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Show me Happiness!

March 29th, 2016

I regularly hear from people that they desire to have more happiness. An understandable desire! But if someone is experiencing flatness the next step isn’t to feel happy, it’s to feel. And rarely (although I can’t say never) do I hear someone say, “Can you help me to feel more sadness, more anger, more fear?” along with their request for more happiness. Also understandable! We all have a history that has shaped our relationship to emotion. Often that history hasn’t included healthy models for how to be with feeling and how to express feeling.

How Do I Know If I've Been Traumatized

March 6th, 2016

What is Trauma? Trauma is a significant, upsetting experience or event. If you can’t identify one single event that could have had a huge effect on you, know that trauma can also result from ongoing similar experiences or events. Signs that you’ve been traumatized can vary from typical symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder, to a vague sense that your feelings of fear or anger seem exaggerated. Something to ask yourself is, does your level of fear or anger seem larger, more dramatic than seems appropriate to the situation.

Creating a Life You Like

February 27th, 2016

I like my life. It's hard sometimes. I'm in the stage of my life where I am parenting two young kids. But I've created a life that contains the things that I value most:

A Simple Way to Break a Bad Habit - Ted Talk

February 25th, 2016

Responding to compulsive behaviour through mindfulness and observation

I'm Traumatized. How do I heal?

January 31st, 2016
In: Trauma

  You've been through something horrifying. You try to forget it but you are struggling. You avoid things that remind you of it. But it keeps coming back. The quiet moments are the hardest.     So you stay busy. You wish for rest. You hope for sleep.  But you can't let your guard down.

How to Avoid Relationship Blow Ups - Part 2

January 4th, 2016

Arguments can escalate pretty quickly in romantic relationships, as many couples know. In part 1 of this blog post I discuss being aware of when your arousal level is increasing past the point that you can have a productive discussion. Couples who are experts on themselves and each other understand how to set up their discussions for success, rather than failure.

Navigating the Holidays

December 19th, 2015

Navigating the Holiday Season The lights, decorations, music and media at this time of year flood some people with pictures of everyone but them having a joyful holiday season. Many people come to see me who aren’t looking forward to family functions, or loneliness, the pressure of giving presents to others who might not like the gifts, the extra temptation for those who are watching their weight or battling addiction.

A Gentle Path to Change is . . .

September 28th, 2015

A Gentle Path To Change is Accept Where You Are and who you are. Do you look for your strengths? Or only criticize your “faults”? “Look and you will find it - what is unsought will go undetected.” Sophocles

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