registered Psychologist working in Abbotsford, BC. Her services are offered in both French and English. She has many years experience working with people who have sexual difficulties, sexual... Read more

Geoffrey Carr

Ph.D., R.Psych
My waitlist is usually about 6 months long, but please check drgeoffreycarr.com for a more accurate estimate.  Dr. Carr (Ph.D., McGill, 1985) is a Registered Psychologist (#953) who offers psychotherapy for... Read more

Bonnie Hall

M.Couns., RCC
Bonnie Hall has a Master’s of Counselling degree, and is a Registered Clinical Counsellor with a private practice in Richmond, BC. Bonnie offers counselling services for people who are feeling frustrated in... Read more

Melanie Johannson

M.S.W., RCC
I am a Registered Social Worker and a Registered Clinical Counsellor.  I have a Master's degree in Social Work.  I practice out of a Burnaby office and a Surrey office. I have been a therapist since... Read more

Peter Silin

M.S.W., RSW
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I  have been bringing  warmth and compassion to my counselling with individuals and couples since 1980.  I believe the key to effective therapy begins with  building safe relationships where  my... Read more

Bonnie Mason

M.A., RCC
Bonnie Mason and Associates currently has six  associates providing services to White Rock and South Surrey, Melanie Huck, Tia Noble,  Sherri Calder, Leanne Fessler, Eva Pedersen and Teal Maedel... Read more
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One of my clients said that prior to coming to counselling she'd feared that the experience of therapy would be "like turning the room completely upside down." She instead found it to be "like finally... Read more

Amber Louie

M.Sc., RCC
To assist you in reaching your goals, I support you to focus on developing your strengths. As an anti-oppression psychotherapist, I value your experiences based on culture, race, indigeneity, socioeconomic status,... Read more

Steven Lake

M.Ed., CCC
Dr. Lake has a PhD in Educational Administration. He has a personal interest in emotion and crisis management and created a Model Of Effective Crisis Management for his dissertation. His Master's degree is in... Read more

Paula Bude

M.Ed., RCC
Paula Bude (MEd., C.C.C., R.C.C., C.Hyp.) is asking you to consider: "what if this imperfect moment is the gateway into everything I want?".  Therapy with Paula is an invitation to deepen... Read more

Paul James

Ed.D., R.Psych
Although the adults whom I assist come with a wide range of presenting problems - such as sexual dysfunctions, mental health issues, relationship distress, and addictions, the underlying problem is that all are... Read more

Donna Vidas

M.A., RCC
Some issues I regularly work with in therapy include: Overcoming recent or life-long patterns that may be interfering with your enjoyment of life depression and mood challenges anxiety and worry grief (loss... Read more

Joy Schellenberg

M.A., RCC
Are you Tired of the Pain and Turmoil in Your life? It’s likely you’ve been struggling for a long time. You’re overwhelmed and you don’t know where to turn. It seems the same negative things... Read more

Lida Izadi

M.A., RCC
I am a bi-lingual and bi-cultural clinical counsellor, mental health clinician, and university instructor with extensive experience and remarkable results. My broad range of professional qualifications has enabled me to... Read more

Anita Thandi

M.A., RCC
Anita is a Registered Clinical Counsellor (#2262) with experience working with families, couples and individuals. Anita has worked as a therapist and group facilitator for over eighteen years, dealing with such diverse... Read more

Gerry Bock

M.A., RCC
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Gerry Bock earned his Masters degree in 1990. He has been practicing as a Registered Clinical Counsellor for over 20 years (since 1991). As part of this counselling network, you will have access to the expertise and... Read more

Lori McHattie

M.A., RCC
Hello and welcome - I hope that you find this information helpful as you make your decision about seeking counselling. I completed my MA in Counselling Psychology at Simon Fraser University and have more than... Read more

Meagan Maddocks

M.Couns., RCC
Meagan is a registered clinical counsellor who has an expertise in working with clients who live with chronic diseases in Vancouver BC, near Oak & Broadway. Balancing life’s stressors and joys can be a... Read more

Jonathan Wieser

M.A., RCC
Jon is a Registered Clinical Counsellor and Marriage and Family Therapist holding a Master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Trinity Western University with a focus on evidence-based... Read more

Elizabeth Anderson

M.S.W., RSW
Elizabeth Anderson has a Master of Social Work, is a Registered Social Worker with the BCCSW, and is a qualified Coach, recognized by the International Coaching Federation (ICF). Elizabeth has over 18 years... Read more

Heidi Sheehan

M.A., RCC
With over 20 years of experience providing therapy to couples and to individuals of all ages, including children, teens, and adults, Heidi has an intuitive and sensitive counselling style that ensures most people... Read more