How do I stop feeling so ANGRY all the time?

Anger is a signal to us that we need to pay attention. It's like pain. Without it, we may not notice we have an injury. The presence of anger is telling us we should stop and assess otherwise we may continue to get hurt or we may hurt someone else. The anger may be due to a variety of reasons: It may be that our boundaries are being pushed. Or that our arousal/activation level is too high from too much stress to our system. Your anger is valid and there is a real reason for it. However, it is up to us to use it in a constructive way.

Is there hope for me?

When you’ve been struggling with anxiety or depression for awhile it can be hard to feel that there is any hope for things to change. Added to how stuck you might be feeling is the constant reinforcement in our culture of the idea of a quick fix. It's the "Here, just do this one thing and you will feel better indefinitely" kind of attitude. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all about people getting relief as quickly as possible. It’s just that this kind of attitude can be a setup when what is needed is patience, time, and realistic, achievable goals.

How to Survive after being Sexually Assaulted (Whether or Not You Report)

"I believe Jennifer*. I believe Jennifer. I believe Jennifer." Those were the words that came out of the judge's mouth. Tears sprang to my eyes. I was in a court room as a support person, and was with a young woman who had very reluctantly testified about being sexually assaulted. The words uttered by the judge were so powerful. And as we have come to learn, so rare in a court of law.

Show me Happiness!

I regularly hear from people that they desire to have more happiness. An understandable desire! But if someone is experiencing flatness the next step isn’t to feel happy, it’s to feel. And rarely (although I can’t say never) do I hear someone say, “Can you help me to feel more sadness, more anger, more fear?” along with their request for more happiness. Also understandable! We all have a history that has shaped our relationship to emotion. Often that history hasn’t included healthy models for how to be with feeling and how to express feeling.

How Do I Know If I've Been Traumatized

What is Trauma? Trauma is a significant, upsetting experience or event. If you can’t identify one single event that could have had a huge effect on you, know that trauma can also result from ongoing similar experiences or events. Signs that you’ve been traumatized can vary from typical symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder, to a vague sense that your feelings of fear or anger seem exaggerated. Something to ask yourself is, does your level of fear or anger seem larger, more dramatic than seems appropriate to the situation.

How to Avoid Relationship Blow Ups - Part 2

Arguments can escalate pretty quickly in romantic relationships, as many couples know. In part 1 of this blog post I discuss being aware of when your arousal level is increasing past the point that you can have a productive discussion. Couples who are experts on themselves and each other understand how to set up their discussions for success, rather than failure.

Navigating the Holidays

Navigating the Holiday Season The lights, decorations, music and media at this time of year flood some people with pictures of everyone but them having a joyful holiday season. Many people come to see me who aren’t looking forward to family functions, or loneliness, the pressure of giving presents to others who might not like the gifts, the extra temptation for those who are watching their weight or battling addiction.

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